Hotter Than Ever

“You don't find fulfillment in material things”

You've heard the advice to "buy less" or "consume mindfully," but have you ever considered going cold turkey on buying altogether? As she chronicles in her book, "How to Buy Essentially Nothing for a Year,” Elizabeth Chai, a graphic designer by trade, did just that. For the past five years, Liz has refrained from purchasing anything non-essential, and she's here to share how this decision has brought her newfound freedom from trends and a deeper appreciation for what’s right in front of her.

In this episode, Liz unpacks her decision to abstain from buying, debunking the misconception that minimalism means living in a stark, white box. Instead, she reveals how it's about aligning your lifestyle with your values and priorities, while fostering gratitude for the possessions you already have. Join us as we explore:

1. How possessions often become symbols of identity and status and drive us to accumulate belongings unconsciously.
2. Practical tips for distinguishing between needs and wants, helping you make intentional purchasing decisions.
3. Shifting from mindless consumption to intentional living, and how it cultivates gratitude.
4. Embracing community-driven practices like clothing swaps and buy-nothing groups.
5. The effectiveness of tools like the “minimalism game” in decluttering and reevaluating your relationship with material possessions.
6. The pitfalls of “retail therapy” and the importance of seeking fulfillment beyond materialism.
7. The importance of committing to significant changes and holding yourself accountable with the support of others.

OUR GUEST: Elizabeth Chai is a graphic designer and self-proclaimed "Coffee Designer," blending her passions for design and the specialty coffee industry. Five years ago, she decided to make a significant change by abstaining from purchasing anything for an entire year, a narrative she shares in her book “How to Buy Essentially Nothing for a Year”. Through her experiences, Elizabeth aims to inspire others to embark on their own paths of self-reflection and intentional living.

Want more Liz? Find her and her book online at https://www.buyessentiallynothing.com/ and read more about her project in the New York Times. Follow her on Instagram @chaiamericano.

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“It really changes our lives when we give ourselves permission to have all the pleasure we deserve.”

Are using dating apps the modern-day equivalent of juggling a part-time job? For one of our listeners, the allure of Pure, a sexting app, has sparked both a whirlwind of fun and distraction that begs the question: How long will it last? Join Erin on this episode as she delves into the tantalizing world of digital intimacy, sharing her own experiences with and a myriad of dating apps.

From anonymous sexting with zero stakes to setting boundaries and embracing validation, Erin offers candid insights from her experiences on managing attention and fulfillment in the realm of online connections.

1. What sets Pure apart from other apps, and how to engage in anonymous and fun sexting experiences
2. Breaking down the landscape of dating apps and what each one is best for
3. Why online flirting is deeply validating and how you can embrace the positive attention that comes from dating apps
4. Setting boundaries and listening to your intuition when interacting with potential partners on dating apps
5. Tips for staying anonymous and communicating safely on the apps

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“How can I be the breadwinner and also the one who knows the name of my child's dentist?”

When Eve Rodsky received a text from her husband that read, “I'm surprised you didn't get blueberries”, it sparked a revelation. It wasn't just about the fruit; it was about the deeper imbalance in their household dynamics. Fast forward over a decade, and Eve has emerged as a leading voice in reshaping the gender division of labor. With two groundbreaking books under her belt – “Fair Play” and “Find Your Unicorn Space” – Eve's mission is clear: to revolutionize how partners share the burden of domestic responsibilities, ensuring women no longer shoulder the lion's share of unpaid labor.

Join Erin and Eve for as they delve into Eve's journey of creating a gamified system to tackle household inequalities. They explore how societal norms and gender expectations perpetuate disparities in domestic responsibilities, igniting a fiery discussion sure to spark change in your own partnership. Get ready to reexamine and recalibrate as we unpack:

1. The concept of "Invisible Work" and its disproportionate burden on women, regardless of their career status or economic power.
2. The importance of asserting agency in the home and advocating for an equitable distribution of labor.
3. Recognizing and valuing the conception and planning of tasks, not just their execution.
4. How men embracing greater domestic responsibilities can empower women in the workplace and mitigate the "motherhood penalty."
5. Challenging the notion of infinite women's time versus finite men's time
6. Debunking toxic beliefs that fuel unequal distribution of domestic labor
7. The vital role of "unicorn space" in allowing women to pursue their passions outside traditional domestic roles.
8. Society's fixation on toxic positivity and the unrealistic expectations it puts on women to be constantly happy.

OUR GUEST: Eve Rodsky, a Harvard-trained attorney and organizational management expert, turned a personal struggle into a catalyst for social change when she asked the simple yet profound question: What would happen if we treated our homes as our most important organizations? Her bestselling book, “Fair Play”, offers a gamified system for balancing domestic workload and reimagining relationships, sparking vital conversations about unpaid labor. In her latest work, “Find Your Unicorn Space,” Rodsky explores the intersection of creativity, productivity, and resilience, offering an antidote to burnout. Born and raised by a single mom in NYC, she now resides in Los Angeles with her husband, Seth, and three children.

Want more Eve? Find her online at http://www.everodsky.com/ and https://www.fairplaylife.com/. Follow her on:

1. Instagram (@everodsky & @fairplaylife)
2. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/everodsky/

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Amanda Montei's fascination with understanding motherhood started long before she became a parent herself. However, it wasn't until she embarked on her PhD journey while welcoming her first child that she began to approach motherhood through a scholarly lens. In her illuminating book, "Touched Out: Motherhood, Misogyny, Consent, and Control," Amanda dissects the nuanced layers of societal expectations and judgments that surround women's bodies, particularly during motherhood, reminding us to be attentive to the stories that are being told to us.

Join us for a deep and fascinating episode as Erin and Amanda delve into the complexities of motherhood, dissecting societal norms, reclaiming bodily autonomy, and advocating for systemic reform. This conversation will encourage you to question the “expert” advice around motherhood spouted on social media, and instead to lean into your support systems, embrace your individuality, and set boundaries. Here’s what’s on the table:

1. How societal pressures encroach upon women's bodily autonomy in motherhood and beyond–and why we have to continuing questioning these expectations
2. Exploring the oppressive nature of advice-driven parenting culture online and its isolating impact on mothers
3. How the lack of systemic support, including paid leave, affordable childcare, and gender equity in parenting responsibilities, exacerbates the challenges faced by mothers.
4. Embracing advice from community support systems, rather than parenting experts and social media gurus
5. How embracing your individuality and setting boundaries in motherhood, not only empowers mothers, but also models these essential behaviors for children

OUR GUEST: Amanda Montei is the author of TOUCHED OUT: Motherhood, Misogyny, Consent, & Control (Beacon Press), as well as the memoir Two Memoirs (Jaded Ibis Press) and The Failure Age (Bloof Books). Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Guardian, ELLE, and other publications. She has taught writing at Stanford University, Columbia University, and other institutions, and has received support from In Cahoots and Riverrun Foundation. Amanda holds an MFA in Writing from California Institute of the Arts and a PhD in English literature from SUNY at Buffalo. She resides in California and runs the newsletter Mad Woman.

Want more Amanda? Find her online at https://www.amandamontei.com/ and subscribe to her Substack https://amandamontei.substack.com/.

Read Amanda’s writing:

1. Book: “Touched Out”
2. "Mothers Want to Be Left Alone"
3. “When I became a mother, I lost my body – and realized it never belonged to me”
4. “I Wanted to Teach My Daughter Bodily Autonomy. Motherhood Taught Me to Value My Own.”

Follow Amanda on social media:

1. Instagram: @amontei
2. Twitter/X: @amandamontei

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Nothing gets us more excited than witnessing one of our listeners burst back onto the dating scene after a long marriage. Yet, as thrilling as this new chapter may be, it can also come riddled with uncertainties. How can I ensure my safety while exploring new sexual partners? How can I feel confident in my body as an older woman? Join us as we welcome back marriage and family therapist, and sex educator Dr. Juliana Hauser, to help Erin shed light on these vital topics.

In this episode, Erin and Dr. J delve into a question from Amy, a 63-year-old woman venturing back into the dating scene after 33 years of marriage. We uncover practical advice that any woman can embrace to embark on her sexual journey with confidence and enthusiasm, including:

1. Self-Perception Matters: Why confidence in your worth and sexiness is your greatest asset in the dating world.
2. Trust Your Instincts: Engage in texts and phone calls before meeting in person to identify any potential red flags.
3. Set Boundaries Early: Understand the importance of setting boundaries and how to gauge a partner's respect for consent
4. Safety First: Strategies for meeting in public places, sharing plans with friends, and utilizing video calls for added security.
5. Embrace Your Body: Prioritize connection and pleasure over societal standards of what’s hot
6. Normalize Playfulness: Embrace a lighthearted approach to sex to alleviate pressure and tension in your sexual journey.

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OUR GUEST: Dr. Juliana Hauser, is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT), licensed professional counselor (LPC), and holds a PhD in Counseling Education. As a seasoned therapist and educator with a focus on sex positivity, she's authored sex-positive programs for Planned Parenthood, managed a halfway house, and worked with sexual abuse survivors and abusers. Her conversational therapy style has earned her the nickname 'you’re like my best girlfriend…with a PhD.' Join Dr. Hauser in her mission to spread holistic, non-intimidating sex positivity worldwide.

Want more Dr. Juliana? Find her online at https://dr-juliana.com/ and follow her on:

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2. Facebook: @drjulianamorris

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Since she was a girl, Dr. Susan Partovi felt the pull toward a career in medicine. But it wasn't until a transformative journey to Tijuana, Mexico that her calling took on a deeper meaning, igniting a lifelong commitment to championing the health of marginalized communities.

Now, after decades of serving people experiencing homelessness on the streets of Skid Row in Los Angeles, Susan stands as a testament to the vitality and impact of women flourishing in their passions after 40, all while uplifting society's most vulnerable.

While "Hotter Than Ever" isn't a show about social issues, Susan's remarkable work - and the fact that she’s a relatable woman our age taking on such a big challenge - compelled us to spotlight her story.

Join us as we explore the challenges and complexities of addressing homelessness, mental illness, and substance use disorders with raw honesty and insight. Susan's story is a treasure trove of wisdom, showcasing resilience and the profound impact of human connection that can inspire transformative change within any community. We discuss:

1. The importance of honoring people’s humanity, no matter their circumstances
2. Defining harm reduction, and advocating for non-judgmental approaches to addressing substance use and mental health issues among the unhoused
3. Examining the systemic factors contributing to homelessness, including trauma, inadequate mental health support, and societal stigma
4. Reframing language to remove judgment and cultivating empathy in health and helping vulnerable communities
5. How money is distributed for homelessness solutions and why costs are still high despite the problem’s persistence
6. Strategies for improving care and housing options for the severely mentally ill
7. The importance of maintaining a balance between serving others and self-care (like having boundaries in our dating lives!)

OUR GUEST: Born and raised in Los Angeles, Dr. Susan Partovi developed a passion for serving the underserved during high school, catalyzed by volunteering in Tijuana. After earning a medical degree from Thomas Jefferson Medical School and completing residency at Harbor – UCLA Medical Center, Dr. Partovi dedicated herself to providing healthcare to the homeless and uninsured. As a faculty member at Harbor, she mentored future healthcare professionals for six years before becoming medical director at Homeless Health Care Los Angeles in 2006, pioneering street medicine initiatives. Her advocacy extends internationally through H.E.A.L., a nonprofit she co-founded to provide healthcare in Haiti. Through writing and media, Dr. Partovi amplifies the voices of the marginalized, advocating for compassionate healthcare and social justice.

Want more Dr. Susan Partovi? Find her online at https://therenegademd.com/ and read her book “Renegade MD: A Doctor’s Stories from the Streets”

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2. Facebook:@the_renegade_md
3. TikTok: @the_renegade_md
4. LinkedIn: Susan Partovi

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Broad Collective

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“There's so much bravery in saying ‘my sex life matters’”

Imagine this: you've just broken free from a decade-long relationship that didn't quite fit, and then you find someone new, someone exciting, and the text messages start heating up. But as you settle into the relationship, you realize your partner isn't quite on the same page when it comes to acting on those steamy promises. How do you navigate this shift in your sexual dynamic? Lucky for us, we have marriage and family therapist and sex educator Dr. Juliana Hauser joining us again on Hotter Than Ever to help tackle our latest listener question.

Join Erin and Dr. Juliana as they discuss the importance of clear and unapologetic communication of sexual needs and desires within relationships, offering practical strategies for addressing these discrepancies with your partner. Here's a sneak peek of what's in store:

1. Sexuality is not a luxury, but a necessity and it should be prioritized as such
2. Talk about sexual needs as a team, focusing on understanding each other's perspectives and co-creating solutions
3. Identify the behavioral changes and solutions you’re looking for before you talk about them with your partner
4. How trauma, fantasies and changes in life circumstances can create differences in sexual expression
5. Ensure that empathy doesn’t overshadow your agency and advocating for your needs and desires
6. Keep the initial conversation focused, intentional, and short

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OUR GUEST: Dr. Juliana Hauser, is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT), licensed professional counselor (LPC), and holds a PhD in Counseling Education. As a seasoned therapist and educator with a focus on sex positivity, she's authored sex-positive programs for Planned Parenthood, managed a halfway house, and worked with sexual abuse survivors and abusers. Her conversational therapy style has earned her the nickname 'you’re like my best girlfriend…with a PhD.' Join Dr. Hauser in her mission to spread holistic, non-intimidating sex positivity worldwide.

Want more Dr. Juliana? Find her online at https://dr-juliana.com/ and follow her on:

1. Instagram: @drjulianahauser
2. Facebook: @drjulianamorris

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“Mushrooms are for getting over your horseshit so you can move on with life.”

Like most comedians, Negin Farsad was a self-described skeptic, especially when it came to the trendy world of "magic mushrooms" and psychedelic retreats sweeping the wellness scene. But when a writing assignment led her to participate in a psilocybin retreat, she found herself on a transformative path she never expected.

In this captivating episode, Negin shares her initial doubts and ultimate revelations as she delves into the world of psychedelics. What began as a journalistic endeavor quickly evolved into a deeply profound experience, challenging Negin to confront past traumas and rediscover and forgive herself in unexpected ways. Whether you're a mushroom enthusiast or a curious skeptic, Negin’s story offers incredible insights into the potential of psychedelics to heal and transform. Join us as we explore:

1. The immersive experience of a psychedelic retreat and its fusion of therapy and medicine
2. Negin's surreal journey into an "ego death" and how embodying Serena Williams helped her banish self-doubt
3. The pervasive nature of self-doubt among women and how we can dispel it
4. Confronting suppressed trauma and finding forgiveness and healing through psilocybin
5. The sense of unity and connection fostered among a diverse group of participants during the retreat
6. Neuroplasticity and how psychedelics create a unique window for personal growth and transformation

OUR GUEST: Negin Farsad is a TEDFellow and gave a TEDTalk on social justice comedy seen by millions. She is a regular on NPR’s Wait Wait Don’t Tell Me and Neil deGrasse Tyson’s StarTalk. She is author of the Thurber Prize-nominated How to Make White People Laugh and host of the podcast Fake the Nation. You can see her on HBO’s High Maintenance, Hulu’s Not Okay, and starring on HBOMax’s Birdgirl. She’s also a gutsy woman on Hillary Clinton’s Gutsy series for Apple TV+. Farsad has written for the Guardian, Oprah Magazine, and the New York Times. She once sued the MTA for the right to put up funny posters about Muslims, and won.

Want more Negin? Find her online at http://neginfarsad.com/ and listen to her podcast “Fake the Nation HERE. You can follow Negin on social media:

1. Instagram: @neginfarsad
2. Twitter/X: @NeginFarsad
3. Facebook: @neginfarsad
4. TikTok: @neginfarsad

Read Negin’s Afar Magazine article At a Magic Mushroom Retreat, a Comedian Reluctantly Embraces Her “Healing Journey” and watch her TED talk HERE.

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Have you ever wondered about the therapeutic potential of psilocybin or "magic mushrooms" for treating anxiety or menopause? Or perhaps you've heard of people swapping out alcohol for shrooms? In today's advice episode, we're thrilled to welcome back Tracey Tee, the founder of "Moms on Mushrooms" (M.O.M), to tackle our latest listener inquiry. Tracey sheds light on why women are turning to microdosing mushrooms to address anxiety and menopause. In a world where conventional treatments often fall short, Tracy is empowering women to chart a new course, reclaiming their inner selves and navigating their “third act” with agency and grace.

Join us for an informative and eye-opening conversation as Tracy shares insights gleaned from her personal journey and community work through M.O.M. You'll discover:

1. The benefits of magic mushrooms over SSRI medications for treating anxiety, and processing emotions
2. How psilocybin can be a powerful tool in helping individuals overcome addiction, including alcohol dependency
3. Psilocybin and menopause: how mushrooms can improve emotional well-being, reduce inflammation, and help you navigate menopause with greater agency

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OUR GUEST: Tracey Tee, active in the momosphere for over a decade, co-created The Pump and Dump Show, starred in its nationally touring comedy, and co-produced the Band of Mothers Podcast. She's also the CEO of Band of Mothers Media. Inspired by her own psilocybin journey during the pandemic, in 2022, she launched M.O.M. (Moms on Mushrooms), an online microdosing course for moms. Tracey's mission is to unite mothers through plant medicine for personal growth and healing. M.O.M. has gained widespread recognition, featuring on NPR, Today Show, Piers Morgan, Rolling Stone, CBS Saturday Morning, PBS, Colorado Public Radio, NBC News, and Romper Magazine. Tracey resides in Denver, Colorado, with her husband of 21 years and their 12-year-old miracle daughter. She aims to create a conscious, Sacred Feminine-inspired model of doing business.

Want more Tracey? Find her and her courses online at https://www.momsonmushrooms.com/ and follow her work on Instagram at @momsonmushroomsofficial

Read more about the microdosing study Tracey is collaborating on with Dr. Pamela Kryskow HERE

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“Your identity and your life is lived through your body”

In a time where many of us find ourselves disconnected from our bodies, Margo Steines relentlessly chased physical pain. As she recalls in her gripping memoir “Brutalities: A Love Story”, Margo pursued extreme experiences—drugs, sexual violence, and abusive relationships—as avenues to escape psychological discomfort and to feel alive.

Throughout this episode, Margo shares her ever-evolving relationship with her body from working as a professional dominatrix, to an ironworker, and later as a writer and mother, the latter of which revolutionized her relationship with her body. It is a profound conversation on identity evolution, mental health, family dynamics, self-love, and what it means to be human beings living within physical bodies in this confusing modern world. Join us as we discuss:

1. Margo’s path to pursuing pain through sex work and BDSM
2. The power of aging and how it allows us to uncover profound truths about ourselves
3. Nature vs. nurture and how inherent traits and environmental influences shape our identities in different ways
4. The lasting impact of childhood experiences in shaping adult behavior and coping mechanisms
5. The interconnectedness of body and identity and the transformative effect of motherhood
6. The importance of ongoing self-reflection, growth, and embracing the fluidity of identity

OUR GUEST: Margo Steines holds an MFA in nonfiction writing from the University of Arizona, where she is faculty in the Writing Program. Her work was named Notable in Best American Essays and has appeared in The Sun, Slate, Air Mail, Brevity, Off Assignment, The New York Times (Modern Love), the anthology Letter to a Stranger, and elsewhere. She is the author of the memoir-in-essays ‘Brutalities: A Love Story’. Margo is a born-and-raised New Yorker, a journeyman ironworker, and serves as mom to a small person. She is also a private creative coach and writing class facilitator. You can read more about her practices at margosteines.com.

Want more Margo? Find her online at https://www.margosteines.com and her book HERE. Take her writing classes at https://www.margosteines.com/classes

Follow Margo on Instagram @redstateblues and Twitter/X @margosteines

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