In this episode, we’re talking about the painful experience of feeling like you’ve lost yourself after betrayal. We explore how betrayal trauma impacts the nervous system, why survival mode can disconnect you from your own identity, and how healing often begins through small moments of reconnecting with your preferences, needs, and inner voice. If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even feel like me anymore,” this conversation is meant to remind you that you are not broken… and that your way back to yourself is possible. 

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 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this powerful conversation, Carrie sits down with trauma psychotherapist and betrayal navigation coach KayLee Dunn to explore the deeper wounds betrayal creates beyond just the initial trauma. Together, they unpack how betrayal impacts identity, self-trust, reality, attachment, and agency… and why so many people feel “regulated but still lost” long after the crisis phase has passed. KayLee shares both personal and professional insight from nearly two decades in the betrayal trauma field, offering language, validation, and hope for those trying to reconnect with themselves after betrayal. This episode is a compassionate, deeply validating conversation about healing, meaning-making, and finding your way back to who you are.

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 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, Carrie and David break down why so many relationship conflicts—especially after betrayal—feel like they go nowhere and leave both partners more hurt. Drawing from the Gottmans’ Fight Right, they explain how conflict itself isn’t the problem… it’s how we handle it that determines whether it builds connection or creates more damage.

They unpack what happens in the body during an argument, including “flooding”… when the nervous system goes into survival mode and real communication becomes impossible. They also explore the difference between solvable and perpetual problems, why most relationship conflicts never fully “go away,” and how trying to win those arguments often keeps couples stuck.

This episode offers practical, compassionate guidance on recognizing your own triggers, taking effective pauses, and learning to approach conflict with more awareness and intention… so you can stop fighting against each other and start understanding what’s really underneath.

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 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

A gentle, guided somatic practice focused on healing your relationship with yourself after betrayal. This episode helps you move out of self-judgment and into compassion through simple, body-based awareness… creating small moments of connection, kindness, and internal safety that begin to rebuild self-trust from the inside out.

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 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.

When the discovery is fresh, the most common question is the simplest one: where do I even begin? In this What You're Wondering episode, Carrie and David answer that question with honesty and compassion — covering how to find the right support, why professional help needs to be betrayal-trauma-specific, how to start working with the body instead of against it, and why your job right now is safety, not trust. David also speaks directly to the betrayer: what not to do in those early days, why speed and grand gestures don't work, and what presence and radical honesty actually look like.

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 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

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In this episode, Carrie sits down with relationship coach Drew Daniels to explore the anxious… avoidant dynamic and what’s really happening beneath avoidant behaviors. Drew shares his personal journey of recognizing his own fearful-avoidant patterns in marriage and the transformation that led him to help other couples understand and heal these cycles. Together, they unpack the fears, shame, and insecurity that often drive avoidance, and why these patterns can leave partners feeling confused, disconnected, and stuck.

Carrie and Drew also discuss how real healing happens when both partners develop greater awareness of their own patterns, learn to tolerate conflict, and practice vulnerability instead of protection. This conversation offers powerful insight for anyone navigating anxious-avoidant dynamics, reminding listeners that change is possible… but it happens slowly, through honesty, compassion, and the courage to show up differently.

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 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, Carrie and David explore what actually makes an apology meaningful after betrayal. While many couples believe that saying “I’m sorry” should be enough, they unpack why apologies often fall short and why some even deepen the hurt. Using the framework of the Five A’s of an Apology, they walk through what true repair requires and why rebuilding trust is a process, not a moment.

Drawing from their own relationship and their work with couples healing from betrayal trauma, Carrie and David discuss the difference between regret and repair, the role of accountability, and why consistent behavioral change is what ultimately restores safety. This conversation offers clarity for both the betrayed partner and the partner seeking to make things right, helping you understand why your pain makes sense and what genuine repair can actually look like.

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 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this Revisited episode, we bring back one of our earlier conversations by combining Episode 5 Part 1 and Part 2 into a single episode. Carrie and David walk through the most common mistakes couples make when trying to rebuild a relationship after betrayal.

Drawing from both their personal journey and professional experience, they share why real repair takes time, honesty, accountability, and steady change. If you’re navigating healing after betrayal, this episode offers perspective on what truly helps rebuild trust… and what can unintentionally keep couples stuck.

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 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

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In this Somatic Safety Session, Carrie guides listeners through a gentle practice designed to help release stored tension in the body after betrayal trauma. She explains how trauma often leaves protective patterns of tightness in places like the jaw, shoulders, breath, and belly, and introduces slow micro-movements and vagus nerve support as simple ways to help the body unwind. Through a guided tension scan, small releasing movements, and calming breath and humming exercises, listeners are invited to reconnect with their body and create a little more space, softness, and safety in their nervous system.

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 Why do we sometimes keep choosing partners who hurt us? In this episode, Carrie and David explore how the nervous system is wired to gravitate toward what feels familiar—even when it isn’t healthy. They unpack how early attachment wounds and the body’s longing for closure can unconsciously pull us back into similar relationship dynamics.

Together they explain why this pattern isn’t a character flaw, but a nervous system adaptation, and how healing begins when we build self-trust, grieve old ruptures, and learn to recognize true safety instead of mistaking intensity for connection.

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 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay