When some children make mistakes or get overwhelmed, they jump quickly to self criticism and even self hate: “I’m terrible! I suck! You don’t love me!” What does this mean? Is it a red flag? And how should parents react? In this episode, anxiety expert Lynn discusses the traps to avoid and the family skills to promote when this dramatic pattern takes hold. 

Referenced in this episode:

Past Episode: Helping Kids With Shame & Self-Harm

This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice.

This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux.

What you'll get:

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Better Help: Flusterclux listeners get 10% off their first month of online therapy at BetterHelp.com/lynn.

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST.

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In this episode we talk about how Pixar’s latest movie Turning Red dives into the big emotions and shifting relationships of the tween years. We also discuss Inside Out, the gold standard of Pixar’s commitment to the development of emotional intelligence. Pop culture-from Mr. Rogers to Pixar-shows the power of story to teach us all…when it’s used this well. Why and how can these movies can be a part of your parenting toolkit? Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons explains.

Referenced in this episode:

Past Episode: The Most Powerful Resolution: Earning a Black Belt in Emotional Management

And this podcast episode:

https://onbeing.org/programs/kate-dicamillo-for-the-eight-year-old-in-you/

Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens-3 Days Left!!!

Registration Open until April 3!

Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need

Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont. 

This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice.

This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux.

What you'll get:

Auto Approve is an online service that makes vehicle refinancing easier and faster. Auto Approve connects vehicle owners with a network of top credit unions, banks and finance companies to find the best available interest rates – then helps handle the paperwork, simplifying the vehicle refinance process from beginning to end, and putting more money back in your wallet. autoapprove.com/adalyst

Hiya Health: We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/FLUSTER. Get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults.

PrepDish: Check out PrepDish.com/FLUSTER for your first 2 weeks, FREE, to take the stress out of dinner time all week. This is a no-brainer!

Better Help: Flusterclux listeners get 10% off their first month of online therapy at BetterHelp.com/lynn.

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

New episodes arrive Friday at 6:00AM EST.

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On this Flusterclux In Session episode, anxiety expert Lynn Lyons talks to a mom who is managing a tricky combination of factors: her own worry, her daughter's worry, and her daughter’s chronic illness. Knowing the difference between what worry demands and how to manage a serious condition (like type 1 diabetes or anaphylaxis-causing allergies) can be hard to discern. But it’s a skill families must learn together when your child's mental and physical health are on the line.

Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens

Registration Open until April 3!

Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need

Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont. 

The Latest Course for Parents!

This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice.

This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux.

What you'll get:

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

New episodes arrive Friday at 6:00AM EST.

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Of course parents should pay attention to their family’s health. But when does your worry about illness in a global pandemic become too much? How does your health anxiety impact your family? How do we educate our kids on the ways anxiety can create physical symptoms so that they know when their worry is the cause of the tummy ache?

Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens

Registration Open. Our discounted room block is available until today, March 18, 2022.

Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need

Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont. 

The Latest Course for Parents!

This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice.

This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux.

What you'll get:

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

New episodes arrive Friday at 6:00AM EST.

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Parents and students are focusing on college admissions earlier and earlier, hoping to get a head start on what has become an increasingly competitive race through high school. They say they want their kids to be “happy” and “successful” in college, but if parents are obsessed with getting in, are they developing the right skills to help them thrive once there? Anxiety Expert and therapist Lynn Lyons shares her perspective after treating teens for decades through this process and well after.

We invite you to listen (or re-listen!) to our prior episode, "High Anxiety & Good Grades: Our Toxic Achievement Culture".

Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens

Registration Open. Our discounted room block is available until today, March 11, 2022.

Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need

Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont. 

NEW Course for Parents!

This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice.

This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux.

What you'll get:

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

New episodes arrive Friday at 6:00AM EST.

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As we find ourselves struggling to process such horrific news, how do we help our children understand it? Once again we must deal with our own big emotions and theirs during a time of great uncertainty. Lynn offers some guidance from little kids to teens as we love them through it and our own anxiety.

Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens

Registration Open. Discounted rooms available until March 11, 2022.

Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need

Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont. 

NEW Course for Parents!

This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice.

This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux.

What you'll get:

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's time for a new Flusterclux In Session episode where anxiety expert Lynn Lyons shares a consultation with a listener. Lynn talks to mom of three, Erica, whose youngest son has developed OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). Lynn gives Erica tools not just for her nine-year-old son but for the whole family to be united in managing this very common disorder.

Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens

Registration Open. Discounted rooms available until March 1, 2022.

Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need

Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont. 

NEW Course for Parents!

This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice.

This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux.

What you'll get:

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the second of a two-part episode, we complete a list of four common traps in which parents get stuck. While we can face many unique challenges to parenting if we are divorced, single by choice, raising kids with special needs or facing chronic illnesses, it's helpful to understand when a custom approach to anxiety is needed.

Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens

Registration Open. Discounted rooms available until March 1, 2022.

Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need

Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont. 

NEW Course for Parents!

This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice.

This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux.

What you'll get:

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s so easy to step into the parenting traps that feed anxiety and worry. We’ve all done them, so you’re in good company. In this episode we look at the patterns of inconsistency, trying to control outcomes because of our own worry. And we unpack the important distinction between emotional availability and emotional enmeshment. 

We also reference a past episode focusing on reassurance. 

Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens

Registration Open. Discounted rooms available until March 1, 2022.

Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need

Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont. 

NEW Course for Parents!

This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice.

This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux.

What you'll get:

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you know anyone who has a tendency to faint? Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons talks about her own experience with vasovagal syncope, a condition shared by her father, siblings, and son. Learn how she manages it, and how she helped her son. And enjoy the many laughs about our family’s most embarrassing fainting moments.

Lynn references this video of a talk she gave about her own history of fainting and overcoming it. 

We also reference a a listener episode of 

Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens

Registration Open!

Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need

Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont. 

NEW Course for Parents!

This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice.

This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux.

What you'll get:

Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.

Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.

Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.

New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.

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