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How to Drop the Holiday Dread: Coco and Lala on Expectations, Shoulds & Making the Season Actually Fun


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Hey babes! This one is JUICY. Nicole and I are bringing you a full holiday intervention—Coco & Lala style. If you’re already feeling the pressure of “doing the holidays right,” this episode is your warm hug, your reality check, and your permission slip to STOP performing and start actually enjoying yourself. 💁‍♀️✨

We dive into the three big holiday questions every woman needs to ask:

1. What dreadful thing are you dropping this season?

Because newsflash: no big disaster happened because I stopped sending holiday cards. You get to drop the stuff that drains you. You get to say no. You get to stop performing for invisible judges who don’t even care. ✔️

2. What holiday dream are you adding?

Maybe it’s two full weeks off. Maybe it’s catering your annual party. Maybe it’s reading on the couch for hours with the tree lit. Let the question simmer—your dream will find you.

3. What manual (those sneaky expectations of other people!) are you burning?

Your partner, your mother-in-law, your kids—they’re going to show up how they’ve always shown up. Radical acceptance isn’t giving up… it’s giving yourself freedom.

Along the way, you’ll hear me negotiating with my hubby Brian about hiring someone to put up the Christmas tree (tradition wins… for now), Nicole’s surprisingly chill holiday philosophy, and how to avoid setting yourself up for years of self-inflicted expectations (Elf on the Shelf girlies… I’m talking to you).

This episode is your guide to a calmer, cozier, saner season—one where you drop the dread, keep the joy, and build real community around what matters most.

You’ll hear:

  • Why holiday resentment is often just unspoken expectations
  • How to “drop one dread” and prove nothing bad happens
  • Why controlling adults literally never works (ever)
  • How to be surprised—in a GOOD way—by your partner
  • Why community and accountability make everything feel lighter
  • How to prevent holiday chaos you’ll regret committing to for 10+ years
  • Why guilt is sometimes a sign you’re taking care of yourself
  • How to embrace the truth: the shoe will drop someday… so enjoy your good season NOW


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Let us know in the comments:


  1. What dread are you dropping?
  2. What dream are you adding?
  3. And who are you finally accepting for exactly who they’ve always been?

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