Some of us believe (subconsciously) that someone else is responsible for our lives; hoping and praying they deliver… and complaining when they don’t. Unfortunately chasing, coercing or manipulating to get others to cooperate is a losing proposition. Because how long will it last? And really, for what reason? What part of us needs to be rescued when we are so fixated on what someone else needs to provide?

Often, people who have given up their power to someone else in order to be rescued have a story. Perhaps that story is that they’re unlovable, or that they give and give to the point that people stomp all over them (giving to get, by the way, is a form of control and manipulation). Many don’t even understand why they are compelled to operate this way. But if you stop for a moment at look at why you want to be rescued, you may see that it’s attached to a very OLD need rather than the current truth. And even if you realize this on some level, you may still continue to grab hold and ignore the triggers inside because you’re conditioned to believe the solution lies outside of you. Well, it doesn’t.

Isn’t it time to understand your old beliefs and triggers so you can feel more in control of yourself, rather than think you can get what you want 24/7 from someone else? Tune in to hear more.

Most people I work with (myself included) are always in a hurry. We are in a rush to mentally “get it” and intellectually categorize so we can move on; check the list then throw it away. As a result, we rashly label other people or situations as bad so we can wash our hands of it and step away. By doing that, we think we solve the problem. We don’t. When looking at someone else as the problem, we’re not really moving forward. We’re stuck. And sometimes you have to go backwards to see how you showed up and what you’ve created before you can release yourself.

The problem is, we’re in such a rush to keep progressing forward that we miss the important work that comes from slowing down and looking back. We can’t be bothered, and for some reason, we think forward is always better. Like a car on a track with no reverse. But wherever you go, there you are, and cleaning up the past will propel you forward faster than forcing yourself to get there. Listen in to find your reverse gear. In the long-run, you may be surprised to find it’s actually the shorter route.

Most people I work with (myself included) are always in a hurry. We are in a rush to mentally “get it” and intellectually categorize so we can move on; check the list then throw it away. As a result, we rashly label other people or situations as bad so we can wash our hands of it and step away. By doing that, we think we solve the problem. We don’t. When looking at someone else as the problem, we’re not really moving forward. We’re stuck. And sometimes you have to go backwards to see how you showed up and what you’ve created before you can release yourself.

The problem is, we’re in such a rush to keep progressing forward that we miss the important work that comes from slowing down and looking back. We can’t be bothered, and for some reason, we think forward is always better. Like a car on a track with no reverse. But wherever you go, there you are, and cleaning up the past will propel you forward faster than forcing yourself to get there. Listen in to find your reverse gear. In the long-run, you may be surprised to find it’s actually the shorter route.

Most people I work with (myself included) are always in a hurry. We are in a rush to mentally “get it” and intellectually categorize so we can move on; check the list then throw it away. As a result, we rashly label other people or situations as bad so we can wash our hands of it and step away. By doing that, we think we solve the problem. We don’t. When looking at someone else as the problem, we’re not really moving forward. We’re stuck. And sometimes you have to go backwards to see how you showed up and what you’ve created before you can release yourself.

The problem is, we’re in such a rush to keep progressing forward that we miss the important work that comes from slowing down and looking back. We can’t be bothered, and for some reason, we think forward is always better. Like a car on a track with no reverse. But wherever you go, there you are, and cleaning up the past will propel you forward faster than forcing yourself to get there. Listen in to find your reverse gear. In the long-run, you may be surprised to find it’s actually the shorter route.

Most people I work with (myself included) are always in a hurry. We are in a rush to mentally “get it” and intellectually categorize so we can move on; check the list then throw it away. As a result, we rashly label other people or situations as bad so we can wash our hands of it and step away. By doing that, we think we solve the problem. We don’t. When looking at someone else as the problem, we’re not really moving forward. We’re stuck. And sometimes you have to go backwards to see how you showed up and what you’ve created before you can release yourself.

The problem is, we’re in such a rush to keep progressing forward that we miss the important work that comes from slowing down and looking back. We can’t be bothered, and for some reason, we think forward is always better. Like a car on a track with no reverse. But wherever you go, there you are, and cleaning up the past will propel you forward faster than forcing yourself to get there. Listen in to find your reverse gear. In the long-run, you may be surprised to find it’s actually the shorter route.

Wanting something from someone in attachment at a deeper level and it never happens—perhaps for a few minutes, but it is never consistent.

Waiting for a train that never shows up. Like a secret hope or believing this person has some sort of gift to give you. It never comes. Even if it does come it doesn't fix it. The emptiness is still there and usually, because we choose what will not fill us, we feel worse—we feel invalidated. We have that idea that we are not enough or good enough—some limiting belief, which we are trying to prove true…a belief that invalidates us as a person.

We cause all of our own grief, but believe it is the outside circumstances which make us feel invalidated. Only you can do that for yourself.

None of this has nothing to do with logic. It is wanting either what I can't have or it's having a situation in which there is little progress—you count breadcrumbs as progress and you believe its the other person holding back, you don’t think you’re part of what is creating the feeling inside.

Leading to the feeling of wanting to grab onto them and bring them closer, when deep down you would freak if they did get closer….its much easier to find validation that you are not okay, that something is wrong with you and just by having this relationship it satisfies the case you’ve built against yourself.

Wanting something from someone in attachment at a deeper level and it never happens—perhaps for a few minutes, but it is never consistent.

Waiting for a train that never shows up. Like a secret hope or believing this person has some sort of gift to give you. It never comes. Even if it does come it doesn't fix it. The emptiness is still there and usually, because we choose what will not fill us, we feel worse—we feel invalidated. We have that idea that we are not enough or good enough—some limiting belief, which we are trying to prove true…a belief that invalidates us as a person.

We cause all of our own grief, but believe it is the outside circumstances which make us feel invalidated. Only you can do that for yourself.

None of this has nothing to do with logic. It is wanting either what I can't have or it's having a situation in which there is little progress—you count breadcrumbs as progress and you believe its the other person holding back, you don’t think you’re part of what is creating the feeling inside.

Leading to the feeling of wanting to grab onto them and bring them closer, when deep down you would freak if they did get closer….its much easier to find validation that you are not okay, that something is wrong with you and just by having this relationship it satisfies the case you’ve built against yourself.

Wanting something from someone in attachment at a deeper level and it never happens—perhaps for a few minutes, but it is never consistent.

Waiting for a train that never shows up. Like a secret hope or believing this person has some sort of gift to give you. It never comes. Even if it does come it doesn't fix it. The emptiness is still there and usually, because we choose what will not fill us, we feel worse—we feel invalidated. We have that idea that we are not enough or good enough—some limiting belief, which we are trying to prove true…a belief that invalidates us as a person.

We cause all of our own grief, but believe it is the outside circumstances which make us feel invalidated. Only you can do that for yourself.

None of this has nothing to do with logic. It is wanting either what I can't have or it's having a situation in which there is little progress—you count breadcrumbs as progress and you believe its the other person holding back, you don’t think you’re part of what is creating the feeling inside.

Leading to the feeling of wanting to grab onto them and bring them closer, when deep down you would freak if they did get closer….its much easier to find validation that you are not okay, that something is wrong with you and just by having this relationship it satisfies the case you’ve built against yourself.

Wanting something from someone in attachment at a deeper level and it never happens—perhaps for a few minutes, but it is never consistent.

Waiting for a train that never shows up. Like a secret hope or believing this person has some sort of gift to give you. It never comes. Even if it does come it doesn't fix it. The emptiness is still there and usually, because we choose what will not fill us, we feel worse—we feel invalidated. We have that idea that we are not enough or good enough—some limiting belief, which we are trying to prove true…a belief that invalidates us as a person.

We cause all of our own grief, but believe it is the outside circumstances which make us feel invalidated. Only you can do that for yourself.

None of this has nothing to do with logic. It is wanting either what I can't have or it's having a situation in which there is little progress—you count breadcrumbs as progress and you believe its the other person holding back, you don’t think you’re part of what is creating the feeling inside.

Leading to the feeling of wanting to grab onto them and bring them closer, when deep down you would freak if they did get closer….its much easier to find validation that you are not okay, that something is wrong with you and just by having this relationship it satisfies the case you’ve built against yourself.

Most of us have a picture in our head of what we want our lives to be, and we judge our reality (good or bad) according to that picture. We want the universe—or someone or something—to fix what we consider “bad,” not realizing it’s our perception that makes it so. When life doesn’t match our picture, we feel crappy and unfulfilled, so we implore the universe to give us what we want. That’s the law of attraction, right? Perhaps you want to be married, but get angry when none of your online matches check your boxes. Being so fixated on how you think that person will look or where they will show up may result in you looking right past them.

If you want the law of attraction to work, stop asking for what you need exactly how you need it, and try surrendering. Toss out the picture you’ve used to compare and judge yourself. It doesn’t serve you. Instead of blaming the universe for not delivering what you ask for, trust that it will bring you what you need. It may not come the way you expect, but you’ll end up with more of what you TRULY want. Go all in and start by surrendering to love. Ditch the checklist and you’ll find that your life and your happiness are readily available to you. Just trust and let go…