In this Life Check Yourself podcast, Marni facilitates a live coaching episode with Michelle. Michelle has been divorced for almost eight years. She has been dating for a while but seems to sabotage relationships when she starts falling for a guy because she is scared. Marni offers her some tools to use when she feels herself pulling away.

 

Key takeaways from this episode: 

• Redefining what a high-quality guy is
• Creating emotional safety 
• Being compassionate with your process
• How to stop sabotaging relationships

 

Why Are You Scared to Get Close? [2:39]

Michelle dates outgoing, professional guys who are fun to be with but elusive. They look good on paper and check all the boxes and should-haves. What is holding Michelle back is that internally she feels as soon as things start going well she will become disappointed. Therefore, she never achieves emotional intimacy with them, even after dating for a couple of years. This stems from having her feelings hurt and not feeling heard when she was a child. 

There is a difference between being cautiously optimistic and having expectations. 

Michelle doesn’t trust her feelings because no one validated her as a child. Deep down she fears abandonment. She recognizes she feels stuck and needs to nurture the little girl inside of her. 

        

The Path to Meet a High-Quality Man [27:03]

Marni offers Michelle the tools to help her connect to her intuition and her essence. When she empowers herself to have the emotional intelligence she wants to have, she will feel emotionally safe and grounded. Marni reminds her that we attract who we are. If she is emotionally open, she will attract a man who is also emotionally open. 

 

By creating our own emotional safety we start attracting people into our lives who are emotionally available.

 

Michelle is going to:

• Be more compassionate with her process. 
• Address her little girl inside and reassure and validate her. 
• Recognize when she starts to feel scared and calm herself.
• Start trusting herself and allow herself to be optimistic about relationships.

 

Make a Connection:

• Visit Our Websites, Dating With Dignity and Institute For Living Courageously
• Join Our Life Check Yourself Community Here!
• Learn how to attract your perfect equal...watch our latest training here!
• Interested in working with us? Book a Breakthrough session at DWDVIP
• Get a Free Coaching Session with Marni on Our Podcast - Sign up Here to Be a Guest On Our Show
• Download a Complimentary Copy of our Book - How to Find a Quality Guy Without Going on 200 Dates