It’s our job to teach our kids how to act, so it’s incredibly frustrating when we give them directions and they disrespect us, negotiate with us, or melt down when we set a boundary. And even when we’ve tried all of the tricks in the book, their behavior doesn’t seem to change in the long run. But instead of focusing on “making them” or “getting them” to change their behavior, we can actually reduce their resistance to begin with… so they have more long-term motivation to do what they’re