In this deeply relatable episode, the Food Shrinks— tackle one of recovery’s most persistent companions: the belief that we are not enough… or sometimes too much. From early childhood conditioning to nervous system dysregulation, the trio explores how these painful stories take root, how they drive people-pleasing and perfectionism, and why they so often lead us to use food for comfort or control.

With honesty and compassion, they unpack their own journeys through shame, codependency, and recovery — offering tools to recognize when the “not enough” voice shows up, how to regulate through it, and how to begin standing in the truth of our inherent worth.

What We Talk About • The “not enough / too much” paradox — and how both can exist at once • Why dysregulation and shame keep these stories alive • The role of ADHD, rejection sensitivity, and trauma in feeling unworthy • Early family messages that shaped how we seek validation • The long game of recovery: time, patience, and radical self-focus • How to practice compassion and curiosity instead of judgment

Key Takeaways • Feeling not enough or too much isn’t a personal flaw — it’s often a trauma echo. • Awareness is the first step: notice when and where the story appears. • Shame is not fact; it’s a state — and it softens through compassion. • You are not alone. Every person in recovery wrestles with these feelings. • Standing in your truth means choosing yourself again and again — with time, patience, and love.

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