Family Therapy Express

Welcome back for the next journey of The Family Express Podcast with Kathryn de Bruin and Ronda Evans. Listen along today as our guest Berenice Leon-Fonseca from San Diego, California shares her experience in working with families going through high conflict divorce cases using a family systems perspective. Our conversation focuses on the process in the initial stage of assessment and alliance building. All Aboard !

1:32 Berenice tells us the path she took to get to this destination.

5:19 Parental buy-in starts with a therapist who believes that the co-parenting relationship needs to be the focus.

6:14 Building a co-parenting relationship starts with the intake call.

7:20 The miracle question in the intake call

11:50 In the intake call, building alliance in these families means emphasizing to the parents that they have a voice with you as the family therapist

16:04 The first session is a parent-only session

20:00 To guide the treatment plan, Berenice will follow a court order including how much to involve a parent or whether or not to reach out to a parent

23:00 Getting access to the family system will be slower and the conceptualization will be slower, but it will get the family farther and faster.

23:50 Berenice tells us about a real life experience in which slowing down and leaning in to a parents’ experience can reveal so much about a family’s struggle including the negative cycle

32:35 Berenice talks about how therapists can equip themselves including facing our own fears and getting support and hope from leaning on others.

Thank you for listening! 

Kathryn is an ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer. Kathryn and Ronda are both licensed marriage and family therapists, EFT supervisors and therapists, and AAMFT Approved Supervisors.

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Phone: 619-361-1168

Address: 3511 Camino del Rio, S, Ste. 500 San Diego, CA 92108 

Website: heartandhometherapy.com

Welcome back for the next journey of The Family Express Podcast with Kathryn de Bruin and Ronda Evans where our destination is resilient and connected families. This episode’s adventure takes us to the diverse experience of neurodivergence. Our guest today is Kat Austin, LPC, LAC, LMFT from Boulder, Colorado, USA. All Aboard !

2:40 Kat opens with the vulnerability that it is to be a parent, and that parental shame gets evoked.

4:14 Kat describes the anecdote for shame.

7:15 How shame can show up in a neurotypical parent and a neurodiverse parent.

9:58 Exploring the loss, the discovery of differences in brains, and psychoeducation and how making the implicit explicit for the whole family system (parents, siblings, grandparents, and more) can be helpful and organizing.

11:58 The family is learning together in real-time. Help the family adopt the reframe of discovery and experimentation

13:37 Families are getting stuck around difficulty with emotional regulation. Parents need to have their own strong emotional regulation skills. The goal is for the “most responsivity” to stay online.

14:46 Parents can get blocked by grief.

15:11 Families can struggle around organizational and structural needs such as sequencing, hyperfocus and time blindness.

19:00 Recommendations, resources and referrals for families.

22:50 How can we help families when they don’t know or recognize that neurodivergence is showing up in the family? 

28:15 Kat discusses the philosophical question of labeling or diagnosing, or not.

29:40 Being diagnosed or treated for ADHD can lower risk of depression, anxiety, and substance use and can improve self-identity and self-worth.

32:20 Advocate for your family, especially in the school system.

Thank you for listening! 

Kathryn is an ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer. Kathryn and Ronda are both licensed marriage and family therapists, EFT supervisors and therapists, and AAMFT Approved Supervisors.

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Welcome back for the next journey of The Family Express Podcast with Kathryn de Bruin, LMFT and Ronda Evans, LMFT where our destination is resilient and connected families. Join us for a conversation about the changes in families and family therapy in Egypt with our guest Eman Onsy. She is the current director and co-founder of the Egypt Emotionally Focused Therapy Community and is a Certified EFT therapist.

All Aboard !

2:15    ICEEFT will formally introduce EFFT to Egypt in January 2024. 

Our own Kathryn de Bruin will provide this training!

3:59    EFFT is culturally appropriate for Egyptian families.

8:15    Eman reframes parental buy-in to changes in stigma about therapy,

and to improved accessibility to trained helping professionals

15:52   How has the parenting landscape changed in Egypt

18:28    “Raise your kids not for your generation, but for the coming generations” - an Islamic quote

20:12    Ronda and Kathryn summarize Eman’s perspective of how Egyptian counselors are helping families make these shifts: by tapping into the built-in magic of attachment and that every parent wants to feel like a successful parent

Thank you for listening! 

Kathryn is an ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer. Kathryn and Ronda are both licensed marriage and family therapists, Certified EFT Supervisors and and AAMFT Approved Supervisors.

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Welcome back for the next journey of The Family Express Podcast with Kathryn de Bruin, LMFT and Ronda Evans, LMFT. This episode adventure is all about finding the herd, and the safety that comes with being connected to one's herd. Our guest today is Dr. Ryan Rana, LMFT, LPC, Ph.D. of Arkansas. All Aboard !

Dr. Ryan Rana describes the significance of the felt sense of safety and connection for survival, and how losing one's herd is a threat to that safety. As Dr Ryan says, “outside of the herd, the body won’t down-regulate.” By contrast, when someone feels connected to their herd, “they can down-regulate stress and this leads to resilience.” This is exactly what The Family Express podcast is all about: destination connection and resilience.  All Aboard !

4:12 Human behavior, driven by survival instincts, seeks to define relationships for connection.

5:13 Addressing students' mental health means addressing social connections.

7:09 Cultural challenges make it difficult to recognize systemic factors affecting children's behavior which makes effective intervention difficult.

14:03 To establish trust, Ryan focuses on building a personal connection with parents before delving into parenting techniques.

20:48 Ryan encourages giving parents space to express frustrations without the child present.

25:19 Ryan points out that establishing trust with adults takes time, whereas kids, lacking strong protective barriers, often build trust more quickly.

27:14 As a foster parent with both biological and non-biological children, Ryan acknowledges inherent vulnerabilities and attachment needs.

28:31 Finding a supportive community impacts brain function, aiding stress regulation and fostering resilience in individuals.

30:27 Ryan adds that creating supportive connections is crucial for adults too; even small social interactions positively impact emotional health.

Thank you for listening!

Kathryn an ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer. Kathryn and Ronda are licensed marriage and family therapists, Certified EFT Supervisors and Therapists, and they are both AAMFT Approved Supervisors.

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Welcome back to The Family Express podcast where we embark on a journey of resilience and connection. Tune in today for our very first guest, the incredible Liliana Baylon! Liliana is an immigrant from Mexico with over thirty years of experience working with Latino families in Colorado. We delve into her extensive work and research with immigrants, refugees, and undocumented children.

All Aboard!

Liliana offers an insightful glimpse into the challenges faced by Latino immigrants. She shares her personal experiences, and the misconceptions, and the harmful stereotypes surrounding Latino families. The breadth of her work emphasizes the importance of cultural understanding. She sheds light on the impact of social services on minority families and the socioeconomic challenges that are often experienced, and she addresses language barriers, immigration status, and the need for sensitivity in therapy sessions. We are so grateful for Liliana's dedication and passion.

0:27 We are so excited to welcome our very first guest, Liliana Baylon!

0:59 Liliana shares a little bit about herself and her work.

2:56 Immigrant children, arriving with parents, face challenges due to undocumented status.

8:06  Parents often fear their children adopting conflicting behaviors.

9:30  Liliana reflects on how parents express grief for what they left, and concern for cultural identity.

11:54  Liliana emphasizes the need for organized adjustments for kids, balancing survival and family values.

20:20  Social Services is frequently involved with racial minorities due to cultural misunderstandings and language barriers in mental health sessions.

22:22 Liliana addresses socioeconomic challenges, resource access, immigration status, and acculturation stress faced by minorities in therapy.

28:04 Liliana encourages cultural attunement by encouraging us to slow down, and and to embrace diversity in language, traditions, and backgrounds.

29:11 As an attachment therapist, Liliana emphasizes adapting models for diverse populations, and incorporating play therapy for children.

Thank you for listening!

Kathryn and Ronda are both licensed marriage and family therapists. Kathryn is an ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor and Therapist. Ronda is an ICEEFT Certified Supervisor and Therapist. They are both AAMFT Approved Supervisors.

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Welcome aboard The Family Express podcast, where resilience and connection are our destination! Join your hosts Kathryn de Bruin and Ronda Evans, on a journey through the landscape of emotionally focused family therapy (EFFT).

Together with our guest speakers, we will explore EFFT including lessons learned, shared fears, and the passion that bonds our community. We are so thrilled to embark on this exciting project we've been brewing in the background. As therapists with diverse backgrounds, we'll be delving into the intricacies of family dynamics.

In this our first episode, we introduce ourselves and share our unique paths to family therapy. Kathryn, a South African and American therapist, specializes in working with couples and families with young children. Meanwhile, Ronda, a transplant from California to Washington state, has come full circle in her career, rediscovering her passion for working with the whole family system.

0:27 Welcome and All Aboard !

1:06 Kathryn tells us a little bit about herself.

1:31 We learn a little bit about Ronda.

2:26 How did Kathryn end up working with children even though it wasn’t her original plan?

3:41 EFT (emotionally focused family therapy) focuses on making parents accessible, responsive, and engaged by addressing emotional blocks through support

6:22 Kathryn describes that focusing on children's needs alone in therapy may overlook understanding and supporting caregivers effectively.

8:14 Transforming parents' emotional accessibility through therapy unlocks skills for broader relationships and multiple children.

9:51 Learn more about the EFT model.

12:01 Kathryn describes that buy-in for family therapy begins with the intake call.

14:25 Shifting focus to parental buy-in is important but difficult and we run the risk of losing families without it.

15:18 Some families may struggle to comprehend children's varied emotional responses, including withdrawal, anger, or anxiety.

24:30 Kathryn closes by encouraging therapists and parents to embrace the transformative power of family therapy, which can lead to effective and rapid change.

Kathryn and Ronda are both licensed marriage and family therapists. Kathryn is an ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor and Therapist. Ronda is an ICEEFT Certified Supervisor and Therapist. They are also both AAMFT Approved Supervisors.

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