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Getting Curious About Hypervigilance


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👮 Do you find yourself policing your partner, feeling the need to repeatedly check their phone, their whereabouts, and their actions? First, this is NORMAL after betrayal, and second, this isn’t a place you want to stay long term. There ARE ways to let go of these habits in a way that will move you from feeling powerless to empowered. Amie and Alana break down the whys of hypervigilance as they encourage you to get curious about some of your behaviors after betrayal.


Tune in to learn:

  • What is causing your hypervigilance?
  • What are some examples of hypervigilance?
  • How can you manage feelings of hypervigilance?
  • What is the difference between hypervigilance and intuition?
  • Why is hypervigilance so damaging long term?

  • Resources mentioned in this episode:

    Alana’s Blog Post on Hypervigilance

    Podcast Episode: How Can I Tell the Difference Between Trauma and Intuition?

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