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From Performance to Presence: The Holiday Shift That Brings Back the Magic (Especially After Betrayal)
What would it be like to actually feel the moment you’re working so hard to create?
In this powerful pre-Thanksgiving episode, Lora gets real about the way so many women — especially those healing after betrayal — kill themselves trying to stage the “perfect” holiday, only to feel numb, resentful, or empty inside.
From Hallmark-movie expectations to Norman Rockwell Thanksgivings, Lora unpacks how performance, perfectionism, control, and emotional over-functioning have been culturally trained into women… and how betrayal often ramps those patterns up even more.
You’ll learn why performance is actually a nervous system survival response (fawn/fix), how it quietly steals your joy, and what it means to shift into deep, grounded presence — so you can finally experience the love, connection, and magic you’ve been trying to manufacture for everyone else.
Just in time for the holidays, this episode is your invitation to stop chasing the moment… and start feeling it.
Top 3 Takeaways
After betrayal and in dysfunctional family systems, performance becomes protection. We over-do, over-give, and over-function to cover our fear that love, safety, or support won’t be there.
Beyond fight/flight/freeze, Lora explains the “fourth F”: fawn/fix. That impulse to keep everyone happy, keep everything perfect, and pretend you’re fine is actually a trauma response that blocks creativity, intimacy, and joy.
Betrayal doesn’t destroy your joy; it uncovers the truth about all the ways you’ve been stealing it from yourself through scripts, shoulds, and chronic performance. Presence is how you get it back.
Favorite Quotes
Free FLAUNT! Holiday Reset & Book Club
If this episode hit home, your next step is simple:
Join Lora on December 1st for a free live FLAUNT! Book Club & Workshop — a Holiday Reset designed to move you from performance to presence in real time.
You’ll:
👉 Sign up free: TheFlauntBook.com
You don’t need to be “caught up” or have read the whole book. Just bring yourself, your copy, and a willingness to show up as you are.
🔗 Resources & Links
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From Performance to Presence: The Holiday Shift That Brings Back the Magic (Especially After Betrayal)
What would it be like to actually feel the moment you’re working so hard to create?
In this powerful pre-Thanksgiving episode, Lora gets real about the way so many women — especially those healing after betrayal — kill themselves trying to stage the “perfect” holiday, only to feel numb, resentful, or empty inside.
From Hallmark-movie expectations to Norman Rockwell Thanksgivings, Lora unpacks how performance, perfectionism, control, and emotional over-functioning have been culturally trained into women… and how betrayal often ramps those patterns up even more.
You’ll learn why performance is actually a nervous system survival response (fawn/fix), how it quietly steals your joy, and what it means to shift into deep, grounded presence — so you can finally experience the love, connection, and magic you’ve been trying to manufacture for everyone else.
Just in time for the holidays, this episode is your invitation to stop chasing the moment… and start feeling it.
Top 3 Takeaways
After betrayal and in dysfunctional family systems, performance becomes protection. We over-do, over-give, and over-function to cover our fear that love, safety, or support won’t be there.
Beyond fight/flight/freeze, Lora explains the “fourth F”: fawn/fix. That impulse to keep everyone happy, keep everything perfect, and pretend you’re fine is actually a trauma response that blocks creativity, intimacy, and joy.
Betrayal doesn’t destroy your joy; it uncovers the truth about all the ways you’ve been stealing it from yourself through scripts, shoulds, and chronic performance. Presence is how you get it back.
Favorite Quotes
Free FLAUNT! Holiday Reset & Book Club
If this episode hit home, your next step is simple:
Join Lora on December 1st for a free live FLAUNT! Book Club & Workshop — a Holiday Reset designed to move you from performance to presence in real time.
You’ll:
👉 Sign up free: TheFlauntBook.com
You don’t need to be “caught up” or have read the whole book. Just bring yourself, your copy, and a willingness to show up as you are.
🔗 Resources & Links
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