You ever try really hard not to think something… and suddenly it’s the only thing your brain can think about?

Yeah. That’s not a glitch. That’s your nervous system doing its job — just a little too well.

Here’s the twist most people don’t realize: intrusive thoughts aren’t the problem. Engaging with them is. Every time you fight, analyze, or try to distract yourself from a thought, your brain files it under “danger.” 

And guess what your brain does with danger? It puts it on repeat.

So no, the way out isn’t to think harder or “be positive.” It’s not even about finding the right technique. The way out is active non-engagement — noticing the thought, not judging it, and going on with your day like your brain didn’t just throw a fireball at your face.

It feels weird. It feels wrong. And that’s why it works. Because now you’re teaching your brain: this isn’t dangerous.

In this episode, I’m breaking down how to stop believing every scary “what if” your brain throws at you, why resisting thoughts keeps you stuck, and how to finally break the anxiety-thought loop — not with logic, but with lived experience.

Let’s rewire that loop. Tune in.

Key Takeaways:

• Intro (00:00)
• Fighting intrusive thoughts reinforces them (01:13)
• Intrusive thoughts come from a sensitized nervous system (02:21)
• Thoughts ≠ thinking (03:40)
• Engaging with thoughts creates rumination (04:30)
• The content of thoughts doesn’t matter (07:12)
• Active non-engagement is key (08:26)
• You are not your thoughts (10:30)

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