When is nudity appropriate for men outgrowing porn? How can nudity become healing rather than harmful? In this episode, I will be vulnerable about my own experiences with nudity, and share what I have learned.

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We live in a sports-centric culture. Have you ever felt like less of a man because of this? If you sometimes measure your masculinity based on athletic performance, this episode is for you. Stephen Thomas will explain the concept of "sports wounds," the 3 types of sports wounds, and how to heal so you can become more confident and secure as a man!

Stephen Thomas is a husband and father who has had sobriety from porn for over 13 years. He's passionate about seeing men who feel hopelessly buried by addictions come alive and realize the strength God has placed in them. Stephen is a Certified Husband Material Coach and recently launched his own business so he can focus his efforts on helping men get free and seeing couples repair their marriages.

Web Site:
StephenThomasConsulting.com

Facebook Page:
Facebook.com/stephenthomasconsulting.com

Apply for individual, couples or small group coaching with Stephen here:
StephenThomasCounsulting.com/services

Contact:
[email protected]

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Have you ever felt overwhelmed by stress? In this episode, Marcus Spaur explains the difference between healthy and unhealthy stress, why self-care is not selfish, and how to prepare for stress during the holidays!

Marcus Spaur is the founder of Between The Covers Coaching. He is also the Director of Care & Support at Husband Material, and a Certified Husband Material Coach. Email Marcus at [email protected].

You can sign up for a free coaching session with Marcus Spaur here.

34 Tips For Self-Care:
‣ Drink a cup of hot herbal tea
‣ Sit in the sun and notice the warmth on your skin
‣ Pet a cat
‣ Go for a walk
‣ Take five deep, slow breaths
‣ Tense all the muscles in your body, hold for 5 seconds, then release them
‣ Call a safe friend and share how you are feeling
‣ Give yourself a hug
‣ Do gentle yoga
‣ Pray
‣ Meditate on a comforting verse or scripture or an encouraging word
‣ Listen to soothing music
‣ Take a long, warm bubble bath
‣ Let a mint dissolve in your mouth and focus on its sensation and flavor
‣ Get up and move to another room or a different environment
‣ Journal what you are feeling
‣ Draw or paint
‣ Take your shoes off, go outside, and let your toes feel the earth beneath you
‣ Take a nap
‣ Put on comfortable clothes 
‣ Snuggle into a soft blanket
‣ Light a scented candle
‣ Turn off all your devices for 30 minutes, sit quietly and breathe
‣ Shift your posture
‣ Hug a loved one and don’t let go until you relax into their embrace
‣ Do something that made you happy as a child
‣ Laugh out loud
‣ Splash in a puddle
‣ Get a massage
‣ Connect with a supportive group: Bible study, small group, 12 step community
‣ Sing out loud
‣ Stretch
‣ Play on a playground
‣ Write down 10 things for which you have gratitude

—Excerpted from Altogether You Guided Journaling Worksheets (page 17) by Jenna Riemersma. Get more tips, videos, and free resources at jennariemersma.com.

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Forgiveness is crucial to healing, but so often misunderstood. Get clarity about what forgiveness is (not) with these five truths: 

1. Forgiveness is not permission. 
2. Forgiveness is not a feeling. It's a choice.
3. Forgiveness is not a moment. It's a process.
4. Forgiveness is not easy or free. It's costly.
5. Forgiveness is not a burden. It's a gift.

"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." Ephesians 4:32

Living in forgiveness is living in freedom!

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Have you ever felt like an orphan? Do you long to belong, but have difficulty trusting others? In this episode, Eddie Capparucci unpacks "the orphan spirit"—what it is, why we struggle with it, and the power of our true identity: Beloved Sons Of The Most High King. 

Dr. Eddie Capparucci is a Christian therapist who specializes in the treatment of sex and porn addiction. He's the creator of the Inner Child Recovery Process (ICRP) and the author of two books (these are paid links):

• Removing Your Shame Label: Learning To Break From Shame And Feel God's Love
• Going Deeper: How The Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction
• Also check out Eddie and Drew's Going Deeper Workbook!

***NEW COURSE ANNOUNCEMENT***
Healing The Inner Child: Video Course For Christian Men

• 6 Hours Of Video Training
• 12 Page Companion PDF
• The Inner Child Assessment

"I discovered things from my childhood that I had no idea that happened or affected me. I learned about tools to become a better man every day." —Sak

“I understand more about myself. The information was incredible and delivered with compassion—an amazing balance of clinical and spiritual advice.” —Larry

“The work that Eddie, Drew, and other leaders at the retreat were able to do is a refreshing approach to freedom from porn that allows us to love ourselves." —Jay

Buy the new video course on Healing The Inner Child at: husbandmaterial.com/healing-the-inner-child

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The image of God in you is good. In this episode, author and therapist Jenna Riemersma beautifully explains how the image of God can bring healing and freedom to every part of us... including any parts attached to pornography and other unwanted behaviors.

Jenna Riemersma is the founder and clinical director of The Atlanta Center for Relational Healing. She is also teaching faculty for the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP).

Jenna also provides dozens of free resources at MoveToward.com.

Text JENNA to 33777 to receive...

• A free "Move Toward" Worksheet
• A guided meditation for sex addiction
• A guided meditation for betrayal trauma

Buy Jenna's book here: (this is a paid link):
Altogether You: Experiencing Personal And Spiritual Transformation Through Internal Family Systems Therapy

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If you feel unworthy or unlovable, please listen to this. It's a sermon—the same one I preached at the recent Husband Material Retreat in Santa Barbara.

How Jesus Reverses The Curse: 
A Case Study From The Life Of Peter 

Sermon on John 21 by Drew Boa 
Sunday, October 10th, 2021 

1. The Rupture: Peter's unfinished business with Jesus
2. The Repair: Jesus confronts Peter with compassion
3. The Redemption: Peter courageously follows Jesus

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Play is not optional for outgrowing porn. It's essential! In this episode, Dr. Michael Crocker explains why play supports sexual recovery, and what it looks like to rediscover healthy play as an adult man.

Dr. Michael Crocker is the founder and director of The Sexuality, Attachment, and Trauma Project as well as a private practitioner. Michael provides direct clinical services that address trauma, cross addiction, out-of-control sexual behavior, as well as sexual inhibition, intimacy anxiety, gender disorders, and sexual identity confusion. You can email him at [email protected].

Highly recommended: take Michael's free assessment,  The Play & Positive Affect Inventory.

Books mentioned in this episode (these are paid links):
Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons From The Myths Of Boyhood, by William Pollack
Play: How It Shapes The Brain, Opens The Imagination, And Invigorates The Soul, by Stuart Brown and Christopher Vaughan

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Do you want to feel loved? Then you must remove your filter. Matthew Ray Lyda is here to help us do that... through the power of unfiltered poetry!

Matthew Ray Lyda is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional who has published a book of poetry (this is a paid link): Recover The Wild: Unfiltered Poems And Prayers. Matthew is also trained as a mental health & life purpose coach. You can email him at [email protected].

Take the free 7-Day Filterless Poetry Challenge!
(and receive personal feedback from Matthew Ray Lyda)

You're invited to the Husband Material Poetry Recital on October 26 at 5 PM Pacific Time! Access the link to join inside the Husband Material Community at husbandmaterial.co.

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Why do we compare ourselves to others? What is the cure for comparison? In this episode, my dear friend and mentor Michael Tso and I talk about our struggles with comparison... and the powerful antidote of belovedness!

Dr. Michael Tso is a Family Medicine Doctor at Alliance Clinical Associates in Wheaton, Illinois. Michael specializes in mental health care with a whole person approach that integrates biological, psychological, relational and spiritual aspects of personhood.

Books mentioned in this episode (these are paid links):
The Inner Voice Of Love, by Henri Nouwen
Redeemed Sexuality, by Drew Boa

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