Inner Source - Healing from Toxic Abuse

If you want greater happiness, start showing yourself some compassion. According to research, self-compassion has powerful benefits that can contribute to your overall well-being in many areas of life including relationships, finance, physical and emotional health.  But how do we practice self-compassion?   In this episode we learn and put into practice different techniques to bring more compassion into our lives.  This episode also includes a mindfulness practice that you can use to help build and increase your self-compassion.

Finally, the narcissist apologized.  It sounded genuine.  Maybe? We want to believe that their apology was genuine, even though we know deep down that there’s a strong likelihood that it wasn’t.  So what do you do with that? If you don’t believe them, then it will be twisted back to you, as though you are heartless, have trust issues, or lack compassion.  But if you do believe them, you might be setting yourself up for more hurt and disappointment.  This episode looks at narcissistic/toxic apologies from different angles.   There are a few things that you definitely don’t want to do.  There are also a few things that might help you.

The narcissist apologized.  It sounded genuine.  Maybe?  We want to believe that their apology was genuine, even though we know deep down that something was missing.  Why don't you feel like everything was resolved?  Why do you still feel empty?  They said they were sorry.  If you don’t believe them, then it will be twisted back to you, as though you are heartless, have trust issues, or lack compassion.  But if you do believe them, you might be setting yourself up for more hurt and disappointment.  This episode looks at narcissistic apologies from different angles.   There are a few things that you definitely don’t want to do.  There are also a few things that might help you.

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Sometimes the only thing we want from the person who has hurt us is an apology.  We might even be able to somehow coerce one out of them, or maybe they actually realize that they have gone too far and offer one, or so we believe.  Is it a genuine apology? Or is it fake?  How do you tell the difference? This episode goes over some of the reasons people with toxic behaviors apologize, as well as the typical types of apologies you can expect from a narcissist.  It also covers what entails a genuine apology and how to recognize when you don't get one.  Please subscribe and join me on you path to healing from toxic abuse.

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You have been a great source of narcissistic supply, but you finally figured out that you have been dealing with a narcissist.  When they realize that you see this, there will be backlash.  That is because they know that they will be unable to fool you anymore and won’t be able to continue their narcissistic supply from you.  You are now interfering with their addiction, which is the supply of attention, admiration, power and control that you gave them.  They will be in withdrawal.  You might see a no gap transition, meaning they will quickly find another source of supply, maybe immediately into another relationship to stabilize their inner world.  You will also see narcissistic rage, which looks completely unfamiliar and like pure evil.  Look out for smear campaigns, verbal, emotional, mental and even possibly physical abuse, and of course, the victim mentality.

Shame is at the core of dependency and codependency.  After spending time with a person who has toxic or manipulative behaviors, we begin to internalize their subtle and sometimes not so subtle messages about ourselves.  This can cause an underlying sense of shame.  Shame is an inner experience of feeling unwanted, worthless, or rejected.  When we’re burdened with shame, we want to attach to something or someone else to get away from ourselves.  When we have a deep belief that we’re not good enough, we go to great measures to avoid that feeling.  This episode looks at the connection between codependency, toxic behaviors and shame, as well as the healing process of working through shame.

After being involved with a narcissist, it takes some healing to get back to the feeling of who we were before the relationship, or before the damage to the psyche.  Victims of narcissistic or toxic abuse end up wondering what happened to their former selves.  They might remember being more independent, more vivacious, more outgoing.  Or maybe they feel a decrease in their creativity and passion.  

The journey back to the soul is the most difficult but the single most important part of the healing process.  It is painful because it requires us to feel the feelings that the protective part of the brain has been hiding and locking away from our conscious mind in order to protect us from the pain of mistreatment and abuse.  This episode offers guidance on returning to your true self.  We need to be true to ourselves and allow the essence of our soul to be fully experienced and expressed in order to live the life we were meant to live.  

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This episode is about the defense against the energy-vampire.  Being around a toxic person is exhausting.  Why do we end up feeling drained with them?  If you are with a narcissist, or someone with toxic behaviors, you probably feel tired or drained most of the time.  This episode reveals some of the signs that you may be at risk of losing your energy to a narcissist, which may lead to a feeling of disconnection.  We also look at how to begin rebuilding your energy and stopping the drain.  For more information please visit:  www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

Trying to reason with a narcissist is like beating your head against a wall.  Trying to reason with a narcissist or person with toxic behaviors is like beating your head against a wall.  This episode will explore the dynamics of trying to reason with the unreasonable and why we keep doing it.  We look at the red flags of when we are being subtly sucked into an energy bond of impossible rationality.  We can only stop the madness if we are aware of it.  Once we begin to see the tactics used and the reasons behind why narcissists intentionally engage in illogical debate we can actively disengage from arguments without feeling like we need to prove anything, or make them see our perspective.  

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Addiction is a form of attachment.  We can be as addicted to a toxic person as we can to a toxic substance.  This episode will explore the hows, whys and whats of trauma bonding.  Find out why it statistically takes an average of 10 years to leave an abusive relationship.  Recognize the signs that you are in a trauma bond.  Identify the path to heal trauma bonding during and after a toxic relationship.

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