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This is a teaser for what is to come this Sunday! The call of the erotic is a beckoning into the darkness. Are you afraid of the dark? Are you ready to play in it? 

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I am imperfect. You are imperfect. We will never be perfect. While calling someone or something imperfect is often seen as an insult, in this episode I explore how embracing this fundamental truth can be deeply freeing. If I am not perfect, and nothing I ever create will be perfect, how can I allow myself to exhale? To release myself from the bonds of perfectionism and to embrace being? 
Embracing our imperfection is scary work. We often feel that we have to be perfect to receive love, to receive care, to be supported and have our needs met. What if we could experience all of these wonderful things without the prerequisite of perfection? What if love, and deep support, and care and fulfillment are our birthright? In this episode, I face some of the fears that come up for me as I embrace my imperfection and "do the thing anyway". I look at where these fears come from, and how I can lovingly and compassionately meet them without bending to their will. I say "f*ck perfection!" and "embrace being, imperfectly". I reach through time and space to tell you that I love you, BECAUSE of your imperfections, as we sit in radical acceptance together.

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Hello, dear listener. Thank you for joining me for today's listening session! This one is unscripted, straight from my heart and mouth to your ears. Unscripted episodes are a growing edge for me, but I love the possibility for discovery and playfulness and authenticity that they offer.  In this episode, we speak about embodiment! I talk about how we become desensitized to our bodies in this society, and what the journey of re-sensitizing ourselves (or sensually liberating ourselves!) looks like. I talk about my journey as an experiential sex and relationship coach and do a little coaching on boundaries - so come ready! In true human becoming fashion, there are personal stories and nuggets of wisdom weaved throughout, so you really have to listen to experience it all. I hope you enjoy! 
PS: I love to connect, so find me @humanbecomingpodcast! 

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I'm dreaming of a different world, and if you're here - you are too! I'm dreaming of a world where the purpose of being alive is to simply embody ourselves more fully - not to grind under capitalism, or try to survive under a power-over system of multiple oppressions. I'm dreaming of a world in which we are truly free - free to be who we are and to offer our unique gifts to the world. 
To embody that world more fully I am learning to surrender to my path. To surrender to my calling, my purpose, my destiny (whatever you want to call it!). This episode is an exploration of what it means to surrender to our truth. What does that process look like? What fears does it evoke in us? That we are not worthy, not good enough, not capable? This episode is a special dedication to the artists, the creatives, the visionaries, the healers, the revolutionaries and the activists who are holding a vision for a different world and are committed to moving us there. And, at the end there is a very special announcement: I am opening the Human Becoming School! It will be a place for us to learn and to heal so that we can step into being the version of ourselves that this new world is calling for.
As Mercury stations retrograde, I have (predictably) run into some technical difficulties in creating this episode! In the old human becoming, I would have crumbled into a ball and not released the episode. But being human is being imperfect! And I think the value of this episode far outweighs some annoying clipping. However, I do want to warn you about the audio distortions. I would listen to this episode at a softer volume/not with headphones so that it isn't so jarring. Enjoy!

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In this week's episode, we take a moment to settle in,  get embodied (whatever that means to you, and however that feels good!) to explore one of my favourite expansive universal forces - pleasure! We begin with a somatic practice, and an exploration of how we are feeling in our bodies, and then we transition into storytelling: as I tell you about my journeys with psilocybin mushrooms, what they have taught me about pleasure, and how getting my ass kicked and being in deep pain opened me up to experience this force in a big way. I talk about the white-supremacist, colonial and capitalist project, how our society intentionally severs our relationship to this life-sustaining force, and how reclaiming our relationship to pleasure is radical and liberatory (for ourselves, our ancestors, and our descendants!). Happy Sunday!

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This was a fun episode to create. I speak about pussies (and how pussies are beyond gender!), boundaries, and honouring our authentic YES and NO.  But, in true human becoming fashion there are stories of vulvodynia and vaginismus, being a chronic yes man, gender socialization,  facing disappointment - both our own, and other people's - and so much more weaved throughout! This is also my rantiest, messiest episode yet as I give myself room to speak about what is truly coming up for me. This is a NSFW episode - there is a bit swearing and a big use of the word PUSSY throughout. I encourage you, as always, to use this as an opportunity to reflect on your relationship to your boundaries, what beliefs you hold around your entitlement to your boundaries, and where these beliefs might stem from (hello capitalism, racism, misogyny, family of origin!). Sending you warm love, and as always feel free to connect with me @tumi.moloto, @humanbecomingpodcast, or via my email address at [email protected]. Have a blessed week!

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Welcome to the first full episode of season two of human becoming! Thank you for joining me again. Today, we dive into shame, sexual exploration, healing with the inner child and how we can begin to embrace the fullness of who we are. It's starts with a story about how one of the first things I said I wanted to be when I grow up was a porn star which sets the stage for a reflection on how, because of shame and my socialization, I began to move away from the embodied, pleasure loving child that I was. I invite you to get comfortable, make a cup of tea or curl up in bed with your journal, and then get uncomfortable as we journey through the terrain of sexual disconnection and disembodiment. As always, this is more than an invitation to passively listen and I invite you to reflect on what your sexual journey has been since childhood - how it has changed and where it has taken you. Happy listening/reflecting!

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Hello! Welcome to the second season of human becoming. This episode is an introduction, to who I am now, what I have been up to for the past while, and to the future of podcast. The episode (literally) speaks for itself, so I'll let podcast-me do the talking. Enjoy!

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Hello! Long time no see. This is a bonus episode, an interlude between season one and season two.  It is story of how things turned out to be okay, about how crisis can be a portal, and a celebration of embodied hopefulness in challenging times.

Here, I am reminded of the words of Rebecca Solnit who writes, “People have always been good at imagining the end of the world, which is much easier to picture than the strange sidelong paths of change in a world without end.” 

This interlude, this story, is about those sidelong paths. I encourage you to imagine these paths for yourself, and to uncover your own story of how things turned out to be okay. I am looking forward to being with you in this next season as we co-discover what it means to be human (and to become human) in these times.

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We have made it to the season finale! This episode is filled with many thanks - to you, to the earth, to all the teachers and guides that we have walked with through this journey of human becoming. This, too, is an episode of reflection. I reflect on the forces of life and death, birth and decay, release and renewal, and I invite you to reflect on what you are ready to release to this decay, and what you are ready to embrace in your birthing. 
Finally, I invite you to reflect on what this journey has meant for you, what it has taught you, and what you will carry with you as you continue to walk forward into your becoming. I thank you, deeply, for accompanying me on this journey, and I hold you in loving arms as we walk forward into life together.