Does your child's behavior sometimes trigger such an instant, overwhelming reaction that you find yourself yelling before you even realize what happened?

 

That moment when your jaw clenches, your shoulders tense, and suddenly you're saying things you wish you could take back? You're experiencing what millions of parents face daily - a nervous system response that happens faster than conscious thought.

 

This episode reveals the science behind why willpower alone isn't enough to stop yelling, and introduces you to specific, learnable skills that can transform how you respond to your child's most challenging moments.

 

You'll discover what's actually happening in your body during those triggered moments, why suppressing your anger isn't the answer, and how your emotional responses are teaching your child crucial lessons about handling life's difficulties.

 

Most importantly, you'll learn practical techniques that work in real parenting situations - not theoretical advice that falls apart when your preschooler has a meltdown in the grocery store.

 

This summary episode makes all the research from several much longer episodes available for time-strapped parents.  If you want to learn more, these episodes will help:

 

Questions this episode will answer

Emotional regulation is monitoring, evaluating, and modifying emotional reactions to accomplish your parenting goals. Parents struggle because stress triggers happen faster than rational thought.

 

Your sympathetic nervous system floods your body with stress hormones before your rational brain registers what's happening, making yelling an automatic response.

 

Simple grounding techniques like conscious breathing, body awareness, and reappraisal strategies that work with your nervous system instead of against it.  When you use these techniques makes all the difference.

 

Learn to acknowledge your emotions while using grounding techniques to create space between your automatic reaction and your chosen response.

 

Yes, children learn emotional regulation by watching how you handle intense moments. Your responses teach them whether emotions are safe or dangerous.

 

Practice recognizing your body's early warning signals and use quick techniques like one conscious breath or muscle awareness throughout the day.  This will help your body to learn the skills when the stakes are lower, so they’ll be more accessible in the difficult moments.

 

What you'll learn in this episode

You'll discover the biological reason why "just stay calm" doesn't work and why your body reacts to parenting stress the same way it responds to actual danger.

 

Learn to identify your personal early warning signals and how to use them as valuable information rather than problems to ignore.

 

Master simple grounding techniques that take seconds, not minutes, including the power of one conscious breath and how touching different textures can bring you back to the present moment.

 

You'll understand the difference between emotional suppression (which actually increases stress for both you and your child) and healthy emotional acknowledgment that models resilience.

 

Explore the concept of reappraisal and discover how assuming positive intent can completely change your response.

 

Learn why your strongest reactions often connect to your own childhood experiences and how recognizing these patterns can help you respond to what's actually happening right now.

 

Finally, understand how your emotional regulation directly impacts your child's developing nervous system and why the work you do on yourself becomes one of the most powerful parenting tools you have.

 

If you want to:

😟 Be triggered less often by your child’s behavior,

😐 React from a place of compassion and empathy instead of anger and frustration,

😊 Respond to your child from a place that’s aligned with your values rather than reacting in the heat of the moment,

 

the Taming Your Triggers workshop will help you make this shift.

 

Join us to transform conflict into connection and reclaim peace in your parenting journey.

 

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01:43 Introduction to today’s episode

04:21 What is emotion regulation?

05:16 Parenting triggers are situations that activate our stress response based on our own past experiences

06:31 The first step in developing more effective responses is learning to recognize your body's early warning signals

07:48 When you notice the early warning signs, this is where we can use what researchers call grounding techniques. Strategies that can bring your nervous system back into balance using tools like breathing, movement, or touch

13:07 Children learn about their own emotional responses in three main ways

16:16 When our children's actions spark intense reactions in us, we're usually responding to old wounds rather than what's happening in the moment

17:19 Other ways to practice emotion regulation in daily life

18:32 Wrapping up