Hope For Wives

Today, we talk through the acronyms, terms, and definitions surrounding the topics of betrayal, addiction, and couples recovery.

We will specifically focus on the middle stages of discovery and healing. You may have heard our previous episode where we discussed the early stages of recovery.

1-3 years post disclosure/discovery.

In a future episode, you will hear us share ac that are common in the later stages of healing.

Welcome to Hope for Wives. With your co-hostesses:

• Pam Blizzard from recoveredpeace.com
• Lyschel Burket from hoperedefined.org
• Bonny Burns from strongwives.com

Today we are discussing how to build safety around ourselves when living with a person with problematic sexual behavior. This safety measure is oftentimes called boundaries. Boundaries are basically a way to ensure your personal values are respected. I repeat, Boundaries are basically a way to ensure your personal values are respected, in such things as sexual integrity.

Recovered Peace Boundaries Quick Start Tip Sheet (Pam Blizzard) - Receive a Boundaries Quick Start Guide and sign up to learn about her upcoming Boundaries Course.

Naked Truth Project - Boundaries Training

Hope Redefined - Boundaries Support Group

With your co-hostesses:

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com In coaching betrayed wives, we see that some betrayed partners lean into the Lord hard and some are tremendously angry at him.

So, today, we are going to discuss suffering and God. Where is he in all of this?

1. Can you pick one moment where you saw God caring for you in your suffering as a betrayed partner?

2. Can you pick one moment where you were angry at God in your suffering? 3. How is trusting God different than trusting a person? 4. How can we offer hope to our listeners when it comes to trusting God in our pain? Romans 8:28, "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." Proverbs 3:5-6, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight."

Thank you for joining us. We hope to be a bright spot on your recovery journey. If you'd like to leave us a question or comment, please go through the contact button on our website. Also, help a friend by leaving a 5-star review on iTunes so others can find us.

With your co-hostesses:

• Pam Blizzard from recoveredpeace.com
• Lyschel Burket from hoperedefined.org
• Bonny Burns from strongwives.com

In Today's episode, we are going to discuss emotional or relational safety. What is it? How do you navigate it? How do you try to rebuild it?

We Discuss

• What is relational or emotional safety to you?
• How is emotional or relational safety ruptured when one spouse has a sex addiction?
• How does a betrayed partner start to rebuild emotional safety?
• How can we offer hope to our listeners when it comes to emotional or relational safety?

Nuggets of Wisdom:

"...not to feel better, but to get better at feeling," Pam Blizzard.

"Both of you are responsible for rebuilding this emotional safety with each other," Lyschel Burket.

Resources

VOWS - acronym of thoughts to help build new emotional and relational safety.

• V - Vulnerability
• O - Ownership
• W - do your Work
• S - create Safety for yourself and your spouse

Emotional Safety definition found in wikipedia

King & Country - God Only Knows

Final Thoughts

Thank you for sitting in with us today. Our deepest desire is that you will find encouragement, insight, and maybe even a laugh or two in the many episodes to come. We will talk with you again in two weeks.

With your co-hostesses:

• Pam Blizzard from recoveredpeace.com
• Lyschel Burket from hoperedefined.org
• Bonny Burns from strongwives.com

Today, we're going to talk through acronyms, terms, and definitions revolving around early stages of recovery and healing. There will be future episodes where we discuss acronyms, terms, and definitions associated with middle and late stages of recovery and healing.

We Discuss

• Lyschel discusses acronyms, terms, and definitions connected with the Betrayed Wife/Fiance/Girlfriend
• Pam discusses acronyms, terms, and definitions connected with the Person with Problematic Sexual Behavior
• Bonny discusses acronyms, terms, and definitions connected with the coupleship in early stages of recovery and healing.

Resources

APSATS.org - Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists Common Acronyms - Recovered Peace by Pam Blizzard Daring Ventures - Couples Intensives with Dr. Jake Porter Final Thought

Thank you for sitting in with us today. Our deepest desire is that you will find encouragement, insight, and maybe even a laugh or two in the many episodes to come. We will talk with you again in two weeks.

In this episode we discuss Discovery Day, one of the most painful days in the life of a wife who discovers her husband has been viewing pornography or is compulsively acting out sexually. The day of discovery is typically called D-Day, because just like the Normandy Beach invasion during WWII, this day is full of death, wounding, and trauma.

D-Day is not the end of the story, though! We will leave you with hope. Your hosts are: Pam Blizzard of Recovered Peace Lyschel Burket of Hope Redefined Bonny Burns of Strong Wives

We will be discussing:

• What comes to mind for each of us personally as we think of Discovery Day?
• What patterns do we see in partners immediately after discovery?
• What is the best thing a wife can do for herself immediately after discovering her husband's problematic sexual behavior?
• What hope can we leave our listeners with?

Resources:

• APSATS.org - The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists Find a specially trained therapist or coach who understands betrayal, trauma and recovery.
• Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts
• Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life
• A Door of Hope A Door of Hope Peer Facilitator Training Community

Thank you for sitting in with us today. Our deepest desire is that you will find encouragement, insight, and maybe even a laugh or two in the many episodes to come. We will talk with you again in two weeks.

We all offer 1 to 1 coaching, groups, and other resources on our individual websites. Check us out and get to know us better!

Transcript Hope for Wives Episode 2

With your co-hostesses:

• Pam Blizzard from recoveredpeace.com
• Lyschel Burket from hoperedefined.org
• Bonny Burns from strongwives.com

We will be discussing:

• Who we are
• Why we have a heart for betrayed wives
• Our mission
• Who will benefit from listening to our podcast
• How we are intentionally formatting the podcast for our listeners

Learn more about us at our website, Hope For Wives.