What is emotional maturity? How can we increase our emotional intelligence? In this episode, Dr. Eddie Capparucci explains the three components of emotional maturity, why men struggle to love, and what we can do about it.

Dr. Eddie Capparucci is an author and therapist who specializes in the treatment of sex and porn addiction. He's the creator of the Inner Child Recovery Process (ICRP) and the author of a new book: Why Men Struggle To Love: Overcoming Relational Blind Spots.

More resources by Dr. Eddie Capparucci (these are paid links):

• Healing The Inner Child (Husband Material video course for Christian men)
• Removing Your Shame Label: Learning To Break From Shame And Feel God's Love
• Going Deeper: How The Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction
• Also check out Eddie and Drew's Going Deeper Workbook
• Learn more at innerchild-sexaddiction.com

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What is the difference between sexual arousal and sexual desire, and why does it matter? In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter powerfully explains this concept and why it is absolutely essential for outgrowing porn.

This episode is taken from our new course on Healing From Sexual Abuse. 

Learn more at husbandmaterial.com/healing-from-sexual-abuse 

Related episodes:

• How To Interpret Sexual Fantasies
• What Should I Do With My Sexual Desires?

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Let me help you decide if “counting the days” is right for you. In this episode, you'll learn 2 bad reasons to count, 3 good reasons to count, and what works for me...

2 bad reasons: Legalism & License 

3 good reasons: Celebration, Compassion, & Curiosity 

What works for me? Listen to this episode to find out 😉 

If you loved this episode, you will probably love my book, Redeemed Sexuality. Buy it here (this is a paid link): Redeemed Sexuality: 12 Sessions For Healing And Transformation In Community.

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What is centering prayer? How can it help us when we're triggered or preoccupied? In this episode, Matthew Lyda explains the 4 Rs of centering prayer: 

1. Resist no thought 
2. Retain no thought 
3. React to no thought 
4. Return to God

Matthew Lyda is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional and a poet. He is the author of Recover The Wild: Unfiltered Poems And Prayers (paid link). Matthew is also trained as a mental health & life purpose coach. Take Matthew's free 5-day course on centering prayer here.

Please join us for "An Evening of Centering Prayer" inside the Husband Material Community on Wednesday May 11, 2022 at 4:00 PM Pacific Time.

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How does the gospel interact with trauma? In this episode, Matt Wenger explains a Christ-centered and clinically innovative approach to healing trauma and outgrowing pornography.

Matt Wenger is the clinical director of Boulder Recovery, a 14-day intensive for men struggling with sex, porn, and relationship issues and their impact on faith. The program uses the TINSA treatment model (Trauma-Induced Sexual Addiction) to heal the traumatic experiences and attachment wounds driving addictive behaviors and problematic thinking around sex and intimacy.

The next Boulder Recovery intensive is June 18th-July 2nd, 2022. Seats are limited. If you're interested, contact Boulder Recovery here.

Learn more about trauma-induced sexual addiction here (this is a paid link): TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction, by Dr. Michael Barta.

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What if you could become a loving older brother to your inner child? In this episode, you'll discover how to do this through Older Brother Coaching. 

Older Brother Coaching is my unique approach to healing the inner child, which has led to hundreds of breakthroughs for Christian men outgrowing porn. In this episode, you'll learn the three steps of Older Brother Coaching. Then at the end, I'll lead you through a guided meditation to experience it for yourself.

Resources mentioned (including paid links):

• Going Deeper: Understanding How The Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction, by Dr. Eddie Capparucci
• Altogether You: Experiencing Personal And Spiritual Transformation Through Internal Family Systems Therapy, by Jenna Riemersma
• Boundaries For Your Soul: How To Turn Your Overwhelming Thoughts And Feelings Into Your Greatest Allies, by Dr. Alison Cook and Kimberly June Miller
• The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind, by Dr. Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
• What If I Don't Remember Much Of My Childhood? (podcast episode), by Adam Young

This episode is a preview of Husband Material Academy (HMA), the all-in-one solution for Christian men outgrowing porn. If you loved this episode, you will love HMA...

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What if being reported for criminal sexual activity can be a blessing? In this episode, Rich Moore explains how being reported saved his life and propelled him into healing. Rich also reveals how to know if you should report yourself or someone else to local authorities.

Rich Moore is the Associate Director of Men's Groups for Pure Desire Ministries, and a certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP). Rich has been involved with Pure Desire for over 20 years and serves a foundational role in helping churches start a Pure Desire group ministry. Rich is also the author of The Silent Battle: One Man's Fight for Freedom.

Contact Rich Moore at [email protected]

Pure Desire Resources:

• Join a Pure Desire Group
• Listen to the Pure Desire Podcast
• Read the Pure Desire Blog

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What is racial trauma? How does it affect us all, and what does healing look like? In this episode, Sheila Wise Rowe shares insights and stories about how racial trauma can be healed.

Sheila Wise Rowe is a truth-teller who writes passionately about matters of faith and emotional healing. She advocates for the dignity, rights, and healing of abuse survivors, those carrying racial trauma, and racial (re)conciliation. Sheila is the author of the award-winning book Healing Racial Trauma: The Road to Resilience, and her newest book, Young, Gifted, and Black: A Journey of Lament and Celebration. Learn more at sheilawiserowe.com

Recommended books about racial trauma (these are paid links):

• Healing Racial Trauma: The Road to Resilience, by Sheila Wise Rowe
• Young, Gifted, and Black: A Journey of Lament and Celebration, by Sheila Wise Rowe
• My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies, by Resmaa Menakem
• Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome: America's Legacy of Enduring Injury and Healing, by Dr. Joy Degruy

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If you’re not attracted to typical porn, have you ever wondered why? In this episode, I explore the roots of my negative association with female sexual parts due to purity culture, parents, peers, princesses, and porn.

Books about sex and purity culture (paid links):

• A Celebration Of Sex, by Dr. Doug Rosenau
• The Gift Of Sex, by Clifford And Joyce Penner
• Talking Back To Purity Culture, by Rachel Joy Welcher

To understand how purity culture keeps men trapped in porn, take my free mini-course at outgrowporn.com

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What does God think about my face, my gut, and my penis? In this episode, Matt Cline unpacks what the Bible says about our bodies—why they have value, and how we can reclaim the parts we don't like.

Matt Cline is the director of Restored Ministries, focused on helping 1,000,000 people live porn-free and powerfully by 2030. He is also co-host of the Pure Victory Podcast. Matt lives in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada with his wife and two young sons.

Restored Ministries Resources:
Pure Freedom Journey - restoredministries.ca/purefreedom
Cleansing Hour - restoredministries.ca/cleansinghour
Other support options - restoredministries.ca/gethelp
Wives & girlfriends - restoredministries.ca/partners
Instagram - instagram.com/restored_community 

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