The Hidden Dangers of People Pleasing: Identifying and Overcoming People Pleasing Habits

In this episode, we dive into the complex world of people pleasing, a behavior often linked to toxic relationships. We explore the origins, signs, and detrimental impacts of people pleasing, including how it fosters low self-esteem, burnout, and unhealthy relationships. Key points include the importance of identifying personal needs and boundaries, and the necessity of self-compassion in overcoming these habits. The episode also highlights the skills developed by people pleasers and the importance of shifting from external to internal validation to foster genuine connections and personal growth.

00:00 Introduction to People Pleasing

00:15 Defining People Pleasing

02:19 Signs You Might Be a People Pleaser

04:51 The Consequences of People Pleasing

09:19 Skills and Misconceptions of People Pleasers

21:03 Root Causes of People Pleasing

24:21 How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

26:47 Setting Boundaries and Practicing Self-Compassion

30:58 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode, we meet Mark McNicol, the creator of Anonymous Drama Therapy, an innovative program making profound impacts in prisons and rehab centers by fostering emotional resilience through creative expression. Mark shares his journey from mainstream theater to developing this groundbreaking approach, addressing inherited trauma among individuals with substance use disorders. He delves into the unique processes and therapeutic intent of the program, the role of anonymity, and the integration of AI tools to assist facilitators. This episode offers insights into the powerful intersection of art, psychology, and healing.

00:00 Introduction to Mark McNicol and Anonymous Drama Therapy

01:03 Mark's Journey into Drama Therapy

01:35 First Experience in Prison Theatre

02:48 The Impact and Evolution of the Program

10:24 Therapeutic Intent and Anonymous Drama

11:19 Differences Between Psychodrama, Drama Therapy, and Anonymous Drama

15:30 Challenges and Safeguarding in Sessions

17:12 Participant Feedback and Program Expansion

25:49 Incorporating AI Tools in Drama Therapy

33:46 Personal Inspirations and Spiritual Connections

50:40 Conclusion and Contact Information

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What is the most important factor in healing? In this episode, we explore the integral role of accountability in personal growth. We look into how accountability fosters self-awareness, emotional maturity, trust, respect, and healthy relationships. The discussion highlights the contrast between accountable individuals and those within the dark triad, such as narcissists, who struggle with this concept due to their fragile ego and lack of empathy. We explore various tactics these individuals use to avoid responsibility, like gaslighting and denial. Strategies to handle such individuals, from setting boundaries to seeking professional help, are also discussed. Additionally, we touch upon accountability from various spiritual perspectives, emphasizing its universal importance in personal evolution.

00:00 Introduction to Accountability and Personal Growth

00:26 The Role of Accountability in Relationships

00:42 Narcissism and Lack of Accountability

01:13 Building Problem-Solving Skills Through Accountability

01:38 Trust and Self-Respect Through Accountability

03:05 Empowerment and Self-Correction

03:30 The Importance of Self-Reflection

04:00 Challenges in Relationships with Narcissists

04:20 Psychological Factors Behind Lack of Accountability

09:17 Examples of Avoiding Accountability

16:35 Dealing with People Who Avoid Accountability

27:09 Conclusion: The Fundamental Nature of Accountability

In this compelling episode, Gloria Grace Rand, known as the Light Messenger, discusses her path of self-discovery and spiritual awakening. Gloria shares insights from her life, including her journey with her sister’s cancer diagnosis, her divorce, and her upbringing in a challenging family environment. She reveals how these experiences influenced her work as an inspirational speaker, author, and spiritual business coach. Gloria talks about the importance of overcoming limiting beliefs, trusting one's higher self, and creating a life of joy, love, and abundance. She also touches on themes from her book 'Live, Love, Engage,' detailing her strategies for healing and personal growth. Tune in for a deep dive into her methods for helping mission-driven entrepreneurs and individuals heal and transform their lives.

00:00 Introduction to Gloria Grace Rand

01:25 Creating a Dream Life

01:42 Navigating Divorce and Personal Growth

07:22 Childhood and Family Dynamics

17:15 Impact of Sister's Cancer Diagnosis

23:13 Writing the Book: Live, Love, Engage

27:02 Finding Inspiration in Music

27:49 Overcoming Writing Obstacles

30:02 The Power of Dedication and Timing

33:25 Helping Others Through Coaching

36:29 The Importance of Asking for Help

42:11 Connecting with Higher Power

45:00 Advice for Those in Manipulative Relationships

48:45 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode, we go further into the concept of gaslighting, building on the foundation laid in a previous episode. We look at how gaslighting manipulates your internal reality, and how it can cause long term effects, as explored through Anil Seth's theory of consciousness and controlled hallucinations. The question of ‘Who Am I’, is examined, because after being in a toxic relationship, your sense of self changes. You begin to loose confidence as your reality gets twisted and manipulated. The episode breaks down Seth’s ideas of identity and reality, conceptualized through his explanation of self-continuity, change blindness, and predictive processing. This concept applies to understanding how gaslighting influences our perception of ourselves and reality. Practical advice on recognizing and responding to gaslighting behavior is also provided, empowering you to trust your reality and protect your psychological well-being. When you can trust your reality, you can regain your sense of self, and therefore, your confidence.

00:00 Introduction and Recap

00:33 Understanding Gaslighting and Internal Reality

01:18 Anil Seth's Theory on Consciousness

02:06 Change Blindness and Self-Perception

07:13 Predictive Processing and Sensory Inputs

09:21 Gaslighting in Toxic Relationships

19:05 Recognizing and Responding to Gaslighting

26:12 Protecting Yourself from Gaslighting

28:39 Trusting Yourself and Healing

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Sugar as a toxin: In this episode, the host welcomes Mike Collins, a renowned expert in sugar addiction, to discuss the often overlooked issue of sugar addiction and its impact on overall well-being. If you don’t have a goal for 2025, you’ll want to consider reducing or eliminating sugar after hearing what Mike has to say. Mike shares his personal journey, which started with his family's history of sugar dependence and how it affected him throughout his life. He also elaborates on the similarities between sugar addiction and other types of addiction, the science behind it, and the importance of recognizing this as a serious issue. The conversation covers practical tips on identifying and overcoming sugar addiction, the role of emotional well-being in recovery, and the importance of peer support. Mike also talks about his book 'The Last Resort Sugar Detox' and his initiatives like the Sugar Addiction and Quit Sugar Summit to help people combat this pervasive issue. This episode provides valuable insights and a deep understanding of why sugar addiction should be taken seriously and how it can be addressed effectively.

00:00 Introduction and Special Guest

00:34 Mike's Personal Journey with Sugar Addiction

02:32 The Impact of Sugar on Health and Wellbeing

05:34 The Pandemic and Sugar Consumption

06:58 Defining and Recognizing Sugar Addiction

09:20 Emotional and Psychological Aspects of Sugar Addiction

13:12 Strategies for Overcoming Sugar Addiction

17:15 The Role of Support and Therapy

42:10 Mike's Personal Motivation and Final Thoughts

47:15 Conclusion and Resources

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In this episode, our host welcomes Kimberly Grustas, the inspiring founder of Good For You Girls, a natural skincare company for young girls. Kimberly shares her journey from working in the fitness and advertising industries to creating a line of healthy skincare products driven by her daughters' severe allergies and asthma. She discusses the importance of self-care, the psychological transformations during puberty, and how her products are designed to empower girls by promoting healthy habits. The conversation touches on the challenges of entrepreneurship, marketing strategies, and the significance of respecting and supporting the needs of young girls as they navigate puberty.

00:00 Introduction to Kimberly Grustas

01:10 Kimberly's Career Journey

02:35 Challenges and Inspirations

04:39 Founding Good For You Girls

07:06 Product Development and Philosophy

09:17 Empowering Young Girls

13:44 Marketing and Distribution

18:34 Challenges as a Female Entrepreneur

21:46 Reflecting on Fearlessness in Business

22:33 Turning Down Target: A Bold Decision

24:33 Challenges with Big Retailers

26:25 The Power of Social Media and Personal Branding

29:47 Support Systems and Family Influence

33:02 Facing Competition and Staying Positive

39:43 Inspiring Stories and the Importance of Self-Care

42:18 Final Thoughts and Gratitude

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In this episode Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS looks at the complexities of gaslighting, one of the most insidious and difficult forms of manipulation to detect and combat. Discover how programming from gaslighting often originates in childhood, particularly in environments where parents or caregivers use this tactic. Explore the deep psychological impact it has on self-doubt and distorted reality, making victims vulnerable to further manipulation in adult relationships. Practical examples illustrate how parents and significant others might use gaslighting to avoid accountability, twist reality, and shift blame. The episode also introduces ways to counteract gaslighting and begin the healing process, emphasizing the need for boundaries, self-awareness and research of the common tactics to reclaim and trust your own reality. The insights of British neuroscientist Anil Seth are incorporated to explain our brain's perception of reality and how it can be distorted by consistent gaslighting.

00:00 Understanding Gaslighting: An Introduction

01:00 The Impact of Gaslighting in Childhood

04:25 Recognizing Gaslighting in Relationships

05:07 Examples of Parental Gaslighting

10:12 Gaslighting in Romantic Relationships

15:17 The Neuroscience Behind Gaslighting

17:43 Strategies to Counteract Gaslighting

18:20 Conclusion and Next Steps

In this episode, I talk with Stacy Blemaster, author of the transformative book 'To Be or Not to Be, Shedding Innocence'. Stacy shares her journey from growing up in a family with generational secrets and emotional withholding, to enduring the struggles of a personality forged to please others. She discusses the critical turning points in her life, including her experiences in college and therapy, and how she took leaps of faith to find healing and authenticity. Stacy provides invaluable insights into breaking free from toxic relationships and rebuilding one’s life, offering hope and guidance to anyone struggling in similar circumstances.

00:00 Introduction to Stacy Blemaster

00:59 Stacy's Childhood and Family Secrets

02:31 College Struggles and Realizations

04:35 Therapy and the Journey to Authenticity

07:12 Breaking Free from Toxic Relationships

10:23 The Role of Faith and 12-Step Programs

17:10 Writing the Book and Family Reactions

28:01 Final Words of Wisdom and Encouragement

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Curse or Schema? Either way, in this episode I’m talking about overcoming inherited traumas.

What is a generational curse? And are you plagued with it? We look closley at the negative behavior patterns passed down through families. These patterns, often referred to as 'isms' such as alcoholism, gambling, abuse, and mental illness, can have severe impacts on various life aspects including health, relationships, and finances. Let’s look at generational curses through the lens of modern psychology. Are what we refer to as ‘curses’ really DNA-encoded or learned behavior patterns known as schemas? 

This episode highlights the difficulties and immense effort required to break these curses or cycles, particularly for those in toxic environments. We look at the role that self-awareness plays in emotional resilience, and setting boundaries. The discussion also covers the specific schemas developed by family members of narcissists and also those of narcissists themselves. Ways of overcoming these deeply ingrained patterns are explored in our efforts to break the ‘generaltional curse’.

00:00 Introduction to Generational Curses

00:24 Understanding Isms and Their Impact

01:22 Modern Psychology's Take on Generational Curses

01:53 The Role of DNA and Learned Experiences

02:35 Schemas: The Building Blocks of Behavior

06:08 Breaking Free from Generational Curses

06:35 Narcissism and Its Schemas

09:33 The Black Sheep's Role in Breaking Curses

14:00 Subjugation Schema in Narcissistic Families

23:33 Emotional Inhibition Schema

28:21 Steps to Break the Cycle

35:14 Challenges in Breaking the Curse

37:46 Embracing Self-Compassion and Self-Care

40:05 Understanding Narcissistic Dynamics

42:14 The Role of the Black Sheep

44:02 Schemas and Their Impact

47:08 Subjugation Schema Explained

51:40 Mistrust Schema and Its Effects

57:37 Emotional Inhibition Schema

01:02:35 Breaking the Cycle of Generational Curses

35:14 Challenges and Resistance