When we think about the holidays, some of us imagine spending time with family and friends and making fun memories. Others think about the fact that our kids are going to be out of school, and they’ll spend that time whining, fighting, and complaining about each other... while we spend our time acting like a referee! It seems that the more we try to help our kids work through their issues, the more they whine about the unfairness of things. But when we address what’s causing the fighting to begin with, conflict simply doesn’t happen as often... and we can experience more of those memories we hope for.