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Welcome to today's episode! Today I try to break down the Avoidant Ick (Flaw Zoom). I also explain the link between the flaw zoom, high standards and why avoidants lose feelings.

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Why Avoidants Have No Clue What They Need Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YoerBrHSdUI

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Understanding Avoidant Ick

04:55 The Flaw Zoom Mechanism

13:44 The Three-Level Filter

16:45 Two Protection System Types

22:14 Societal Influence on Attraction

31:14 Five Pillars of Relational Needs

37:23 Love Versus Compatibility

40:43 Defining Your Standards

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.