Talking points: attachment, relationships

Got a LOT of requests for this one! Relationships between anxious attachment and avoidant attachment folks are actually quite common. They can also be extremely tough. Listen in for what they're like, why the patterns are hard to break, and how to move towards a secure, grounded partnership.

(00:00:00) - Intro, what characterizes the anxious-avoidant dance, and why there’s no “villain”
(00:04:08) - Why that dance is so strong
(00:08:28) - Examples of the anxious-avoidant dynamic
(00:12:58) - Can anxious-avoidant relationships actually work, how to know if it won’t, and how to END the dance
(00:16:56) - The “protest and punishment” behaviors, and how to self-identify if you’re the anxious partner
(00:21:23) - How to self-identify if you’re the avoidant one
(00:27:05) - So what do you to? Tips for the anxious
(00:33:05) - Tips for the avoidant
(00:38:19) - What to do together

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How To Fix An Anxious-Avoidant Relationship - A Man's Guide

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Talking points: mindset, the shadow

I've been fascinated by the power of a good question for as long as I can remember. These are five simple (but not easy) ones that have radically altered my life for the better. I still use them today when I'm feeling stuck or unsure in my health, business, and relationships. Listen in!

(00:00:00) - Intro and the importance of good questions
(00:04:00) - Your mind has a LOT of unconscious content, and it’s actually useful
(00:06:43) - The benefit of framing questions as “sentence stems”
(00:08:45) - “The one thing I don’t like people to know about me is…”
(00:10:25) - “The one thing I could take action on that would make a difference is…”
(00:12:58) - “Is this something I can influence, or is it out of my control?”
(00:16:10) - “What really hard thing can I do that will make my life better?”
(00:18:35) - “What am I missing by choosing to worry?”

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5 Questions That Will Change Your Life

Talking points: relationships, authenticity, mindset

How do you truly live life for yourself while navigating a relationship? What does it take to navigate what both of you want without creating resentment? How do you break free from what you're "supposed" to be—but remain authentic? These are all questions Lisa Bilyeu has had to answer in order to create an incredible life, and she's answered them powerfully. A privilege to sit down with her and dig into the intensity that can be modern relationships! Definitely going to be a part two!

(00:00:00) - Intro and Lisa’s defining moment
(00:07:25) - How Lisa held onto her authenticity and broke free from external validation
(00:12:49) - Lisa’s take on modern relationships, and the nuances of what women want
(00:27:19) - What women really want men to understand
(00:37:55) - How Lisa and her husband navigate who leads in the relationship

Lisa Bilyeu is cofounder of the billion-dollar company Quest Nutrition and cofounder and President of Impact Theory. She is the host of Women of Impact, a show featuring women who have overcome incredible hardship to achieve massive success. Her mission is to empower all women to become the heroes of their own lives.

Connect with Lisa
-Book: Radical Confidence: https://bit.ly/49Yx3f1
-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/
-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/WomenofImpact
-Podcast: Women Of Impact: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-of-impact/id1435217865

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Lisa Bilyeu - Staying Authentic In A Relationship

Talking points: psychology, shame, mindset

Trying so hard not to reference the bell ringing lady in Game of Thrones right now. Seriously though, a lot of us let shame run our lives. There are legitimate reasons why, but it doesn't have to stay that way. Listen in for how it starts, why it's so hard to clear, and ten (yes, ten!) thing you can do to break free.

(00:00:00) - Intro and how to better define shame
(00:03:30) - Why shame is so hard to get rid of: it’s natural, and its has a somatic component
(00:08:16) - It also can reinforce trauma. Here’s how they get connected
(00:13:52) - Shame as a source of safety
(00:18:36) - Understanding the physical side of shame
(00:23:21) - What does NOT help
(00:25:51) - When to seek professional help
(00:26:59) - Ten ways to move through shame. First one? Use curiosity to challenge it
(00:30:32) - Mindfulness skills, reframing, and separating personhood from behaviour
(00:35:00) - Putting the same in context, treating as a belief vs identity, and putting blame where it belongs
(00:40:01) - Finding an alternative story, and practicing expressing boundaries and assertiveness

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A Man's Guide To Ending Shame

Talking points: masculinity, culture, mindset

We've had a lot of new listeners recently, and this interview deserves a ton of attention. Jason's words and work are powerful examples of how important men's work can be. This is a re-release of one of my favorite interviews, one of the most impactful stories, and worth every minute. Dig in for thoughts on comprehensive masculinity, the dangers of "grindset", and so much more.

(00:00:00) - Intro and Jason’s defining moment
(00:07:45) - The video that got Jason global attention
(00:13:22) - Defining “emotional incarceration” and its devastating effect on men
(00:18:58) - Why do some men have such an aversion to rest and replenishment?
(00:24:52) - How Jason got into martial arts, and how he uses it to support young men
(00:33:54) - On the importance and teaching of defeat

Jason Wilson is the founder and CEO of the Yunion (pronounced union), a non-profit youth development organization in Detroit Michigan. Since 2003, the Yunion has effectively reached more than 15,000 youth and young adults through innovative prevention programming, trauma-informed care, parental engagement, and counseling. In 2008, Mr. Wilson’s heart for fatherless and misguided black boys inspired him to create and direct the Cave of Adullam Transformational Training Academy (CATTA).

As an expert in Emotional Stability Training®, Wilson’s leadership has garnered the CATTA numerous acknowledgments and awards for his work teaching males how to introspectively confront and conquer their negative emotions with composure. In 2016, one of the CATTA’s videos went viral with over 80 million views worldwide. As a result, Mr. Wilson was invited to be a guest on the Dr. Oz Show and to present the CATTA at President Obama’s ‘My Brother’s Keeper’ Showcase at the White House. Later that year, NBC’s hit TV show ‘This Is Us’ was so inspired by Wilson’s work, that they featured the CATTA’s initiation ceremony in one of their most viewed and award winning episodes. In 2018, Mr. Wilson signed with actor/producer Laurence Fishburne’s film company Cinema Gypsy to produce a documentary film on Jason’s work with the CATTA. It is scheduled to be released in 2021.

Mr. Wilson has over 25 years of martial arts experience, in addition to over 16 years of training and developing young black males. Mr. Wilson is a man of the Most High, a faithful husband of over 22 years and a proud father of two beautiful children.

Connect with Jason

-Website: https://mrjasonwilson.com/
-Book, "Battle Cry": https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400226996
-The Yunion: https://theyunion.org/
-The Cave of Adullam Transformational Academy: https://mrjasonwilson.com/catta/
-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjasonowilson/
-Twitter: https://twitter.com/mrjasonowilson
-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mrjasonowilson
-Book, "Cry Like A Man": https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07G1YJ7DZ/

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How To Fix An Anxious-Avoidant Relationship - A Man's Guide

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