The end of a relationship can feel disorienting and earth-shattering, so it's only natural for us to yearn for the ever-elusive feeling of "closure." In this episode, Dr. Alexandra posits that we often look for closure in the wrong places after a breakup, and she offers an empowering reframe for anyone who's grieving the end of a partnership. Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Submit a Listener Question: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Take Dr. Alexandra's "Relationship Superpower" Quiz: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rsa-quiz/
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How to Get Closure After a Breakup

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Dr. Frank Anderson is a world-renowned trauma expert and author who has dedicated his career to teaching therapists how to help patients work through trauma. Now, in his immensely personal memoir, To Be Loved, Dr. Frank shares his own story of overcoming trauma. In this conversation, Dr. Frank weaves his clinical knowledge with personal experiences to shine a light on how when we unburden ourselves from the past, we can stop replicating old stories and access our truest selves. Relevant links: To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation by Dr. Frank Anderson Connect with Dr. Anderson online and on Instagram Learn more about the Trauma Institute and Trauma-Informed Media. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter Submit a Listener Question
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Rewrite Your Story: Healing from Trauma with Dr. Frank Anderson

Long-distance relationships are no walk in the park, but that doesn't mean they can't thrive. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra tackles this topic, sharing tools and tips for couples. If you and your partner live in different time zones, are pros at FaceTime dates, and are constantly asking, "when's our next visit?", this episode is for you. Relevant links: Access the Long-Distance Relationships worksheet here Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter Submit a Listener Question Take Dr. Alexandra's "Relationship Superpower" Quiz
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Strategies for a Thriving Long-Distance Relationship (Re-release)

What happens in a marriage when one partner likes to save money and one likes to spend it? According to Dr. Scott Rick’s research, when it comes to money, opposites do attract. Dr. Rick joins Dr. Alexandra to explain how our psychology shapes how we handle money and how the choices we make around money impact our relationships. Relevant links: Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships by Dr. Scott Rick Engage with Dr. Rick’s research and connect with him on Instagram and Twitter Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter Submit a Listener Question
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Money & Marriage: When One Likes to Spend and One Likes to Save with Dr. Scott Rick

Celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman stops by Reimagining Love to deliver sage and practical advice for daters. With decades of experience in online dating, Damona gives Dr. Alexandra an update on the current state of the apps and explains why so many daters are feeling burnt out. Instead of looking for red flags and buying into tired dating myths, Damona believes the key is getting specific about what we want and who we are, so that we can use the apps as a tool instead of a toy. Relevant links: F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story by Damona Hoffman Listen to Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter Submit a Listener Question
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The Search for Green Flags: Ditch the Dating Myths, Not the Apps with Damona Hoffman

[Content warning: this episode contains a brief mention of suicide. If you prefer to not listen to this moment, please skip this week's listener question segment at the end of the episode] Nedra Tawwab returns to Reimagining Love to discuss what can be our most challenging and vulnerable relationships: difficult relationships with our Families of Origin. Nedra offers empowering tools and relational strategies to help us adapt and redefine these relationships; tools to help us acknowledge when our family members have changed and accept when they cannot. Together, Nedra and Dr. Alexandra explore how this theme connects with a wide variety of topics: the tricky dynamics of in-laws, differing perspectives around the past, and how to navigate painful decisions around estrangement. Relevant links: Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover Tawwab The Drama Free Workbook: Practical Exercises for Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover Tawwab Listen to Nedra's podcast, You Need to Hear This Connect with Nedra online and on Instagram Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter Submit a Listener Question  
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How to Get Closure After a Breakup

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