Couples are afraid of each other's growth.  We are afraid that if our partner grows too much, expands too much, has breakthroughs, they may in fact outgrow us and leave us behind.

Couples hold each other back in order to insure their own security in the relationship. We don't always feel that our partner expanding is necessarily in our best interest.

So we hold each other back.  And the only way we can accomplish this is through lies and camouflage.  Nobody is going to step up and confess that they are making an effort to hold their partner back in life.  So we have to invent a cover and lie with skill to get the job done.

What's more, often times the lies are operating on both sides.  It's not so much that one partner is lying to another.  It's more that both partners are engaged in a conspiracy of lies to stay stuck and stagnant in their current state.

Om Rupani

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