“They don’t ever talk about what it feels like when the first relationship after your big relationship ends.”

In this episode we’re giving advice to none other than Hotter Than Ever. Yes, you read that correctly. When Erin found herself blindsided by the sudden end of her relationship with her boyfriend, “The Marine”, she knew she had to open up about the experience, no matter how raw the pain. For anyone facing the aftermath of a significant breakup, this is your reminder that healing and moving forward are possible, even in the midst of heartache.

Join us for a heartfelt and vulnerable episode, as Erin shares the story of how (and why) her relationship ended, and tangible advice for how to get over the first breakup after divorce. Here’s a sneak peak:

1. Take Stock: Reflect on the positive aspects of the relationship and what worked well
2. Tell the Truth: Be honest with yourself about what didn’t work, including unmet needs and underlying issues
3. Set Intentions: Get clear about your desires and boundaries for future relationships
4. Embrace Singlehood: Revel in the freedom to rediscover yourself, your passions, friendships, and creative pursuits

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Broad Collective

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“We end rape culture by showing you how wonderful great consensual, communicative sex is in the real world.”

Cindy Gallop never intended MakeLoveNotPorn to be a groundbreaking social sex tech platform. But when her original website went viral after Cindy’s TED talk in 2009, she knew she was being called to create something far bigger and more meaningful. Today, MakeLoveNotPorn is the world's first and only user-generated and 100% human-curated social sex video sharing platform, whose mission is to promote good sexual behavior and good sexual values by showing real people having safe, healthy, consensual sex. The platform is blazing the trail for female-built and mission-driven businesses, and the need to create more safe and inclusive online and real-world experiences for us all.

In this episode, Erin and Cindy engage in a thought-provoking conversation around the intersection of sex, business, and the important role of women in shaping the future of the Internet. Join us in charting a course towards a more inclusive and empathetic future, as we discuss:

1. Unpacking the detrimental effects of mainstream pornography on sexual education and behavior
2. Rethinking business as a way to do good and make money simultaneously
3. The transformative power of real-world, consensual sex in fostering healthier sexual attitudes and behaviors.
4. The critical need for female-led initiatives in tech and AI development to create a safer, better, happier internet for all of us (including men!)
5. Read Cindy’s op-ed in Fast Company, “Three Reasons Why the Future of AI Relies on Women” HERE
6. Harnessing the power of human curation to foster safe, inclusive (and profitable) online spaces
7. The pivotal role of AI in redefining consent and combating toxic masculinity in the media and legal landscapes.
8. Strategies for aligning personal values with professional pursuits to effect positive change and drive innovation

OUR GUEST: Cindy Gallop, a graduate of Somerville College, Oxford, boasts a diverse background spanning over 30 years in brand-building, marketing, and advertising. Named Advertising Woman of the Year in 2003, she founded IfWeRanTheWorld, a co-action software promoting shared values and shared action for shared profit. Additionally, as the founder and CEO of MakeLoveNotPorn, she spearheads a social sextech platform advocating for healthy sexual behavior and values. Recognized as one of Business Insider's 15 Most Important Marketing Strategy Thinkers Today, Cindy is a sought-after speaker globally, renowned for her insightful talks on the future of advertising and marketing. She champions diversity and inclusion in various industries and serves as a Jury President at Cannes Lions and a leader in initiatives combating ageism and promoting gender equality.

Want more Cindy? Find her online at https://cindygallop.com/ and learn more about MakeLoveNotPorn at https://makelovenotporn.tv/

Follow Cindy and MakeLoveNotPorn on social media @cindygallop and @makelovenotporn

Watch her TED talk “Make Love Not Porn”: https://www.ted.com/talks/cindy_gallop_make_love_not_porn

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Picture this: you’re 50, newly separated from your husband after 20 years of marriage, and diving into the world of casual dating and sex. How do you navigate sex safely as an older woman in the new world of dating app culture? You’ve come to the right place. In this week’s advice episode, we’re discussing our favorite topic: sex—how to talk about it with potential partners and how to navigate it safely when getting back out there.

Join Erin as she offers her subjective POV on the ups and downs of post-divorce dating and shares practical tips and insights from her personal experiences. Here's what you can expect:

1. You decide the timeline: you don’t need to rush into dating and sex after getting out of a long marriage, but it’s also ok if you want to!
2. Try multiple different dating apps to get your feet wet, but be patient with the results
3. Trust your intuition: vet your partners, talk to a lot of different people, and don’t be afraid to assert your boundaries
4. Safety First: Meet in public spaces for the first time and don’t shy away from discussing safe sex once intimacy comes into the picture

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Jessi Hempel is many things: an award-winning journalist, podcaster, author, and senior editor-at-large at LinkedIn. But despite her myriad accomplishments, she shies away from labeling herself as ‘successful’. For Jessi, her illustrious career as a technology and business journalist was always a stepping stone on the path to her childhood dream of writing a book. However, after the publication of her memoir, "The Family Outing," Jessi found herself facing an existential quandary: what comes next after you achieve your ultimate goal?

In this episode, Jessi takes the helm as we navigate through diverse topics, from the uncertainty of charting a new career trajectory post-success, to the poignant journey of motherhood and the heart-wrenching experience of loss. Together, we delve into the complexities of gender and sexuality, drawing from Jessi's personal narrative, including the remarkable tale of her transgender brother who embarked on a unique journey of pregnancy. Here's what's on the agenda:

1. The challenges women face in defining success and navigating career milestones
2. What to do when you fall out of love with your career
3. Unpacking societal expectations and pressures surrounding motherhood
4. The profound joys and challenges of parenting, including Jessi's unexpected journey into parenthood and coping with loss
5. How experiences of loss can instill a "f*ck it" attitude, reshaping perspectives on life's brevity, and pursing meaning
6. Jessi's journey to writing her memoir and the liberation found in giving yourself permission to explore personal narratives
7. Why we need more nuance when it comes to speaking about and understanding gender and sexual identity
8. The ongoing struggle of asserting boundaries and saying no, even as you age

OUR GUEST: Jessi Hempel, a seasoned tech journalist and host of the acclaimed podcast Hello Monday, serves as senior editor-at-large at LinkedIn. With over two decades of experience, she has crafted compelling features and cover stories on prominent figures and companies in the tech sphere. Previously, Hempel held editorial leadership roles at Backchannel and Wired, and her insights have been featured on major news networks. She is also the esteemed author of The Family Outing, recognized by Time as one of the 100 Must-Read Books of 2022, now available in paperback. Hempel holds degrees from Brown University and U.C. Berkeley, residing in New York City.

Want more Jessi? Find her online at https://www.jessijhempel.com/ and listen to her podcast, Hello Monday, at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hello-monday-with-jessi-hempel/id1453893304

Follow Jessi on:

1. LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessihempel/
2. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jessiwrites/

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Broad Collective

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“If you get to the root of what it is that you care about, you will probably also find a path to meaningful work.”

Ever found yourself at a crossroads, wondering what’s next after already pursuing your professional dreams? In this week's advice-packed episode, we're delving into the daunting, yet exhilarating realm of career transitions. Whether you're eyeing a shift in industries or skill sets, especially later in life, the roadmap to your next chapter starts within.

Let Erin be your compass as she unpacks practical strategies for deciphering your next career move, including:

1. Get to the core of you: identify your passions, interests, and talents to guide your career decisions
2. Identify what you want to get out of work: Is it intellectual stimulation, flexible schedules, or financial stability?
3. Research fast-growing industries and seek advice from those who have successfully transitioned careers

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“The more you fear aging, the harder it's going to be. You’ve got to lean in.”

Happy 50th episode to Hotter Than Ever! We're thrilled to celebrate this milestone with you by sharing an incredible conversation with TV icon, Stacy London. You probably remember Stacy from TLC’s “What Not to Wear” where she turned fashion faux pas into fabulous looks and boosted self-esteem week after week. Now, she's shining a spotlight on menopause and women's health in midlife–topics long overlooked in both media and medical circles. Stacy's mission is crystal clear: it's time to rewrite the story on women and aging.

Join Stacy and Erin for an engaging and informative conversation on the intersection of perimenopause, menopause, aging, sexuality, and women’s health. Here’s what we explore:

1. Why Gen X is spearheading the revolution in conversations around women and aging
2. The importance of destigmatizing menopause and prioritizing women’s health in medical research and education
3. Banishing the "anti" in front of aging and instead, embracing it as a natural, vibrant phase of life.
4. How a study with flawed data halted scientific research on menopause for the last two decades
5. How the choices we make in midlife directly impact our vitality and longevity as we age
6. Dissecting the gaps in research on female physiology and women’s health, menopause and beyond
7. The importance of having representation of midlife women in media
8. The vital role that real-life connections and community building play in educating women on their health

OUR GUEST: Stacy London is best known as the co-host of the iconic TLC show, What Not To Wear. She has been a regular correspondent on the Today Show, The Oprah Show, Access Hollywood, and Rachael Ray. She served as the spokesperson for Pantene, Dr. Scholls, Lee Jeans, and Woolite. Her book, The Truth About Style, was a NYT bestseller. She is also an advisor to Wile, a wellness brand for women, and Evernow, a telehealth and menopause treatment platform. After her own debilitating experience with menopause, she now focuses on education and healthcare advocacy for those in mid-life and menopause. Her next project, a media platform, dedicated to these same issues will debut early in 2024.

Want more Stacy? Follow her on Instagram @stacylondonreal and Facebook @stacylondonofficial

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Broad Collective

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“How long are you going to let fear of other people's points of view dictate how you live your one and only life?”

We all want to be the most authentic versions of ourselves, but how do we overcome the fear of judgment, criticism, and rejection that’s holding us back? In today’s advice episode, we hear from a listener who is struggling to share her true self without reservation.

Drawing from Erin’s personal experiences with corporate life, divorce, and unexpected layoffs, she shares poignant insights that helped her embrace a liberating self-expression. The takeaway: no matter how daunting it may seem, authenticity always triumphs.

Tune in for practical tips on how to let go of your fear and why embracing our truth, not only empowers ourselves, but also fosters communities built on honesty and vulnerability.

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“Just because I'm uncomfortable with discomfort, it doesn't mean I'm not okay.”

Ever been laid off? Experienced the gut-wrenching dissolution of a relationship? Or maybe you're just grappling with the uncertainty of what comes next in your career or love life. Whatever the case, Erin's here to remind you that amidst these difficult transitions lies a world of potential–we just need to trust the process.

Join us as Erin shares her insights on navigating upheaval, embracing uncertainty, and finding beauty in the messy middle of change. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, discover how to thrive amidst life's twists and turns. We discuss:

1. Embracing the discomfort of transitions, recognizing them as opportunities for growth and renewal.
2. The importance of transition periods and taking the time to envision and build a new future, brick by brick
3. Trusting in the journey, finding comfort in discomfort, and knowing that clarity will come in its own time
4. Taking action in the face of uncertainty to navigate the in-between phases of life with resilience and grace.

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Broad Collective

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“I made it worse because I was not the master of my emotions.”

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where someone hits that emotional button you never knew existed? Did you end up regretting something you said or did in the heat of the moment? We've all been there. In today’s advice episode, we’re delving into a listener's question on how to control one’s mood and avoid being swayed by others’ actions.

Join us as Erin shares a recent personal story on the challenges of navigating relationships and emotions, along with tips for controlling how you can respond in the heat of the moment. These include:

1. Cultivating mindfulness through journaling, meditation, and staying present
2. Identifying your emotional buttons and their triggers, so that you’re prepared to address them
3. Developing a sense of self-mastery in how you navigate your world and control what affects you
4. Acknowledging and learning from your mistakes

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Eva Clay is on a mission to make sex a spiritual practice. With two decades of expertise, Eva has helped countless women defy the misconception that perimenopause and menopause mark the end of a woman's sexuality. In this riveting conversation, discover how midlife can unfold as a magnificent era of sexual exploration, fostering healthier, empowered, and fulfilled lives.

Get ready for an insightful and passionate exchange between Eva and Erin as they not only express their profound appreciation for midlife sexuality, but also delve into the biological benefits of menopause and the intricate relationship between sex and spirituality. You don’t want to miss this one. Here's what’s on the table:

1. Why midlife is far from a sexual retirement phase for women, but can be a vibrant era for sexual exploration and fulfillment
2. How actively pursuing sex, pleasure, and orgasms contributes to women's empowerment, health, and overall success.
3. Unpacking the biology behind perimenopause and menopause and how it strips away the inclination to accommodate others
4. Defining sexual archetypes in midlife: the Queen and the Witch
5. The importance of allowing oneself to be wild, rebellious, and impulsive in midlife
6. Redefining what sexuality looks like in midlife and how to take control of common challenges
7. How treating sex as a spiritual practice can lead to profound experiences and heightened creativity
8. Embracing a shift towards responsive, rather than spontaneous, sexuality in midlife

OUR GUEST: Eva Clay is an acclaimed sexologist, psychotherapist and professional troublemaker whose mission is to illuminate the ménage-a-trois of soul, sex and science. With a background as a former neuroscience professor, she intertwines intelligence with sensuality, unlocking innate pleasure potentials for thousands. As a seasoned practitioner of sexual tantra for over a decade, her work seamlessly blends the profound with the playful. Particularly passionate about guiding women through the midlife portal, Eva advocates for relishing the most vibrant phase of their sex and love life. Featured as an expert in VICE TV, Sexy-Fit, Truth-Telling, Super Power Experts, and The Sassy and Single Show, she also graces stages as a keynote speaker at Wanderlust yoga festivals.

Want more Eva? Find her online at www.EvaClay.com and follow her on Instagram: @evaclay

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Broad Collective

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