In this episode, we dive into the key communication skills that set impactful leaders apart with expert guest Michael Delisser. We explore the crucial differences between self-awareness and self-perception, uncover common communication habits that hold leaders back, and learn actionable strategies for receiving feedback and turning data into insights. Through real-world examples and practical frameworks, we discover how to influence others, adapt to different personalities, and drive lasting results. By the end you’ll know how to strengthen relationships, lead effectively, and unlock your true leadership potential in any organizational setting.

Timestamps:

1. (00:00) - Michael Reddington welcomes Michael Delisser
2. (03:08) - Three key high-impact communication skills for leaders.
3. (06:11) - Common ineffective communication habits in leaders are discussed.
4. (08:45) - Exploration of why people interrupt and where those habits originate.
5. (12:24) - Difference between self awareness and self perception explained.
6. (14:46) - How to receive feedback and use it for self improvement.
7. (19:07) - The importance of balancing different personality types in teams.
8. (28:10) - Turning raw data into actionable insights.
9. (32:00) - The three means of persuasion based on Aristotle introduced.
10. (46:03) - Strategies for influencing without authority shared.

Links and Resources:

1. Michael deLisser | LinkedIn
2. de Lisser Leadership Consulting | leadership development consulting
3. Leadership Accelerators: High-Impact Communication Skills That Strengthen Relationships and Drive Results

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In this episode, we dive into the essential components of leading with character alongside guest Kevin Basik, a seasoned Air Force leader and behavioral scientist. Uncover the three foundational elements of character-driven leadership, explore actionable strategies to build and maintain trust, and discuss how leaders can create environments that empower others to reach their full potential. Through relatable stories and practical frameworks, Kevin reveals how vulnerability, accountability, and clear communication transform teams and organizations. Gain powerful insights and proven techniques for becoming leaders of character in any setting.

Timestamps: 

• (00:00) - Michael Reddington introduces Kevin Basik and the episode.
• (03:40) - Kevin Basik explains what it means to be a leader of character.
• (04:49) - The three components of leading with character are discussed.
• (11:07) - The four levers for successful leadership are revealed.
• (15:57) - Clarity in communication and expectations is emphasized.
• (23:09) - The Pygmalion and Gollum effects in leadership relationships are explored.
• (35:35) - Challenges in developing others with technical expertise are addressed.
• (39:14) - The "sayback" technique for clarifying expectations is explained.
• (44:04) - "Equifinality" and outcome-focused leadership are defined.
• (58:26) - The importance of elite cultures and consistent standards is highlighted.
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Links and Resources:

• Basik Insight – Bringing Character and Leadership into Focus.
• Kevin Basik (PhD, US Air Force retired) | LinkedIn
• The National Medal of Honor Museum

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In this episode, we dive into the powerful journey of Chris Haueter, a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu legend, as he shares hard-earned insights on overcoming stuttering, the influence of word choice, and the importance of empathy in leadership and communication. We explore the distinction between teaching and coaching, the need for humility, and the value of pattern recognition without getting stuck in assumptions. Discover how embracing a student’s mindset and adapting to change can bring deeper understanding and success in both personal and professional circles.

Timestamps: 

• (00:00) - Michael Reddington introduces Chris Haueter, sharing his jiu jitsu background.
• (03:27) - Chris Haueter discusses lifelong stuttering and its impact.
• (05:12) - Exploring nature vs. nurture and overcoming personal challenges.
• (10:01) - Childhood experiences and lessons about the power of words.
• (12:30) - Using physicality when words fail and the importance of finding balance.
• (20:10) - Remaining a student and guarding against arrogance.
• (23:03) - Differences between teaching and coaching.
• (33:22) - Empathetic coaching for both beginners and advanced students.
• (41:01) - Focus on human connection over petty concerns.
• (53:07) - Learning from non-English-speaking teachers and jiu jitsu as a universal language.

Links and Resources:

• Chris & Melissa Haueter's Combat Base | BJJ Videos | Apparel

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In this episode, we dive into the powerful world of investigative interviewing and business communication with expert Dave Thompson. We uncover the most common myths and misconceptions that derail conversations and reveal proven strategies for building genuine rapport, gathering reliable information, and driving better outcomes. Exploring the roles of empathy, listening, and effective questioning, we learn how to elevate our leadership and communication skills in any setting. 

Timestamps: 

• (00:06) - Michael Reddington welcomes back David Thompson and introduces the episode.
• (02:00) - Michael Reddington explains the goal of obtaining more information, not just catching lies.
• (06:20) - David Thompson identifies myths derailing communication and interviews.
• (08:00) - David Thompson debunks the myth that good communicators talk the most.
• (11:37) - Michael Reddington explains how great leaders focus on listening.
• (17:15) - David Thompson discusses the power of empathy and why it's strategic, not soft.
• (25:43) - David Thompson illustrates why behavior alone doesn't detect lies.
• (35:00) - David Thompson reveals how pressure creates compliant—not reliable—answers.
• (48:09) - Michael Reddington urges turning down the temperature in high-stress conversations.
• (51:03) - David Thompson stresses changing the goal from confession to gathering reliable information.

Links and Resources:

• Part 1 - Truthbetoldpodcast5 Communication Myths We Need to Stop Believing: From Interrogations to the Boardroom with Michael Reddington, CFI -
• Home - Wicklander-Zulawski
• Truth Be Told
• International Association of Interviewers
• David Thompson, CFI | LinkedIn

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In this episode, we have the pleasure of exploring the science and strategy behind effective investigative interviewing and high-impact conversations with forensic linguist Dr. Luna Filipovic. We examine the powerful effects of language choice, cultural context, and question structure on truth-telling, memory, and cooperation in both legal and everyday scenarios. Together, we uncover actionable insights for improving accuracy and efficiency in any conversation, from business negotiations to personal interactions. Join us as we learn how to adapt our communication to foster trust, gather critical information, and avoid costly misunderstandings in this value-packed episode.

Timestamps:

• (00:00) - Introducing Dr. Luna Filipovic, forensic linguist and UC Davis professor.
• (03:32) - Dr. Filipovic explains why people choose to open up and talk.
• (06:41) - Discussing the risks and consequences of silence in interviews.
• (09:01) - Impact of language and context on memory and communication accuracy.
• (13:49) - Key considerations when interviewing bilingual individuals.
• (18:38) - The importance of using trained interpreters in investigations.
• (25:00) - Exploring the problems with complex and negative questions.
• (33:26) - Differences between confession-seeking and information-seeking approaches.
• (41:01) - How cultural backgrounds affect communication and witness responses.
• (50:37) - Balancing efficiency and accuracy in language techniques and interviews.

Links and Resources:

• Home - TACIT
• Luna Filipovic | LinkedIn

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In this episode, we dive into the fascinating intersection of data analytics and emotions with guest Zoey Charif, exploring her unique framework for calculating love and relationship success. We learn how self worth, values, and personality traits shape both romantic and professional relationships, and discover practical strategies for fostering self awareness and making healthier decisions. Through real-life stories and proven research, we uncover actionable insights that empower us to build stronger connections with ourselves and others. Join us as we unlock the formula for meaningful relationships and personal fulfillment in this thought-provoking conversation.

Timestamps: 

• (00:00) - Introducing Zoey Charif and the concept of calculating love.
• (04:13) - Zoey Charif explains her framework for matching and admiration.
• (06:12) - Self worth is calculated through personal values.
• (09:38) - Importance of normalizing being single and building self worth.
• (11:00) - Self worth impacts all relationships, including business and community.
• (13:05) - Optimist and critic personalities affect relationship scores.
• (17:05) - Self awareness helps balance between optimism and criticism.
• (22:00) - Matching and mismatching values in relationships discussed.
• (27:04) - Attraction versus compatibility as key relationship drivers.
• (39:28) - Staying out of extremes and working on self score is essential for fulfillment.

Links and Resources:

• Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated: Charif, Zoey
• Home | Love Can

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In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Kathy Wu to explore the transformative power of self-regulation and resilience in both teens and adults. We discover practical, evidence-based strategies for managing emotions, building stronger relationships, and fostering personal growth—whether we're parents, leaders, or simply looking to better understand ourselves. With insights grounded in real-life experiences and proven therapeutic approaches, we uncover the value of shifting from control to curiosity, engaging in empathic confrontation, and leveraging problems as powerful opportunities to grow. Walk away with actionable tools to positively impact your home, work, and community conversations.

Timestamps: 

• (00:06) - Introducing Dr. Kathy Wu and highlighting her background.
• (01:03) - Explaining the philosophy: problems as opportunities to grow.
• (04:13) - How challenges foster self-reflection and resilience.
• (08:19) - Tools for managing frustration and understanding emotions.
• (11:07) - Self-regulation as a lifelong process and muscle to flex.
• (13:04) - Overview of evidence-based modalities: CBT, ACT, and DBT.
• (17:19) - Importance of developing interpersonal skills and active listening.
• (22:14) - Practicing empathic confrontation and listening without judgment.
• (27:38) - Helping teenagers build self-regulation and validating emotions.
• (45:45) - Strategies for healthy technology use and family relationships.

Links and Resources:

• The Self-Regulation Handbook for Teens and Young Adults: A Trauma-Informed Guide to Fostering Personal Resilience and Enhancing Interpersonal Skills
• Counseling | Dr. Kathy Wu | United States
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In this episode, we journey into the transformative lessons drawn from martial arts, personal growth, and mastering our own potential with Emmanuel Manolakakis. We explore the power of distilling real wisdom from collected knowledge, the significance of patience and self-control, and the remarkable difference between happiness and fulfillment. Through engaging stories and practical advice, we uncover how embracing pressure, focusing on what we can control, and developing our authentic selves can lead to lasting success—both on and off the mat.

Timestamps: 

• (00:00) - Michael Reddington introduces Emmanuel Manolakakis
• (04:09) - The difference between collecting knowledge and distilling wisdom.
• (07:02) - Importance of making personal decisions instead of matching others' bad choices.
• (10:04) - Contrast between depth of knowledge in the past and current information overload.
• (14:42) - Emmanuel Manolakakis discusses mastery as a journey, not a destination.
• (19:28) - How mastery requires patience, adaptability, and focusing on what you can control.
• (27:56) - Developing patience through teaching, martial arts, and life experiences.
• (34:57) - Practical tips for building patience using cold immersion and fasting.
• (41:58) - The value of calmness and responsibility, with lessons from archery.
• (50:42) - Overview of Emmanuel Manolakakis's book and the pursuit of fulfillment over happiness.

Links and Resources:

• HOME | My Site
• Eudaimonia: The Highest Human Good: Manolakakis, Emmanuel

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In this episode, we have the pleasure of exploring the power of authentic communication and strategic storytelling with marketing expert Cassandra D'Alessio. We dive into the importance of taking control of our own narrative, differentiating between branding, sales, and marketing, and infusing authenticity into all facets of our messaging. Through Cassandra’s practical advice and real-world examples, we discover how to turn words into strategy, build trust, and create lasting relationships in both business and personal conversations. Join us as we uncover valuable lessons on patience, consistency, and audience understanding that elevate our communication and help us stand out in a noisy marketplace.

Timestamps: 

(00:00) - Introducing Cassandra D’Alessio and her expertise in B2B marketing and branding.

(04:09) - Importance of taking control of your own story online.

(06:02) - Balancing authenticity without sounding salesy or cheesy.

(09:54) - Clarifying the differences between sales, brand, and marketing.

(13:44) - Explaining why consistency in messaging matters across all channels.

(16:11) - Turning words into effective communication strategy.

(22:21) - How writing shapes Cassandra’s communication approach and perception.

(34:21) - Lessons from Cassandra’s book on launching a business as a female entrepreneur.

(41:30) - Teaching college students and applying those lessons to business clients.

(46:22) - Role of imagery in stopping the scroll and engaging audiences online.

Links and Resources:

• Cassandra D'Alessio | This Won't Be Pretty - https://www.cassandradalessio.com/
• Next Page Brand Strategies - https://www.turnthenextpage.com/
• Cassandra D'Alessio, M.A. | LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cassandra-dalessio/

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In this episode, we dive into the science and strategy of decision-making with expert decision coach Greg Dinkin. We explore how focusing on decisions rather than outcomes can transform our approach to challenges, drawing on lessons from poker, executive coaching, and practical psychology. Through empowering questions, forward-thinking strategies, and real-world examples, we discover the mindset and habits that set winners apart. Join us as we uncover actionable tools for making better choices, handling pressure, and creating lasting success in both our professional and personal lives.

Timestamps:

• (00:00) - Michael introduces Greg Dinkin, decision coach and poker champion.
• (03:08) - Greg explains what it means to be a decision coach.
• (04:56) - Discussing the mantra “decisions, not outcomes.”
• (09:56) - How to plan moves ahead in decision making and negotiation.
• (13:30) - Preparing for high-pressure situations by deciding in advance.
• (18:25) - The power and strategy of asking the right questions.
• (22:04) - Michael and Greg discuss the crucial role of listening in decision processes.
• (27:38) - Greg details how context and motive influence observing behavior.
• (34:23) - Importance of debriefing and accountability after outcomes.
• (35:31) - Greg shares the “thermostat vs thermometer” winner’s mindset concept.

Links and Resources:

• Hire TedX speaker Home - Greg Dinkin
• Greg Dinkin | LinkedIn

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