IF YOU ARE CONTROLLING YOUR MAN, YOU HAVEN’T COMMITTED TO HIM YET.

The central element needed for functionality and peace between men and women is AGREEMENT.

If there is one poisonous impact that Feminism and Patriarchy Theory has had on the psyches of modern women, it is to convince them that they should never come into agreement with a man, with their man, with men in general, with masculinity.

This lack of agreement is the poison pill in man-woman relating.

 

It is all that is needed to sabotage, distort, fill with misery and scuttle man-woman intimate relationships.

With this piece of poisonous programming installed in their brains, what are women prone to doing in regards to their approach towards men?

Women still need men.  They still want to be with men.  They still want to seduce men.  They still want to go after qualified men.  They still want those men to pick them.  They want those men to ‘bond’ with them and get into long term relationships and marriages with them.

If women want all this with men, while retaining that faulty bit of programming that says, ‘Never cooperate with a man!’, how are women to proceed?

They proceed with control.  Control is the replacement for agreement.

Coming into agreement with their man would have offered women a win-win possibility with their men.

Control is an antagonistic technique.  We try to control our enemies.  We control and manipulate people we are NOT acting in good faith with.  We control and manipulate people we are playing a zero-sum game with — where we are trying to win OVER them, where we are trying to win at their cost.

This destructive attitude is quite prevalent in our man-woman relating culture these days.  Listen to women talk about why they want to get in relationships and what they want out of the men they are looking for, and you will hear a laundry list of stuff that the women want to get OUT of the men.  What you don’t hear is how the women want to PARTNER with men.

You don’t hear from the women how they want to COOPERATE with their men.

You don’t want to hear what the women are willing and happy to sacrifice in order to come into AGREEMENT with their men.

In the absence of agreement, women never really commit to any man they are with.  Commitment is about two people being on the same side.  Commitment is about being in a win-win relation with each other.  There is no room for CONTROL in a committed relationship. Control and manipulation only erodes the commitment two people have made to each other.

— Om Rupani

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