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If you have ever pretzeled yourself to keep the peace, avoided a hard conversation, or woken up wondering how you got so far from yourself, this episode is for you. I sat down with human connection expert and author Mark Groves to talk about codependency, self abandonment, shame, and what it actually looks like to stop leaving yourself to belong to other people. We get into why telling the truth is the most radical act of self reclamation, how to know when you have outgrown an adaptive strategy, and why the boundary that feels like it will break everything is usually the thing that sets both people free.

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:38 - How Mark Groves Became a Human Connection Expert

3:44 - The Hardest Conversation He Ever Had (And Why It Led Him Back to Himself)

5:16 - Cathy's Codependency Wake-Up Call: "I Need to Be in All Seven Places"

7:03 - Why Belonging Wins Over Authenticity Every Time (And What to Do About It)

11:43 - Why Women Especially Struggle to Ask for What They Need

13:10 - "I Leave Me to Be With People Because I'm Afraid They'll Leave Me"

17:52 - The Dinner Party Where Two Strangers Admitted They Were Addicts — And It Was the Best Night Ever

21:21 - How to Get Into Your Shame Instead of Running From It

23:50 - The Meditation That Changed Everything: Welcoming Home Your Younger Self

27:09 - Going Back to Meet Your Seven-Year-Old Self

35:44 - The Biggest Way We Self-Sabotage (It's Not What You Think)

37:29 - Why Receiving Love Can Feel More Terrifying Than Losing It

40:11 - What to Do When You Ask Yourself What You Want and the Answer Is "I Don't Know"

45:39 - Stop Trying to Heal Other People — Inspiration Is Born From Self-Transformation

53:17 - Six Takeaways to Carry With You

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I also share some of my favorite stories about divine timing, including how getting lost in Orlando after missing a person I drove hours to see ended up changing the entire direction of my life, how missing a train by two minutes may have saved me from a derailment, and what happened the night I paid for a stranger's first date after losing my dad.

This one is about what it looks like to stop scanning for what's wrong and start trusting that you are always exactly where you are supposed to be.

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2:01 - When the Life You Built No Longer Feels Aligned: Three Things to Do

5:53 - How Do You Trust Life When It Unfolds Differently Than You Prayed For?

8:08 - The First 10 Minutes of Your Day Are Xeroxed to Be the Rest of It

10:40 - The Sushi Restaurant, the Widow & the Divine Wink After Losing Her Dad

16:22 - Why Your Soul Doesn't Want Success — It Wants Significance

35:18 - The Woman at the Car Dealership & How One Conversation Changed Her Day

38:08 - No One Dies Alone: The Story That Proves Divine Order Is Real

43:15 - Six Takeaways to Carry With You

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What if the moments that feel like setbacks are actually the most perfectly orchestrated ones of your life? In this solo episode I'm sharing three ideas that I keep coming back to: breaking old identities, taking courageous action, and choosing certainty over logic. I also share some of my favorite stories about divine timing, including how getting lost in Orlando after missing a person I drove hours to see ended up changing the entire direction of my life, how missing a train by two minutes may have saved me from a derailment, and what happened the night I paid for a stranger's first date after losing my dad. This one is about what it looks like to stop scanning for what's wrong and start trusting that you are always exactly where you are supposed to be.

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

2:01 - When the Life You Built No Longer Feels Aligned: Three Things to Do

5:53 - How Do You Trust Life When It Unfolds Differently Than You Prayed For?

8:08 - The First 10 Minutes of Your Day Are Xeroxed to Be the Rest of It

10:40 - The Sushi Restaurant, the Widow & the Divine Wink After Losing Her Dad

16:22 - Why Your Soul Doesn't Want Success — It Wants Significance

22:06 - The Moment That Redirected Her Entire Life (Getting Lost in Orlando)

33:46 - Why Achieving Everything You Wanted Still Leaves You Empty

35:18 - The Woman at the Car Dealership & How One Conversation Changed Her Day

38:08 - No One Dies Alone: The Story That Proves Divine Order Is Real

43:15 - Six Takeaways to Carry With You

• Get your ticket to Cathy Heller Live: Divine Download in LA, August 2-3 cathyheller.com/summit

How can you stop working so hard from your mind, and move into your most abundant timeline by following the wisdom of your heart? In this powerful session, Cathy breaks down the essential morning practice of meeting with your soul before the world tells you who to be. You’ll also learn how to plug into your internal divine CFO, manifest delight and surprise every day, live on assignment with your soul, and update your internal operating system to finally receive the miracles waiting for you in escrow.

- Join us in LA on Aug. 2-3 for the Cathy Heller Live: Divine Download! cathyheller.com/summit

*Important Announcement: Episodes will be coming out on Thursdays from now on!

What if your brain is actually wired to connect with God, and your spiritual life is the missing key to your health and healing? Dr. Lisa Miller, psychologist, Columbia professor and bestselling author is back to explore the science of spirituality and what happens in the brain when we awaken to a relationship with the Divine. She shares the MRI research on the "spiritual brain," how love and faith transform our biology, why imagination is a divine antenna for downloads and creativity, and what it means to live an awakened life.

- Join us in LA on Aug. 2-3 for Cathy's summit! cathyheller.com/summit

- Read The Awakened Brain by Dr. Lisa Miller https://www.lisamillerphd.com/

- Follow Dr. Lisa Miller on Instagram @dr.lisamiller

- Previous episode with Dr. Lisa Miller https://cathyheller.com/2023/07/dr-lisa-miller-on-how-to-tap-into-your-awakened-brain-embark-on-a-spiritual-adventure/

What if the hardest thing you’ve ever faced was actually your doorway to miracles, purpose, and a deeper experience of love? Amy Purdy, Paralympic medalist, bestselling author, and speaker opens up about the second life-altering injury that brought years of chronic pain, 10 surgeries during COVID, and a complete breakdown of her identity - plus the astonishing miracle that saved her leg. She reveals how a list of 21 truths turned into her new book Bounce Forward, how she chose love in the midst of a near-death experience, and how presence, surrender, and love can turn our deepest challenges into a truly meaningful, miraculous life.
- Apply for Cathy's Mastermind - early bird pricing ends May 15th https://cathyheller.com/mastermind-august-2026-july-2027/
- Get Amy's new book, Bounce Forward: 21 Tools to Live a Life Beyond Limits https://amypurdy.com/bounce-forward-book/
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How do you actually date, glow up, and trust God’s breadcrumbs in your 30s and 40s (and beyond)? Cathy sits down with her friends Sabrina Soto and Zoe Kelsey for a behind the scenes girlfriends conversation about dating younger men, making big identity shifts, the difference between taking action from desperation vs. aligned energy, and finally refusing to over-function and people-please your way through love and work.

- Sign up for Cathy's live masterclass on the energy of receiving more, April 22 @ 7 am PT | 10 am ET cathyheller.com/masterclass

- Follow Sabrina Soto @sabrina_soto and Zoe Kelsey @weshinewell on Instagram 

What if the moment you finally surrender to God is the moment your real life begins? Krista Williams, cohost of the Almost 30 Podcast, coach, and speaker is back to share how rebuilding a loving, personal relationship with God prepared her for divorce, rock bottoms, and a complete soul-level reinvention. She and Cathy unpack spiritual surrender vs. control, why you don’t have to come to God perfectly to be deeply loved and supported, and how to make fun and play your practice.

- Sign up for Cathy's live masterclass on the energy of receiving more April 22nd @ 10 am ET cathyheller.com/masterclass

- Follow Krista on Instagram @itskrista

- Krista's coaching programs, workshops, and retreats https://itskrista.com/

- Listen the Almost 30 Podcast wherever you get your podcasts 

Have you ever felt like you’re stuck in a "financial Groundhog Day," where no matter how hard you work, you hit the same glass ceiling? Cathy and Kate Northrup uncover why we are often subconsciously addicted to stress, pressure, and the struggle, what is unconsciously self sabotaging you from manifesting the flow of money, how to reset your money mindset when it's out of alignment, and how to signal safety to your nervous system as you scale.

- Join Cathy and Kate Northrup live today, April 10th @ 7 am PT / 10 am ET for a Free workshop about how to be Good With Money. Replay available. Register at cathyheller.com/katecall