How can you navigate dating multiple people before becoming exclusive with someone? Ali & Roark talk through the logistics and emotions of that early-dating phase. Topics include, how to tell someone you’re still open to dating others (and whether you have to), running into someone you’re dating while on another date, and how to manage your attachment. Before that, Ali reveals she is invested in a new guy, and Roark has been sick.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 22:20

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It’s another Grab Bag episode as Ali & Roark are joined by Shaun Galanos aka @thelovedrive to answer all sorts of questions about direct communication and vulnerability. This is the longest episode yet because the three have way too much fun laughing, commiserating, and agreeing with each other. Questions answered include: how to say “I love you” first, how to slowly bring down your walls, and how to set your standard and live with the person’s reaction even if it’s not what you wanted, and lots more! In this week's updates, Ali has a big reveal about the Threepeat which Roark asks incessant questions about. Timestamps: Shaun joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk, which begins at around 22:45 Here are all the ways to find Shaun! His website: https://www.shaungalanos.com/; TikTok & Instagram: @thelovedrive If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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Ali & Roark are joined by special guest Kirstie Taylor this week to dive more deeply into attachment theory and answer listener questions. Kirstie, a dating and relationship writer who authored the book What I Wish I Knew About Love, drops about 83 insightful bombs this episode as the three women discuss their own attachment journey, and answer questions about anxious-avoidant couples, how to move towards being more secure, and many more! In the updates portion, Roark is dealing with the Classmate’s social double-booking, and in a weird or nah and update crossover, Ali reveals a conundrum she’s had with the Threepeat and gets Kirstie’s advice on the matter.

Timestamps: Kirstie joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 24:45

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After being asked many times to discuss this topic, Ali & Roark are finally talking about attachment styles. This is the first of two dedicated episodes on the topic. This week, they define each attachment style, discuss where their styles came from, and share a few anecdotes about navigating dating through an attachment-style lens. Also, they take an attachment quiz and analyze their results – you can take it too at: https://dianepooleheller.com/attachment-test/. In the updates portion of the podcast, Ali talks about how she’s feeling after another fun date with Threepeat, and Roark drops the L-Bomb!

Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 30:40

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How much in common do you have to have with the person you’re dating? Do opposites attract, or do birds of a feather flock together? Ali & Roark discuss a HuffPost article “8 Things You *Don’t* Need To Have In Common With Your Future Spouse” and answer a few listener questions as they parse through what important commonalities are, and which ones matter less. As always, they share their personal updates first. Ali had a very promising fist date, which included a controversial gift (at least Roark thinks so), and Roark’s mom meets the Classmate! Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 32:20 This episode starts out with a preview of our Patreon episode. There, you’ll hear us get a little deeper about what we’re going through, and you’ll get our personal updates much earlier and more in real time. Join us at www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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We hope you’re ready to go steady with this podcast, but whether you are or aren’t, Ali & Roark are here to talk all about defining the relationship (the DTR talk). After being asked this question a whole bunch, they finally break down the concept of what it means to be “exclusive.” Also, they discuss how to initiate a DTR and how to handle it if it doesn’t go your way. In the personal updates arena, Ali talks about her France trip and introduces a man from her past who recently made a reappearance, and Roark and the Classmate hit a relationship milestone: the first time someone gets sick. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 22:45 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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It’s the social media sequel! This time around, Ali & Roark talk about how to navigate social media pitfalls while in a relationship and after a break-up. For example, how to handle a partner who refuses to post photos of you. When (if ever) to delete photos of your now ex. And whether you should block your ex. Before addressing these questions, and many more, Ali talks about BEING IN FRANCE (yes, we all are very jealous) and Roark talks about balancing her new job with her relationship.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 23:00

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This week, Ali & Roark tackle how social media affects early dating. Is it weird if someone doesn’t have social media? How do you handle someone asking for your social media handle before you’ve gone on even one date? And once you’re ready, do you need to discuss posting your new partner on the grid? First, Ali gives an update on the Aussie and shares about the latest potential matchmaker date while Roark complains about how tired she is.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 23:00

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It’s another Grab Bag week where Ali & Roark take your questions submitted to @findingmrheight on Instagram. This round, topics include: how to move forward after a break up, dating in a new city, and setting boundaries in a new relationship. Before they answer questions, Roark discusses communicating her needs within her relationship and Ali fends off TikTok trolls regarding a text interaction with The Aussie.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 27:30

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It is another jam-packed episode this week where Ali & Roark dissect how to build the most right-swipeable (yes, that is a word now) dating app profile. They go over Ali's philosophy for which photos to use and debate the merits of various prompts on Hinge and Bumble. Listen to this episode with your profile open and see if you can upgrade yours! But first, Ali reveals a big decision regarding a current dating prospect and Roark discusses how she did in fact have to deal with Trivia. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 22:45. Want to learn more about dating app strategy? Tune into Ali's live two-part dating app webinar on Wednesday, September 15th. Part 1: The Profile. Part 2: The Messages. More info at findingmrheight.com/workshops If you'd like to hear personal updates before everyone else, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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