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Why do we sometimes keep choosing partners who hurt us? In this episode, Carrie and David explore how the nervous system is wired to gravitate toward what feels familiar—even when it isn’t healthy. They unpack how early attachment wounds and the body’s longing for closure can unconsciously pull us back into similar relationship dynamics.
Together they explain why this pattern isn’t a character flaw, but a nervous system adaptation, and how healing begins when we build self-trust, grieve old ruptures, and learn to recognize true safety instead of mistaking intensity for connection.
Connect with Carrie:
📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
🌿 Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle
✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching
💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay
By Carrie Holladay5
1515 ratings
Why do we sometimes keep choosing partners who hurt us? In this episode, Carrie and David explore how the nervous system is wired to gravitate toward what feels familiar—even when it isn’t healthy. They unpack how early attachment wounds and the body’s longing for closure can unconsciously pull us back into similar relationship dynamics.
Together they explain why this pattern isn’t a character flaw, but a nervous system adaptation, and how healing begins when we build self-trust, grieve old ruptures, and learn to recognize true safety instead of mistaking intensity for connection.
Connect with Carrie:
📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean
🌿 Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle
✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching
💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus
🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety
🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8
👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!
🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

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