The Best of You

Episode 17: What is Church Hurt and How do I Heal?


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Today’s podcast episode is all about church hurt. A church is a family—at its best it’s a place to learn about God, a place to heal, and a place to give & receive in community. But just like any family, when leadership turns toxic the results are devastating. You have so many questions for me about the pain that comes at the hands of a church family. I enter into today’s episode with a spirit of reverence and a prayer for all who have been hurt in this way.

1. What is church hurt? 

2. The problem with the term church hurt 

3. Why anyone with power (pastors, leaders, parents, and yes, even therapists!) hold great responsibility 

4. Examples of church hurt 

5. 3 Red Flags for toxic church cultures 

6. The problem with groupthink 

7. How do I heal from church hurt?

Key Point: 

God doesn't force, control, or manipulate you. God meets you where you are tenderly, and He wants to restore the goodness in your life that was taken away from you by an abusive leader.

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Find a list of resources and the full transcript for this episode here

Music by Andy Luiten 

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik


While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

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