Jessica Baum shares her personal journey through anxiety and depression that led her into studying attachment theory and writing her books. She explains how cultural messages about independence often conflict with our biological need for connection, and how healing happens through safe, consistent relationships. Her work emphasizes the importance of “anchors”—people who can provide presence, safety, and co-regulation—as a pathway toward secure attachment and earned security.

Colter, Lauren, and Jessica talk about topics such as:

- Codependency = anxious attachment

- Cultural pressure for independence

- Healing through safe connection

- Importance of anchors/secure people

- Co-regulation before self-regulation

- Familiar vs. healthy attraction

Freebie from Jessica: https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/interview

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