October 01, 2024

Inside My Inner Circle: How Adult Friendships Push You Forward and Keep You Growing

1 hour 21 minutes

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Valeria sits down with her close friend, Aleks Malkin, to discuss the beauty and complexities of life's choices, personal growth, and the paths not taken. The episode dives deep into themes of self-reflection, hyper-independence, and the power of vulnerability, as the two friends share stories of their past, the defining moments that shaped them, and how their perspectives on life have evolved over the years.

Aleks opens up about her journey with motherhood, marriage, and the importance of allowing oneself to feel deeply, even if it means facing uncomfortable truths. Valeria shares her own experiences of contemplating the "what ifs" in life, questioning the different paths she could have taken, and the realization that some choices were necessary for her growth. They explore how childhood experiences and societal expectations have influenced their definitions of love, success, and identity, and how they’re striving to create a more authentic and fulfilling life.

Follow Aleks on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aleksmalkin/

Mentioned:

Byron Katie’s The Work: https://thework.com/

Awareness by Anthony DeMello https://a.co/d/gfyPX0Q

Chloe Macintosh: https://www.instagram.com/chloe_macintosh/

Inside Out 2: https://www.disneyplus.com/movies/inside-out-2/6MeZYf9JkFii

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What We Talked About:

00:00 Intro

01:36 Weekend contemplation

03:52 What could I have done differently?

07:24 Taking alone time

12:06 Self-awareness

14:11 Losing yourself in being a mother

17:08 The 4-Question Inquiry

21:13 Pause and then process the situation

22:02 Somatic way to heal

26:31 You model your values

27:49 How to raise a daughter

30:46 What younger you would have wanted

35:10 Hyper-independence as a coping mechanism

39:04 Pleasure has become synonymous to shame

43:07 The generation that needs a lot of self-work

45:42 Having comfortable conversations with your parents

47:05 Conversation with your mom

52:17 Compassion and space for people

56:06 It’s about creating a safe environment

01:00:56 How do you define real friendships

01:02:37 Are you still working on yourself?

01:03:40 Back from a social media break

01:07:25 Allow things to come to you

01:14:49 How do you give advice to someone?

01:20:23 What’s your purpose?

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