On today's episode I am joined with Michelle Mays. 
Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She's also the author of the book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst.  She reveals the depth of the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect with, yet connection is the key to healing. 
Michelle looks at betrayal through the lens of attachment, as our attachment system is the very thing that connects us with anyone in our lives, and how betrayal causes a break in the attachment bond to the person we are closest with, shattering trust, and leaving a betrayed partner feeling unsafe and violated. 

This was a very informative and rich conversation. 
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https://www.amazon.com/Betrayal-Bind-Heal-Person-Worst/dp/1949481778/Thank you to PartnerHope LLC for sponsoring this episode


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Healing from Betrayal Trauma With Michelle Mays

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Today's conversation I am joined with author and psychologist Dr. Alison Cook. We talk about healing trauma, spiritual bypassing and the need for holistic and emotionally safe trauma informed care and education in our faith communities.
Many who have experienced trauma as children have learned to adapt by disconnecting from their emotions & feelings. Faith communities need to be emotionally healthy places where compassion and empathy is extended to those suffering not only spiritually but emotionally as well. Alison shares the importance of not denying one’s emotional experience, and instead to begin to gently turn towards them with curiosity and compassion. 
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“Dr. Alison Cook is a psychologist and the author of two books, including her new book, The Best of You (Thomas Nelson 2022) and Boundaries for Your Soul (Thomas Nelson 2018). For 20 years, Alison has helped women, ministry leaders, couples, and families learn how to heal painful emotions, develop confidence from the inside out, forge healthy relationships, and fully live out their God-given potential.”
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Emotionally Healthy Faith & Healing with Dr. Alison Cook

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This Is Complex Trauma- Naming What It Is

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In this trauma healing conversation, I am joined with Tricia Lott Williford & Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, authors of the book, You Are Safe Now: A Survivor's Guide to Listening to Your Gut, Healing from Abuse, and Living in Freedom. This conversation is so unique as you will hear from both sides of the Trauma healing journey. Tricia shares from her perspective of feeling stuck in overwhelm & PTSD, and how she was able to slowly move through with the gentle support and guidance of her skilled therapist. Jana shares what it was like working with Tricia and what really helped and supported her through. They talk about the process of untangling the trauma and coming to the understanding of grooming, manipulation and sexual and spiritual abuse by a person of trust. 
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About The book
You Are Safe Now offers a survivor’s first hand story of abuse in the church, including
an explanation of the nature of abusers and their common tactics; a compassionate, nuanced discussion of trauma responses; research, examples, and statistics to identify abusive dynamics, predation, grooming, and psychological manipulation; and practical tools and resources to facilitate recovery. For survivors of abuse, counselors, therapists, pastors who treat survivors, and those who support survivors in their healing, You Are Safe Now is an indispensable resource.

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About The Guests & Authors
Tricia Lott Williford is a writer, blogger, teacher, and co-host of the podcast Let’s Talk Soon with her brother Rob. A prolific writer and ghostwriter, Tricia is the author
of many books. She lives in Colorado with her family. Connect with her and follow
her writing at https://www.tricialottwilliford.com/.

Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, and trained in EMDR, is a seasoned therapist with decades of expertise in counseling victims of trauma, grief, and addiction. Jana has presented internationally as a mental health educator with an emphasis in oncology.
Jana lives in Colorado with her family.
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Healing from Betrayal Trauma With Michelle Mays

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