Inner Source - Healing from Toxic Abuse

In this episode, we are joined by Mr. Jay, a renowned betrayal trauma practitioner, as he delves into the complexities of healing from emotional abuse and relational trauma. Mr. Jay explains what betrayal trauma is, how it differs from other traumas, and discusses its profound impact on personal identity. He emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing past wounds alongside current pain to facilitate true healing. The conversation also explores the role of faith in the recovery process and provides practical strategies for managing triggers and rebuilding trust. Mr. Jay’s unique combination of professional expertise and a faith-based approach offers invaluable insights for those on their journey to recovery.

00:00 Introduction to Mr. Jay and Betrayal Trauma

01:10 Defining Betrayal Trauma

02:39 Personalization and Secrecy of Betrayal Trauma

04:06 Impact of Betrayal Trauma on Past, Present, and Future

04:58 Betrayal Trauma from Suicide and Personal Health

06:09 Identity Loss and Co-Creation in Relationships

08:35 Rebuilding Trust and Individualized Healing Plans

11:13 Role of Faith and Spirituality in Healing

12:00 Forgiveness and Self-Love

15:04 Challenges in Forgiving the Impact

18:47 Willingness to Repair and Rebuild

23:48 Patterns of Behavior and Trust

25:02 Creating Your Soulmate After Betrayal

25:40 Personal Story of Trauma and Healing

27:09 Discovering Betrayal Trauma

28:56 Challenges in Betrayal Trauma Therapy

36:53 Signs of Genuine Effort in Healing

37:55 Coping Mechanisms for Triggers

44:47 Final Messages of Hope and Encouragement

To learn more about today’s guest, Mr. Jay, visit:

MRJAYRelationshipCoach.com

To learn more about the host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS, visit:

InnerSourceTherapy.com

Healing Through Trauma: Veronica Bubenickova with Cancer Recovery

In this episode, we are joined by Veronica Bubenickova, author of 'Diary of a Soul Reborn' and a leader in cancer recovery transformation. Veronica shares her personal journey of cancer recovery and the essential role of trauma-informed practices in healing. She discusses the importance of integrating energy-based healing techniques such as somatic experiencing, angelic Reiki, and quantum regression therapy in managing post-treatment stress, particularly for those with a history of childhood trauma or toxic abuse. Veronica provides deep insights into the mind-body connection, intergenerational trauma, and the power of self-love and community in fostering resilience and emotional stability during and after cancer treatment. She also offers practical guidance and resources for anyone navigating a similar path.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

01:43 Veronica's Personal Journey into Trauma and Healing

04:18 Exploring the Mind-Body Connection

14:42 Angelic Reiki and Quantum Regression Therapy

17:28 Somatic Experiencing and Post-Treatment Challenges

25:53 Integrating Conventional and Alternative Treatments

28:04 Veronica's Book and Online Course

31:51 The Power of Community and Protection Techniques

41:30 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

To learn more about Veronika Bubenickova:

www.lotus-journey.com/links

To learn more about the host, Deborah Ashway:

www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

In the Middle: Navigating the Journey of Eating Disorder Recovery with Mallory Tarpley

In this episode, we sit down with author and advocate Mallary Tenore Tarpley to discuss her upcoming book, 'Slip: Life in the Middle of Eating Disorder Recovery.' Mallory shares her deeply personal journey through anorexia, following the early loss of her mother, and how she transformed her struggle into a source of hope and resilience. With insights from extensive interviews with experts and patients, Mallory addresses the often-overlooked 'middle place' in eating disorder recovery, offering practical strategies and shedding light on misconceptions. Tune in to learn about Mallory's reflections on resilience, her investigative work on eating disorders, and valuable lessons for both those struggling and their loved ones.

00:00 Introduction to Mallory's Journey

01:18 Mallory's Early Life and Struggles

02:47 The Onset of the Eating Disorder

06:41 Treatment and Recovery

09:41 Defining Resilience

20:31 Challenges and Relapses

27:49 Support Systems and Therapy

36:11 Final Thoughts and Book Information

You can find SLIP, by Mallary Tenore Tarpley on Amazon

To learn more about Mallary Tenore Tarpley:

https://www.mallarytenoretarpley.com/

To learn more about the host, Deborah Ashway:www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

In this episode of the Healing From Toxic Abuse Podcast, host Deborah Ashway is joined by Kimberly Johnson, CEO of Arch Collaborative. Arch Collaborative is a social services network in Redding, CA, supporting victims of domestic violence, child abuse, and human trafficking in Shasta County. Since founding the Children’s Legacy Center in 2016, she has secured over $15 million in grants to establish the county’s first Children’s Advocacy Center, aiding prosecutions while reducing trauma for victims. Ms. Johnson is an alum of the Stanford Business School’s LEAD Program, and holds certifications from the National Children’s Alliance and the National Native Children’s Trauma Center

This episode discusses trauma-informed care and innovative support systems for trauma survivors. Kimberly shares her work in Northern California, detailing the creation of a Children's Advocacy Center, the challenges and successes in providing services to victims of violence, and the crucial role of interdisciplinary collaboration. This discussion highlights hope, healing, and the transformative potential of coordinated care for those affected by trauma.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Guest

02:11 Kimberly Johnson's Background and Arch Collaborative

03:25 The Children's Advocacy Center Model

05:28 Expansion and Rebranding to Arch Collaborative

06:59 Challenges and Successes in Trauma-Informed Care

09:49 Rural Placement Model for Exploited Children

15:05 Systemic Solutions and Coordinated Response

20:33 Comprehensive Services for Domestic Violence Victims

24:13 Charges Filed and Community Impact

25:03 Understanding Non-Physical Abuse

26:09 Challenges in Victim Support

27:38 Financial Control and Training

28:08 Post-COVID Staffing and Services

31:18 Behavioral Health and Crisis Services

33:26 Law Enforcement and Victim Belief

39:44 Supporting Local Trauma Care

41:56 Future of Trauma-Informed Care

46:14 Conclusion and Contact Information

Social Links:

https://www.facebook.com/OneSafePlaceShasta/, https://www.facebook.com/childrenslegacycenter/

https://www.instagram.com/ospshasta/?hl=en

https://www.instagram.com/childrenslegacycenter/?hl=en

https://www.instagram.com/kimberlylanelle/?hl=en

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-l-johnson-7803a374

In this episode, Deb interviews Andy Campbell, author of 'Overcoming Life's Toughest Setbacks'. Andy shares his inspiring journey of surviving multiple traumatic events, including childhood abuse, family health issues, his own battle with stage four pancreatic cancer, and the loss of his son. He discusses his 15 core beliefs that provide a framework for resilience and positive change. Andy also highlights the importance of courage, honor, and perseverance in facing life's adversities. The conversation explores deep philosophical insights and practical advice for those dealing with their own setbacks, offering hope and motivation to listeners.

00:00 Introduction to Andy Campbell

01:29 Andy's Early Life Challenges

04:35 Developing Core Beliefs

07:00 The Six Foundational Words

10:18 Applying Core Beliefs in Life

16:19 Understanding Honor and Courage

31:01 Facing Pain with Honor

31:51 Core Beliefs: No One Outruns the Universe

32:14 The Still Small Voice vs. The Loud Voice

35:30 Hard Decisions and Hard Consequences

35:50 The Journey Through Chemotherapy

40:21 Listening to the Quiet Voice

45:06 Overview of Core Beliefs

48:08 The Importance of Perseverance

52:32 Finding Meaning in Life's Challenges

55:31 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

To learn more about today’s guest:

askandycampbell.com

To learn more about show host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS or to be a guest on this podcast:

www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

In this episode of Healing from Toxic Abuse Podcast, host Deb Ashway welcomes Ingrid Hu Dahl, an accomplished author, leadership coach, musician, and filmmaker. Ingrid discusses her new memoir 'Sun Shining On Morning Snow' and delves into themes of identity, cultural expectations, resilience, and the journey of self-discovery. Sharing deeply personal experiences, Ingrid touches on her late mother's impact, the complexities of mixed-race identities, and how engaging with one's authentic self can foster deeper human connections and empathy. Listen in as Ingrid shares the wisdom she has gleaned from her journey and the powerful transformation she experienced through writing her memoir.

00:00 Welcome and Introduction to Ingrid Udal

01:21 The Meaning Behind 'Sun Shining On Morning Snow'

02:04 Ingrid's Mother's Journey and Cultural Dynamics

03:22 Writing the Memoir: A Healing Process

05:39 Themes of Identity and Cultural Expectations

07:44 Growing Up Mixed-Race in America

12:23 Ingrid's Mother's Legacy and Struggles

15:42 Healing and Reconciliation

22:23 The Magic of Horses

24:34 Embracing Authenticity and Cultural Backgrounds

26:10 The Power of Family and Matriarchs

26:55 Warrior Spirit and Generational Healing

31:21 The Courage of Choice and Living Boldly

37:31 The Significance of 'Sun Shining on Morning Snow'

41:45 Final Thoughts and Key Takeaways

To find Ingrid’s book, Sun Shining on Morning Snow, visit:

https://www.sunshiningonmorningsnow.com/

To be a guest on this podcast or learn more about the host, Deborah Ashway, visit:

www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

In this episode of 'Healing from Toxic Abuse,' host Deborah welcomes Lizzie, a listener who bravely shares her journey of overcoming a toxic relationship. Lizzie recounts her experiences moving from Britain to Spain, navigating cultural differences, and ultimately surviving an abusive marriage. Through candid conversation, Lizzie discusses the emotional and psychological manipulation she faced, the pivotal moments that led to her realization, and the steps she took to reclaim her life. This powerful story highlights the importance of external support, self-belief, and the resources available for those in similar situations. Lizzie's narrative is an inspiration to others facing similar challenges with toxic relationships, reminding listeners that it is possible to find a way out and rebuild a life of independence and happiness.

00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast

01:45 Lizzie's Journey: From Britain to Spain

03:49 Realizing the Toxicity

05:44 The Turning Point: Getting a Stable Job

11:32 Recognizing and Accepting the Abuse

15:14 Seeking Help and Support

20:58 Reporting to the Police and Breaking Free

24:34 Taking the First Brave Step

25:08 Belief System and Dependency

26:33 Rebuilding Self-Reliance

27:21 Support Network and Shared Experiences

28:18 Understanding the Cycle of Toxic Relationships

30:46 Overcoming Manipulation and Finding Clarity

35:24 Building a New Life and Shared Custody

41:24 Resilience and Future Goals

www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

Holding in Your Truth For Way Too Long

Breaking the Cycle: Speaking Your Truth in Toxic Relationships

When you hold in your truth, thoughts, feelings, needs, and wants, for so long, they become impacted. And when you finally do speak your truth, it has the potential to come out way too strong and all wrong.  This episode talks about the consequences of holding back your truth in toxic relationships and provides insights into recognizing and overcoming these patterns. Learn about the signs that you're not speaking from your heart, the effects of suppressing emotions, and how to start voicing your truth safely and effectively. Discover the importance of emotional regulation and reappraisal, and find out how to navigate your healing journey. Reclaim your voice and break free from the cycle of manipulation.

00:00 Understanding the Impact of Toxic Relationships

00:59 Five Signs You're Holding in Your Truth

07:30 The Consequences of Suppressing Emotions

13:30 How to Speak Up After Holding Things In

16:31 Embracing Your Authentic Self

25:23 The Journey of Healing and Growth

To learn more about our host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS, visit:

www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

In this episode, the host, Deborah Ashway, welcomes Kate Russell, author of the powerful memoir 'Ironing Out My Life,' to discuss her deeply personal journey of growing up in a toxic environment marked by child abuse, addiction, and generational trauma. Kate shares her experiences with alcoholic and drug-addicted parents, the impact of these dynamics on her life, and her path to recovery and resilience. She discusses the raw and honest truth of her memoir, the importance of confronting one's past, breaking cycles of abuse, and the healing potential of sharing personal stories. Kate also talks about her writing process, challenges, and how her belief system and intuition have guided her through recovery. The episode touches upon her career as an actor, her future plans, and the significance of maintaining a connection with her 'God voice' for hope and resilience.

00:00 Introduction to Kate Russell and Her Memoir

01:35 The Story Behind 'Ironing Out My Life'

02:31 Kate's Early Life and Family Background

03:25 Impact of Parental Addiction and Abuse

07:16 Kate's Journey to Sobriety and Healing

18:48 Challenges in Writing the Memoir

26:28 Navigating Audition Anxiety

27:21 Embracing Authenticity in Acting

30:15 The Battle of Internal Voices

32:06 Addressing Childhood Trauma

38:09 The Journey to Sobriety

41:35 Reflecting on Recovery and Belief

45:18 Complex Relationship with Mother

48:31 Future Plans and Book Promotion

To learn more about today’s guest, Kate Russell, visit:

KateRussellAuthor.com

To learn more about our host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS, visit:

www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

Amazon

katerussellauthor.com

Kate Russell is an accomplished author and memoirist, well-known for her powerful and thought-provoking works such as "Ironing Out My Life." In this episode, we will be discussing her memoir, which explores the long-lasting impact of child abuse on various aspects of life.

Throughout her career, Kate has gained a strong following and recognition for her authentic and heartfelt storytelling. Her books, including "Ironing Out My Life" and others in the "Portrait of a Dysfunctional Family" series, address the challenges of overcoming a difficult past and the resilience required to navigate the lasting effects of trauma.

As a seasoned writer, Kate shares her personal experiences in a way that resonates with readers who have faced similar struggles. Her work sheds light on the importance of self-reflection, healing, and personal growth in the aftermath of abusive environments.

Kate's powerful storytelling and commitment to raising awareness about the impact of abuse make her an influential figure in the realm of memoirs and personal development literature.

In this episode, the host, Deborah Ashway, welcomes Kate Russell to discuss her deeply personal journey of growing up in a toxic environment marked by child abuse, addiction, and generational trauma. Kate shares her experiences with alcoholic and drug-addicted parents, the impact of these dynamics on her life, and her path to recovery and resilience. She discusses the raw and honest truth of her memoir, the importance of confronting one's past, breaking cycles of abuse, and the healing potential of sharing personal stories. Kate also talks about her writing process, challenges, and how her belief system and intuition have guided her through recovery. The episode touches upon her career as an actor, her future plans, and the significance of maintaining a connection with her 'God voice' for hope and resilience.

00:00 Introduction to Kate Russell and Her Memoir

01:35 The Story Behind 'Ironing Out My Life'

02:31 Kate's Early Life and Family Background

03:25 Impact of Parental Addiction and Abuse

07:16 Kate's Journey to Sobriety and Healing

18:48 Challenges in Writing the Memoir

26:28 Navigating Audition Anxiety

27:21 Embracing Authenticity in Acting

30:15 The Battle of Internal Voices

32:06 Addressing Childhood Trauma

38:09 The Journey to Sobriety

41:35 Reflecting on Recovery and Belief

45:18 Complex Relationship with Mother

48:31 Future Plans and Book Promotion

To learn more about today’s guest, Kate Russell, visit:

KateRussellAuthor.com

To learn more about our host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS, visit:

www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

Amazon

katerussellauthor.com