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How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser - Nick Pollard - #884


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Nick Pollard, “The People Displeaser,” is a coach and a speaker.

Why do we feel so compelled to put others ahead of ourselves? Surely at the very minimum we should be able to prioritise ourselves. Yet it's hard. So, how can you break free from people pleasing tendencies and actually start advocating for your own needs with confidence?

Expect to learn why people pleasing is such a trap, how someone can distinguish between being considerate and sacrificing their own identity to please others, how to rehabilitate yourself from being a people pleaser, why it’s so hard to advocate to your own needs, how to know when you should give up on someone and much more...

Timestamps:

(00:00) The Trap of People-Pleasing

(11:24) Learning to Be Honest With Yourself
(17:18) Why People-Pleasers Struggle to Find Joy
(22:02) The Cost of Being a People-Pleaser
(26:55) When Does Being Considerate Go Too Far?
(29:34) How Men & Women People-Please
(40:02) Why People Struggle to Advocate for Their Needs
(55:37) First Steps to Correcting People-Pleasing
(01:05:21) Biggest Misconceptions About Boundaries
(01:18:14) Maintaining the Boundaries You Set
(01:22:43) How Sensitive People Can Be More Assertive
(01:31:09) The Guilt of Choosing Yourself Over Others
(01:43:51) The Role of Triggers in People-Pleasing
(01:47:35) When to Give Up on Someone
(01:50:37) Highly Successful People-Pleasers
(02:01:38) Impactful Books for People-Pleasers
(02:05:15) Where to Find Nick

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