Don’t we all want to raise problem-solvers? Today we are recasting one of our most popular episodes in which we break down specific steps that parents can put into practice. 

We must give our kids the practice of creating solutions and not fixing things for them. This episode also wraps up the third of a previously-released three-part series on the principal skills that children need for a strong foundation in mental health (along with flexibility and autonomy). We encourage you to check out these other popular episodes (Season 4, Episode 4 & Season 4, Episode 5; available at flusterclux.com). 

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Positive connection is the goal, but is there such a thing as too connected? Yup, and it’s called enmeshment. In this episode, Lynn and Robin talk privacy, autonomy, and boundaries. If your goal is to be “best friends” with your child, have a listen. 

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We want our teens to be able to talk openly about their struggles, but in this listener question, a mom struggles with her daughter’s ability to manage a peer’s demand for accommodation. When anxiety becomes identity, what’s an empathic but worn-out friend to do?

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In this episode Lynn answers listener questions for families dealing with OCD patterns in their kids, including when and if to start medication in addition to therapy, how to handle compulsive apologizing, and the key to applying the overall anxiety management strategies we discuss in a consistent way. 

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Get $1.39 per meal by going to EveryPlate.com/podcast and entering code FLUSTER139. 

Now’s the time to try Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started on eco-friendly laundry detergent sheets.

Go to LuvBuglearning.com and sign up for a 7-day free trial, or simply download from the APP store and subscribe.

Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.

Love your sleep! Get $25 off a deluxe bamboo sheet set from Ettitudes at ettitude.com/flusterclux

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Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.

Planning a family vacation in 2023? Flusterclux co-host, Robin Hutson, publishes Luxe Recess, a family travel magazine with honest reviews written for parents by parents. Check out our lists of the best family resorts in Mexico, Hawaii resorts, and best cruises for teens.

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

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When things don’t go the way we plan or hope, powerful feelings show up. Disappointment is common, and the smaller you are, the bigger it feels. How do we help our children learn to manage this emotion as they mature? In this episode, we talk about intercepting the most challenging (and annoying) disappointment reactions, like blaming, whining and sulking, and what to model instead.

Lynn's fourth book focuses on adults and their anxiety.

Buy your copy of The Anxiety Audit: Seven Sneaky Ways Anxiety Takes Hold and How to Escape Them now.

COMING SOON:

Join Lynn and Robin for a special Anxiety Audit Book Club With Q&A where we will go through the book together!

“Once in a while a book comes along that instantly changes the way you think and act for the better. The Anxiety Audit joins this club. I challenge you to put it down and not move through your day differently. Buy this book—it will guide you along the journey to being the person in relationships, and inside yourself, that you are hoping to become.” 

—Rachel Simmons, bestselling author of Odd Girl Out and Enough As She Is 



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Planning a family vacation in 2023? Flusterclux co-host, Robin Hutson, publishes Luxe Recess, a family travel magazine with honest reviews written for parents by parents. Check out our lists of the best family resorts in Mexico, Hawaii resorts, and best cruises for teens.

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The recent ABC-TV show The Parent Test has sparked much discussion, so Robin and Lynn (skeptically) decided to dive in. In each episode, parents with different “styles” of parenting are given challenges to complete with their children, and then other parents sit in judgment. What did we think? Was it awful? Exploitative? Or surprisingly enjoyable?

Lynn's fourth book focuses on adults and their anxiety.

Buy your copy of The Anxiety Audit: Seven Sneaky Ways Anxiety Takes Hold and How to Escape Them now.

COMING SOON:

Join Lynn and Robin for a special Anxiety Audit Book Club With Q&A where we will go through the book together!

“Once in a while a book comes along that instantly changes the way you think and act for the better. The Anxiety Audit joins this club. I challenge you to put it down and not move through your day differently. Buy this book—it will guide you along the journey to being the person in relationships, and inside yourself, that you are hoping to become.” 

—Rachel Simmons, bestselling author of Odd Girl Out and Enough As She Is 



Join Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order and a $60 dollar gift while helping a family in need! thriveMarket.com/flusterclux.

Get $1.39 per meal by going to EveryPlate.com/podcast and entering code FLUSTER139. 

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Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.

Love your sleep! Get $25 off a deluxe bamboo sheet set from Ettitudes at ettitude.com/flusterclux

BÉIS is offering our listeners 15% off your first purchase by visiting BEISTRAVEL.com/FLUSTER for their luggage, totes, and new diaper bags.

Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.

Start Ritual today and visit ritual.com/fluster and add Essential for Women 18+ to your vitamin subscription today.

Planning a family vacation in 2023? Flusterclux co-host, Robin Hutson, publishes Luxe Recess, a family travel magazine with honest reviews written for parents by parents. Check out our lists of the best family dude ranches, Hawaii resorts, and best cruises for teens.

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

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We asked our podcast listeners to share embarrassing stories and, boy, did they deliver. Humiliating moments happen to everyone, but as you’ll notice with the stories we share, often feel so much more devastating to tweens and teens. Avoiding embarrassment isn’t possible, but helping your kids get through it with empathy and humor is.

Lynn's fourth book focus on adults and their anxiety.

Buy your copy of The Anxiety Audit: Seven Sneaky Ways Anxiety Takes Hold and How to Escape Them now.

COMING SOON:

Join Lynn and Robin for a special Anxiety Audit Book Club With Q&A where we will go through the book together!

“Once in a while a book comes along that instantly changes the way you think and act for the better. The Anxiety Audit joins this club. I challenge you to put it down and not move through your day differently. Buy this book—it will guide you along the journey to being the person in relationships, and inside yourself, that you are hoping to become.” 

—Rachel Simmons, bestselling author of Odd Girl Out and Enough As She Is 



Join Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order and a $60 dollar gift while helping a family in need! thriveMarket.com/flusterclux.

Get $1.39 per meal by going to EveryPlate.com/podcast and entering code FLUSTER139. 

Now’s the time to try Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started on eco-friendly laundry detergent sheets.

Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.

Love your sleep! Get $25 off a deluxe bamboo sheet set from Ettitudes at ettitude.com/flusterclux

BÉIS is offering our listeners 15% off your first purchase by visiting BEISTRAVEL.com/FLUSTER for their luggage, totes, and new diaper bags.

Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.

Start Ritual today and visit ritual.com/fluster and add Essential for Women 18+ to your vitamin subscription today.

Planning a family vacation in 2023? Flusterclux co-host, Robin Hutson, publishes Luxe Recess, a family travel magazine with honest reviews written for parents by parents. Check out our lists of the best family dude ranches, Hawaii resorts, and best cruises for teens.

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

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Does you child freak out when it’s time for a shot? Or a blood draw? A strep test? And what about more extensive treatments? We’ve been getting many questions about how to approach this common and powerful fear. In this episode, Lynn the Fainter describes how to use breathing, disconnection, and the amazing power of the imagination to help kids and parents handle the unpleasantness and sometimes downright terror of medical procedures. 

Lynn's fourth book focus on adults and their anxiety. Buy your copy of The Anxiety Audit: Seven Sneaky Ways Anxiety Takes Hold and How to Escape Them now.

COMING IN JANUARY!

Join Lynn and Robin for a special Anxiety Audit Book Club With Q&A where we will go through the book together!

“Once in a while a book comes along that instantly changes the way you think and act for the better. The Anxiety Audit joins this club. I challenge you to put it down and not move through your day differently. Buy this book—it will guide you along the journey to being the person in relationships, and inside yourself, that you are hoping to become.” 

—Rachel Simmons, bestselling author of Odd Girl Out and Enough As She Is 



Join Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order and a $60 dollar gift while helping a family in need! thriveMarket.com/flusterclux.

Get $1.39 per meal by going to EveryPlate.com/podcast and entering code FLUSTER139. 

Now’s the time to try Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started on eco-friendly laundry detergent sheets.

Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.

Love your sleep! Get $25 off a deluxe bamboo sheet set from Ettitudes at ettitude.com/flusterclux

BÉIS is offering our listeners 15% off your first purchase by visiting BEISTRAVEL.com/FLUSTER for their luggage, totes, and new diaper bags.

Download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.

Start Ritual today and visit ritual.com/fluster and add Essential for Women 18+ to your vitamin subscription today.

Planning a family vacation in 2023? Flusterclux co-host, Robin Hutson, publishes Luxe Recess, a family travel magazine with honest reviews written for parents by parents. Check out our lists of the best Texas resorts, Hawaii resorts, and Florida resorts for families.

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

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Worries that show up at night seem to hold special power. They are discussed, analyzed, and often treated as a “going to sleep issue” instead of anxiety that happens to show up at bedtime. It’s understandable. Problems at bedtime are magnified by parents’ urgency to make sleep happen, our own lack of reserves at the end of the day or the middle of the night, and the material that the dark of night readily serves up to the worried imagination. How do we treat these bedtime anxieties differently than daytime anxieties…and do we need to? 

Lynn's fourth book focus on adults and their anxiety. Buy your copy of The Anxiety Audit: Seven Sneaky Ways Anxiety Takes Hold and How to Escape Them now.

COMING IN JANUARY!

Join Lynn and Robin for a special Anxiety Audit Book Club With Q&A where we will go through the book together!

“Once in a while a book comes along that instantly changes the way you think and act for the better. The Anxiety Audit joins this club. I challenge you to put it down and not move through your day differently. Buy this book—it will guide you along the journey to being the person in relationships, and inside yourself, that you are hoping to become.” 

—Rachel Simmons, bestselling author of Odd Girl Out and Enough As She Is 



Join Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order and a $60 dollar gift while helping a family in need! thriveMarket.com/flusterclux.

Planning a family vacation in 2023? Flusterclux co-host, Robin Hutson, publishes Luxe Recess, a family travel magazine with honest reviews written for parents by parents. Check out our lists of the best Texas resorts, Hawaii resorts, and Florida resorts for families.

Get $1.39 per meal by going to EveryPlate.com/podcast and entering code FLUSTER139. 

Now’s the time to try Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started on eco-friendly laundry detergent sheets.

Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.

Love your sleep! Get $25 off a deluxe bamboo sheet set from Ettitudes at ettitude.com/flusterclux

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

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This is a juicy episode— and a really important one for all concerned about the mental health trends with our teens. After over thirty years in the mental health field, Lynn addresses very directly her concerns about the messages teens are receiving, and articulating, about their mental health. It's time to be candid about toxic trends, misinformation, and where our teens are heading. Can we shift this paradigm for them?

Lynn's fourth book focus on adults and their anxiety. Buy your copy of The Anxiety Audit: Seven Sneaky Ways Anxiety Takes Hold and How to Escape Them now.

COMING IN JANUARY!

Join Lynn and Robin for a special Anxiety Audit Book Club With Q&A where we will go through the book together!

“Once in a while a book comes along that instantly changes the way you think and act for the better. The Anxiety Audit joins this club. I challenge you to put it down and not move through your day differently. Buy this book—it will guide you along the journey to being the person in relationships, and inside yourself, that you are hoping to become.” 

—Rachel Simmons, bestselling author of Odd Girl Out and Enough As She Is 



Join Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order and a $60 dollar gift while helping a family in need! thriveMarket.com/flusterclux.

Planning a family vacation in 2023? Flusterclux co-host, Robin Hutson, publishes Luxe Recess, a family travel magazine with honest reviews written for parents by parents. Check out our lists of the best Texas resorts, Hawaii resorts, and Florida resorts for families.

Get $1.39 per meal by going to EveryPlate.com/podcast and entering code FLUSTER139. 

Now’s the time to try Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/flusterclux to get started on eco-friendly laundry detergent sheets.

Get $100 off of your first month with a licensed therapist at Talkspace when you go to Talkspace.com and use code FLUSTER.

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices