October 11, 2025

I'm Sober Now What with Lynette le Roux

43 minutes

My guest this week is a very special member of our Tribe Sober Team

I first met Lynette LeRoux when she came to one of our workshops more than 8 years ago

She was in a dark place back then but the workshop was the catalyst she needed to change everything

Lynette has been transforming and enriching her life for the last 8 years – she’s found her passion and qualified as a Coach and for the last 3 years she has been working for Tribe Sober as a Coach

In this episode

Lynette first tasted alcohol at the tender age of 9 – she’d got hold of some tiny bottles of whisky and brandy which she kept near her bed. She would take a sip when she went to bed as it comforted her

Going off to boarding school at the age of 5 left her with lingering feelings of isolation – a feeling that those little sips chased away.

As she reflects back she realises it was a way to feel nurtured and held

She didn’t drink much in her teens but in her 20’s she met a guy who loved his whisky and she began to drink regularly

Lynette had never really felt comfortable in her own skin so alcohol helped her to socialise

Her relationship deteriorated due to her partners drunken rages and he left her when she was pregnant

She coped well over the next few years and began to develop her career

The usual after work drinks culture prevailed and Lynette fell back into her old patterns

She would drink excessively at the weekends as well as after work sometimes

Like many of us she would resolve to stop or cut down but nothing really changed

Then she met her current husband who hardly drinks at all

He thought she drank too much so she tried hard to make a change

She managed some sober stretches but as she got into her 40’s the alcohol came back into her life

Even though she was drinking Lynette tried a lot self development programs during this period

Looking back she realises that she never tried to integrate her learnings into her daily life

If we don’t apply the learnings then the courses are really a waste of time and nothing will change

As she moved into her 50’s Lynette became more dependent on alcohol

She felt she was losing connection with her husband and her friends

Always looking for the quick fix she decided to study plant medicine

As part of Lynette’s ongoing odyssey for a quick cure for her problems she came across our one day workshop

She attended the workshop but true to form she never really engaged

After the workshop she didn’t apply the tools or connect via the chatgroups

So nothing really changed and three months after the workshop she hit her rock bottom

Driving to work and struggling with an awful hangover she had a “not this” moment

Followed by a “if not this then what?” moment

Out of desperation she looked at her Tribe Sober workshop notes and decided to reconnect

Lynette went to the coffee meetup and engaged on the WhatsApp group

After reading other peoples messages for a while she decided to reach out

She posted a message that she felt really low

Another member explained that she felt that way because her brain was recalibrating and healing

This really resonated with Lynette and became her mantra

She began to study coaching and started to see that a different way of life was possible

As Lynette has been coached herself and has coached many people I asked her to explain why coaching is so valuable

She explained that coaching helps us to get perspective on our life and our mind

Coaching enables a growth mindset as we move towards our future self

We talked about the benefits she has gained from 5 years of sobriety

The biggest benefit for Lynette was reconnecting with herself and then developing her passion for coaching

She’s learned so much about her beautiful brain and she’s learned how to feel

She’s learned that emotional pain is a sign of growth and she must learn to get comfortable with being uncomfortable

That's a lesson she’s taught us all here at Tribe Sober

We agreed that there is so much more to recovery than “not drinking”

As Lynette said tha's just 10% of the work – and we will never thrive in sobriety if we don’t tackle the other 90%

We talked about anhedonia which is the low mood that sometimes hits us in early sobriety

For more on dealing anhedonia check out Lynette’s video on our you tube channel and the Tribe Sober podcast interview with Dr Loretta Breuning, episode 55 on Apple Podcasts

We talked about the Path to Purpose which is Lynette's membership program

We discussed the synergy between Tribe Sober and Path to Purpose memberships and our plans to bring them closer

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