We’re keeping the laughs going as we continue our For the Love of Funny series–and this week we’ve got Kevin James Thornton, a comedian and entertainer, who, after spending his youth in a fundamentalist church in the 90’s, found a lot to laugh about. After moving to LA to make his way on stages at the Comedy Store and as an actor, Kevin wasn’t sure he was happy with how his life was going. After a move to Nashville and some serious contemplation about where to go next, the pandemic hit. Bored at home, Kevin discovered a little thing called TikTok and decided it might be fun to share some of the stories of what it was like to grow up gay in a fundamentalist church in the 90’s, and much to his surprise his videos were wildly successful. At 50 years old, Kevin had found his niche, and now he brings his unique brand of comedy (often sung as a story through an auto-tune device—because it was the 90’s, after all) ) with audiences across the U.S. and Europe and with over 2 million followers on social media. 
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Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
A Comedy Bit on Kevin’s YouTube Channel
A Comedy Bit on Kevin’s YouTube Channel
The Comedy Store in West Hollywood
 For the Love Episode with Nate Bargatze
Kevin James Thornton's Upcoming Shows
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Kevin’s Instagram
Kevin’s Twitter
Kevin’s Facebook
Kevin’s TikTok
Kevin’s YouTube
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For the Love of Funny: Laughing Toward The Light: Comedian Kevin James Thornton Finds Himself at 50

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Continuing In our For the Love of The Matriarchy series, Jen talks with powerful women who are taking innovative approaches to their work, their relationships, and their joy. Bozoma Saint John is a trailblazing marketing executive whose career has taken her to the heights of companies like Pepsi, Apple, Uber and Netflix. But her path to becoming a "badass" has been one marked by profound loss and upheaval. 
From the loss of her first child and her husband's battle with cancer, to being told she's "too much" by those closest to her, Bozoma opens up about summoning resilience from life's lowest lows. She discusses redefining what true strength looks like, embracing authenticity even when it ruffles the status quo, and pioneering a collaborative model of single parenthood that makes space for her daughter's voice.

Jen and Bozoma discuss:

Embracing authenticity even when it ruffles the status quo and offends those in power

Redefining strength not as impenetrable toughness, but as the pliability in experiencing brokenness yet still rising again

The complexities of reconciling life's tragedies with its gifts and holding space for gratitude amid loss

Pioneering a collaborative, trust-based model of single parenthood that makes space for her daughter's voice and needs


For anyone craving inspiration to honor their scars while uncompromisingly claiming their power, this is a master class.
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Thought-Provoking Quotes:
“Privilege is a reliable enemy of equality. And it is sometimes insidious the lengths we’ll go to protect it because we're still benefiting [from it].” - Bozoma Saint John
"You don't have to have had the same losses I've had or suffered the same way I suffered to prove that you are worthy of the scars that you bear. You have them and it's okay." - Bozoma Saint John
“My parenting has changed because I need to make space for [my daughter] to be honest with me about what she needs so that I can be the mother that she needs; not necessarily the mother that I think is needed.” - Bozoma Saint John
"The most amazing thing about being human is how incredibly tied we are to each other. And it is a beautiful thing that even through our pain, we are still tied together as human beings." - Bozoma Saint John
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Bozoma’s Marketing Hall of Fame Induction: https://marketinghalloffame.org/inductees-leading-marketers/bozoma-saint-john-2022-marketing-inductee/
2021 Most Influential CMO: https://www.forbes.com/connect/event/2021-wmi-cmos/
Ambassador to the African Diaspora and Special Envoy to the President of Ghana: https://bit.ly/4bhmVig.
Guest’s Links:
Bozoma’s Website: https://www.bozomasaintjohn.com/
Bozoma’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SaintBoz
Bozoma’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/badassboz
Bozoma’s Instagram: http://instagram.com/badassboz
Bozoma’s Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bozoma-saint-john-0305441/
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Summoning Resilience In Our Darkest Times: Bozoma Saint John on Loss and Motherhood

Welcome to the For The Love of The Matriarchy series where we’ll explore all the different aspects of women working to embrace agency and celebrating their worth. As we celebrate the power of women and their accomplishments, we’ll also look at the challenges women have faced in a patriarchal society (and still face) and what that means for their bodies and autonomy. 

Cait West is an author who grew up in an extreme patriarchal Christian community. She was taught from a young age that her sole purpose was to become a submissive wife and mother. This pervasive sense of having no agency or control over her own life, combined with the constant messaging that she was inherently sinful and unworthy, took a profound toll on Cait's mental health, causing severe anxiety and depression from a very young age. Jen and Cait delve into how families can fall into toxic belief systems, and what recovery can look like.
Jen and Cait discuss:


The impact of being raised in a fundamentalist, patriarchal environment that severely restricts a woman's autonomy, education, and life choices.

The healing power of finding community, sharing one's story, and reclaiming agency after experiencing spiritual abuse and trauma.

The difficult but important choice of breaking free from oppressive systems, even when it means severing ties with your own family


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Thought-Provoking Quotes:
"[My husband] has always been my steady companion because he experienced some of that verbal abuse from my dad, and he knew what it was like...When I would have anxiety attacks, he didn't understand what was going on either, but he would just sit with me until I could get through it and come back to regulate my nervous system. He just was there with me through it. And that meant more than having someone try to fix it or totally tell me what to do." - Cait West
"I realized I had a story to tell. Going to writing conferences and learning from other writers like you who were talking about speaking up for injustice, I decided to tell part of my story online. I started doing that around 2018 and realized there's a lot more people who've been through this and they've just been silenced or afraid — people who if they say something, their family's going to cut them off. That's what happened to me in 2019. I had an interview and I started talking online about my experience and my dad decided not to talk to me anymore. I understand that fear but once I lost that relationship, I felt liberated to tell my story. Because somebody has to. Somebody has to say something." - Cait West
"Cait's my real first name, and then West is my grandmother's — what we call the maiden name. It's always resonated with me, my mother's heritage, because they're Southerners, they grew up in poverty. The women in my family have always been the leaders and the strong people of faith. And so to me, it's kind of like calling back to that heritage and recognizing it and trying to hold on to some kind of legacy after losing so much of my life." - Cait West
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Christian Patriarchy Movement - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biblical_patriarchy
Tears of Eden (Nonprofit for survivors of spiritual abuse - https://www.tearsofeden.org/
Rift: A Memoir by Cait West - https://www.caitwest.com/book
Guest’s Links:
Website - https://www.caitwest.com/
Twitter - https://bit.ly/3UytS9l
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/caitwestwrites/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/caitwestwrites/?hl=en
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@caitwestwrites
Substack - https://caitwest.substack.com/
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Breaking Free From Patriarchal Rule: Cait West’s Escape from Spiritual Abuse

In our lives, we are often confronted with moments of profound change - whether it's the result of circumstances beyond our control, or a deliberate choice to step into something new. During these pivotal transitions, it can be tempting to focus on pleasing others or trying to meet the expectations of our family, friends, and community. However, truly transformative growth requires the courage to choose ourselves and to trust our inner wisdom.

Author and activist, Najwa Zebian, offers a powerful example of what it looks like to reclaim one's autonomy in the face of a lifetime of feeling out of place and unworthy. Her journey of self-discovery provides a roadmap for navigating change with conviction, self-compassion, and a commitment to living one's truth.

Jen and Najwa explore: 


The profound impact of emotional neglect and feeling out of place can deeply shape one's self-worth and choices later in life.

Connecting with the power of language and self-expression can be a vital lifeline and pathway to healing.

Making bold choices for oneself can be a necessary and courageous act of self-preservation.

Allowing one's "world to revolve around you" and trusting your own inner wisdom is essential for navigating life's changes and uncertainties with conviction and self-compassion.


Author Bio
Dr. Najwa Zebian is a Lebanese-Canadian activist, author, speaker, and educator. Najwa began to write to connect with and help heal her first students, who were a group of young refugees. Through that effort with her students, she began a deep healing process for herself. She is the author of six books. She delivered the Ted Talk, “Finding Home Through Poetry.” She also recently launched a digital school called Soul Academy and a podcast called “In the Clear.” Her latest book is called “The Only Constant.”
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Thought-Provoking Quotes:
“Neglect isn't just about not getting your basic needs met. I think the most harmful neglect is not getting the things you do need." - Najwa Zebian
"There was always this invitation to not allow myself to experience anger because it was a negative thing. But now I realize there's healthy anger; there's healthy resentment; and it's also healthy to project those feelings outwards. Otherwise, they're inside." - Najwa Zebian

"I look at myself as a people pleaser — as somebody who's like, "I can't handle disappointing someone, I can't handle disappointing my family, I can't." But it got to a point where I was definitely willing to do that because I was so aware that continuing to live my life in a certain way meant that I was going to be suffering so much, and I wasn't willing to suffer in that way [anymore].” - Najwa Zebian

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Finding Home Through Poetry (Najwa’s Ted Talk) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rNRygxe_8Ys
Soul Academy (Najwa’s Digital School) - https://najwa-soul-academy.teachable.com/p/home
In the Clear (Najwa’s Podcast) - https://najwazebian.com/podcasts
The Only Constant by Najwa Zebian - https://najwazebian.com/the-only-constant
Welcome Home by Najwa Zebian - https://najwazebian.com/welcome-home
Hijab - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hijab
Mind Platter by Najwa Zebian - https://najwazebian.com/mind-platter

Guest’s Links:
Najwa’s Website - https://najwazebian.com/
Najwa’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/najwazebian
Najwa’s Tik Tok - https://www.tiktok.com/@najwazebian
Najwa’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/najwazebian1
Najwa’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/najwazebian
Najwa’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/najwazebian

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The Only Constant is You: Navigating Life's Changes with Najwa Zebian

Million Dollar Advice is a work and career advice podcast hosted by friends and colleagues Kim Lessing and Kate Arend. Together, Kim and Kate run Amy Poehler’s Paper Kite Productions and are very cool and good at their jobs. Each week, they will help live callers with their work-related dilemmas. Whether you have a question or you just like listening to other people’s problems, this show will change your life. If you have a problem at work or a career question big or small, write in to milliondollaradvicepod@gmail.com or leave a message on the Million Dollar Advice Hotline (888) 799-6327. 

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Introducing: Million Dollar Advice

Making a change in our lives can feel like a big, all encompassing thing; and sometimes we avoid change because of that very notion. But here’s some good news: making meaningful change in our lives actually starts with one small choice at a time, and it doesn’t have to be overwhelming or hard. This week, we’ve got the inside scoop on how to form habits that you actually want to stick with and someone who is going to let us in on the simple secrets to real and lasting change. James Clear is the bestselling author of “Atomic Habits.” His approach to building sustainable habits has resonated with millions, helping people make positive changes and reach their full potential. 
In this conversation, James shares personal stories and scientific principles to empower journeys of growth and transformation. Jen even shares her personal experience of choosing one small habit to do each day in the wake of her seismic divorce and how that choice radically affected the trajectory of her recovery. 
Jen and James explore: 

How to embrace a 1% improvement mindset - small, incremental changes compound over time and lead to meaningful results.

The willingness to try different approaches and habits until you find what works for you

Why we’ll be set up for success in the long run by having a toolbox of different strategies instead of adhering to specific “must-have” habits

The importance of focusing on your identity and becoming the type of person you want to be, rather than just setting goals.


No matter where you are in life —you have it within you to make meaningful and practical changes in your life.
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Thought-Provoking Quotes:
“There was a time in my life when I was forced to start small. So I was trying to find little wins; just something I could look at and be like 'Today was a good day.' I think that mindset ended up really helping me in later life." - James Clear
"The whole world is going to emphasize your position and where you are. What I'm trying to emphasize is, "Are you getting 1% better? 1% worse? Is the arrow pointing up to the right, even if it's just a little bit? Or have you flatlined?" Because if you're on a good trajectory, all you need is time. All you need is patience. Time will magnify whatever you feed it." - James Clear
“There is no one way to build better habits. There are many ways. My job is not to tell you how to do it. My job is to lay all the tools out on the table, rather than trying to tell you this is the way to build habits.” - James Clear
“It's very easy, once you're listening to a conversation about habits or thinking about your own habits, to bite off more than you can chew, or start getting pulled in ten directions and be like; 'I'm going to change all ten of these things.' I think one good thing to remind yourself of is this energy will naturally extend into other areas of your life. So maybe take just one of those ten things and try to really master that.” - James Clear
"There's this common advice that if something doesn't work, you should try, try, try again and I think the better advice is if something doesn't work, you should try, try, try differently." - James Clear
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Atomic Habits by James Clear: https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits
James Clear’s 3-2-1 Newsletter - https://jamesclear.com/3-2-1
Guest’s Links:
James Clear’s Website - https://jamesclear.com/
James Clear’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jamesclear/
James Clear’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/JamesClear
James Clear’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jamesclear/
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For the Love of Funny: Laughing Toward The Light: Comedian Kevin James Thornton Finds Himself at 50

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