How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

By Dr Maryhan

Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a moveme

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Number 1: When Your Child Won't Go to School
A child melts down at the door, stomach pain, tears, refusal, and you’re standing there with a 9am meeting to get to, unsure whether to push harder or give in. Your child is at a developmental crossroads, but when should does normal age-appropriate behaviour become emotionally based school avoidance (EBSA)? And more importantly, what can you do about it? Not every worry is an anxiety disorder, and when we treat normal discomfort as something it isn’t, we risk teaching children that hard feelings mean something is wrong with them. In this episode, I help you to understand the difference between something totally expected for your child’s developmental stage, versus something that may need some additional support and attention. I am going to share the four functions of avoidance to look out for, and give you some practical things you can do to help your kids right away. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 00:56 - 2 truths 07:25 - 4 reasons for school avoidance 10:48 - 3 levels of distress tolerance 16:13 - The core skills you’re building 19:01 - Neurodiversity and school avoidance 24:39 - Maryhan’s top tips 31:46 - You can do these things right now… 37:52 - Where to get support 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
September 23, 202644min
Number 2: Bucket Emptying: How Much Your Child Really Needs (and What To Do If They're Not Getting It)
Is bedtime a battle? Does your child wake through the night? Or are you simply unsure whether your child is getting enough sleep? Most parents think of sleep as “rest”, but once you understand what sleep is actually doing inside your child’s developing brain, everything changes. In today’s episode, I break down the science behind sleep - what it really says about memory consolidation, emotional regulation, growth, immunity and mental health, and how chronic sleep loss shows up in behaviour in more ways than just yawning! I’ll walk you through age‑by‑age sleep guidelines, the neuroscience behind sleep, why some children wake repeatedly, why teenagers genuinely can’t fall asleep early, and how circadian rhythm disruptions quietly sabotage bedtime. And I also share with you five practical, proven things that genuinely help, and you can start doing them tonight. Sleep isn’t a luxury. It’s the foundation of learning, behaviour, resilience and emotional wellbeing. Once you understand this, you’ll never look at bedtime the same way again. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 01:00 - Your child does 4 things in sleep that they do not do awake 04:27 - Sleep is not a luxury item 08:02 - How much sleep does your child need? 11:40 - Learnt sleep associations 16:34 - 5 things that actually help 23:11 - Practical things you can do 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
September 20, 202633min
Number 3: What Your Child's Friendships Are Really Telling You
Today, I’m diving deep into one of the most emotionally charged parts of parenting: your child’s friendships. I’ll show you how to read what their social world is really telling you, how to recognise what’s developmentally normal, and how to support them without stepping in too fast or taking over. I will explain the difference between friendship friction and genuine red flags, how to coach your child from the sidelines, and how to make home the safest place for them to talk about their social world. I also unpack the unique challenges neurodiverse children face in friendships and give you clear, practical things you can right now to help. If you’ve ever worried about your child being left out, dropped, overwhelmed, or stuck in friendship drama, this episode will give you clarity, confidence, and a roadmap for what to do next. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 00:46 - Friendships are developmental 04:45 - The foundations of a healthy friendship 11:11 - Things you can do 15:05 - Quality over quantity 18:39 - Know what is age appropriate 22:25 - The three parts of an apology 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
September 16, 202630min
Number 4: Bucket Emptying: Why Toddlers Have Tantrums (And What Actually Helps)
Spoiler alert: a tantrum isn’t bad behaviour. It’s a developmental event that happens when your kid’s nervous system is really overwhelmed. When your children have tantrums, it is never a reflection of you or your parenting. It’s a completely normal and age appropriate thing. So in this episode, I’m diving into the world of toddler tantrums - what causes them, what happens in your child’s brain at that moment, and the five things that genuinely help. You’ll learn why reasoning never works during a meltdown, how your calm becomes their co‑regulation, why naming the feeling (not the behaviour) changes everything, and how staying close and reconnecting afterwards builds emotional regulation, resilience, confidence and long‑term self‑belief. If you’ve ever felt stuck, frustrated or unsure how to respond when your toddler explodes, this episode gives you a clear, compassionate roadmap that works. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 00:58 - The spiky beaker 03:36 - Look through a wide lens 09:10 - Co-regulation 11:06 - Do not try to reason 16:20 - Name the feeling 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
September 13, 202624min
Number 5: How to Raise a Confident Child
How do you know if your child is confident, or just masking? In today’s episode, I explain the two core skills that create genuine, lifelong confidence, and once you understand these foundations, helping your child become braver, more resilient, and more willing to try new things becomes so much easier. I walk you through the wide‑lens approach I use with families, showing you how confidence grows through lived experience AND I share the five practical strategies I recommend for toddlers, primary‑aged children, and teenagers. If you’ve ever worried about a child who won’t try new things, who crumbles at the first sign of difficulty, or who compares themselves harshly to others, this episode will give you the language and mindset to help them grow real confidence from the inside out. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 01:06 - Confidence is not fearless 05:28 - Self-effigacy and self-worth 09:47 - Confidence is trying anyway 13:41 - How to deal with pre-schoolers 17:13 - Age and stage appropriate levels 21:48 - Watch the labels 27:42 - Separate worth from performance 32:42 - Hold first, help second 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
September 09, 202638min