Marriage means you change.

You start to open up and stand up for yourself, and suddenly you feel irritated and unsure.

It’s not just him anymore—it’s everyone—and you keep asking: what do I want?

I lost my dog and realized how much I had been ignoring my own wants because other people didn’t approve. I thought being “free” meant giving myself up.

When I finally chose what I needed, everything shifted. I stopped blaming and started saying: I need this. I want this. I want to feel this way.

And I learned that being honest is harder than being angry—but it changes everything.

If he wants to be with you, he will shift.

As long as you shift into saying the truth, the second you start laying fault on him, he’s going to back up and it won’t work.

When you have rage, talk about your rage to the women and all of us here on Siren Island or your coach, and learn how to say: I’m feeling enraged. I want to hit things. Instead of “you’re an idiot.”

I actually discovered I said to myself, “oh my God, I’m an idiot,” and I didn’t even realize it. And my husband said, “you’re not an idiot. Don’t say that to yourself.” And I went, “thank you.”

That’s the relationship you want.

You can join us on Siren Island here:

https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/

Love, Rori