What if you could become a loving older brother to your inner child? In this episode, you'll discover how to do this through Older Brother Coaching. 

Older Brother Coaching is my unique approach to healing the inner child, which has led to hundreds of breakthroughs for Christian men outgrowing porn. In this episode, you'll learn the three steps of Older Brother Coaching. Then at the end, I'll lead you through a guided meditation to experience it for yourself.

Resources mentioned (including paid links):

• Going Deeper: Understanding How The Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction, by Dr. Eddie Capparucci
• Altogether You: Experiencing Personal And Spiritual Transformation Through Internal Family Systems Therapy, by Jenna Riemersma
• Boundaries For Your Soul: How To Turn Your Overwhelming Thoughts And Feelings Into Your Greatest Allies, by Dr. Alison Cook and Kimberly June Miller
• The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind, by Dr. Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
• What If I Don't Remember Much Of My Childhood? (podcast episode), by Adam Young

This episode is a preview of Husband Material Academy (HMA), the all-in-one solution for Christian men outgrowing porn. If you loved this episode, you will love HMA...

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What if being reported for criminal sexual activity can be a blessing? In this episode, Rich Moore explains how being reported saved his life and propelled him into healing. Rich also reveals how to know if you should report yourself or someone else to local authorities.

Rich Moore is the Associate Director of Men's Groups for Pure Desire Ministries, and a certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP). Rich has been involved with Pure Desire for over 20 years and serves a foundational role in helping churches start a Pure Desire group ministry. Rich is also the author of The Silent Battle: One Man's Fight for Freedom.

Contact Rich Moore at [email protected]

Pure Desire Resources:

• Join a Pure Desire Group
• Listen to the Pure Desire Podcast
• Read the Pure Desire Blog

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What is racial trauma? How does it affect us all, and what does healing look like? In this episode, Sheila Wise Rowe shares insights and stories about how racial trauma can be healed.

Sheila Wise Rowe is a truth-teller who writes passionately about matters of faith and emotional healing. She advocates for the dignity, rights, and healing of abuse survivors, those carrying racial trauma, and racial (re)conciliation. Sheila is the author of the award-winning book Healing Racial Trauma: The Road to Resilience, and her newest book, Young, Gifted, and Black: A Journey of Lament and Celebration. Learn more at sheilawiserowe.com

Recommended books about racial trauma (these are paid links):

• Healing Racial Trauma: The Road to Resilience, by Sheila Wise Rowe
• Young, Gifted, and Black: A Journey of Lament and Celebration, by Sheila Wise Rowe
• My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies, by Resmaa Menakem
• Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome: America's Legacy of Enduring Injury and Healing, by Dr. Joy Degruy

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If you’re not attracted to typical porn, have you ever wondered why? In this episode, I explore the roots of my negative association with female sexual parts due to purity culture, parents, peers, princesses, and porn.

Books about sex and purity culture (paid links):

• A Celebration Of Sex, by Dr. Doug Rosenau
• The Gift Of Sex, by Clifford And Joyce Penner
• Talking Back To Purity Culture, by Rachel Joy Welcher

To understand how purity culture keeps men trapped in porn, take my free mini-course at outgrowporn.com

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What does God think about my face, my gut, and my penis? In this episode, Matt Cline unpacks what the Bible says about our bodies—why they have value, and how we can reclaim the parts we don't like.

Matt Cline is the director of Restored Ministries, focused on helping 1,000,000 people live porn-free and powerfully by 2030. He is also co-host of the Pure Victory Podcast. Matt lives in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada with his wife and two young sons.

Restored Ministries Resources:
Pure Freedom Journey - restoredministries.ca/purefreedom
Cleansing Hour - restoredministries.ca/cleansinghour
Other support options - restoredministries.ca/gethelp
Wives & girlfriends - restoredministries.ca/partners
Instagram - instagram.com/restored_community 

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Is there such a thing as healthy shame? How can we heal from toxic shame? In this episode, Dr. Jake Porter shares eye-opening answers to these questions from science and scripture.

Dr. Jake Porter is the founder of Daring Ventures and host of the upcoming Choose Connection Online Summit for couples in recovery from addiction and betrayal on March 25-27, 2022. Husband Material is partnering with Daring Ventures to promote this awesome event using affiliate links.

Get your free ticket to the Choose Connection Summit here: https://drewboa.krtra.com/t/4PhNgRjQJqa4

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What is true vulnerability? Why is it so important? When is it safe? And how can I get better at it? In this episode, I answer all these questions and more...

If you want to become more vulnerable with men committed to curiosity and compassion, apply to join an upcoming Husband Material group at husbandmaterial.com/group

Resources on vulnerability (including paid links):

• The Power Of Vulnerability (TED Talk) by Brené Brown
• Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, by Bréne Brown
• The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, by Brené Brown
• Refuge: How Hospital Church Ministry Can Change Your Church Forever, by James Reeves

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Who are you? What defines you? Performance? Porn addiction? Sexual attraction? In this episode, Sathiya Sam reveals the power of having a secure identity, how to strengthen your sense of self, and why he recommends self-care using the 5 love languages.

Sathiya Sam is a coach and speaker who helps men live with confidence and integrity. A recovered addict himself, Sathiya is the creator of DeepClean™️ – a research-based and Bible-backed system for overcoming porn. This work has helped everyone from college students to medical doctors regain control of their lives and walk in greater levels of freedom. Based out of Toronto, Canada, Sathiya is happily married and a die-hard basketball fan.

Listen to Sathiya's podcast: Unleash The Man Within

Buy Sathiya Sam's new book (this is a paid link):
The Last Relapse: Realize Your Potential, Reclaim Intimacy, And Resolve The Root Issues Of Porn Addiction
 
This week, Sathiya is giving away a few copies of The Last Relapse inside the Husband Material Community. Join the community at husbandmaterial.co

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"You can't possibly hate yourself more than I love you. You can try, but it ain't gonna happen. You can try, but I have until eternity. You don't. How long do you wanna keep playing this game of the pity party and this shame when I got so much more planned for you?" —Dr. Joe Martin

In this episode, Dr. Joe Martin shares his incredible story of God bringing redemption out of poverty, abuse, addiction, and divorce. He also reveals the 5 components of a kingdom man, and how to address voices of accusation with your God-given authority.

Dr. Joe Martin is an award-winning speaker, author, educator, and certified builder of men. He’s the author of nine books, including: “Man Accomplished: 50 Challenges to Help You Be the Man God Made You to Be,” “Are You the Man: 201 Lessons I Wish My Dad Would’ve Taught Me,” and “The Real Man Spiritual Leader Blueprint: 21 Practical Ways to Love and Lead Your Family."

Joe is also the host of Real Men Connect, the top-rated podcast for Christian men that focuses on mentoring, training, and discipling men on how to be amazing husbands, awesome fathers, and extraordinary leaders. Learn more at realmenconnect.com

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What's the best way to respond to a relapse into porn, either for yourself or for a friend? In this episode, you'll learn the power of viewing relapse as feedback (not failure), the benefits of a growth mindset (not a fixed mindset), and the 3 types of feedback you must receive.

Research mentioned in this episode (this is a paid link):

• Mindset: The New Psychology Of Success, by Carol Dweck

Other Husband Material resources mentioned in this episode:

• Read a book
• Take a course
• Get coaching

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