Irresistible You: Lose the Emotional Weight | Body Image | Confidence | Weight Loss

If you've ever tried to punish yourself by waiting for the weight to buy clothes that fit your body, this episode is for you. Does this sound familiar? You're afraid that if you size up, you are throwing in the towel and giving up on your weight loss dreams. It's time to crush the guilt and shame about a number in the back of your pants that nobody can see.  I'm going to share how to get over your fears because you deserve to wear clothes that fit and flatter your body now, not 50 pounds from now. If you are ready to gain more confidence and trust in yourself, keep listening!

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 Today we are going to be talking about self love as an ongoing evolution and the hypocrisy of the body positivity movement.  Here's the deal: We aren't meant to stay the same. Self love doesn't mean staying the same. Self love is not this all or nothing concept. It's actually quite the opposite. Unconditional self love is the not so glamorous stuff that magazines and influencers never talk about. The body positivity movement has gaslighted so many people into thinking they don't need to work on themselves or that it is wrong to WANT to change your body. That is some toxic ass behavior right there and it needs to stop. 

I'm doing something new and fun this week. Join me LIVE inside of the FREE Irresistible You Podcast Discussion Group, 3/16/21 @ 11am EST for the podcast after show where you get to discuss this episode in more detail and ask YOUR questions about the episode in real time. Request to join here.

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• Enroll in the Irresistible You Group Coaching Program.
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Today we are talking about the concept of desperate dieting and what you should be doing instead. Desperate dieting is what you do when you fall off the wagon and feel like a total failure who is never going to lose her weight. So, out of desperation and misery, you find a yo-yo fad diet that promises to get the weight off as quickly as possible by a specific date. How many times have you repeated this cycle? Desperate dieting is never going to give you the life you crave. In this episode, I'm going to share what you need to do instead of desperate dieting if you want to get the weight off for the last time and create the irresistible you version of yourself that you crave and deserve to be.

I'm doing something new and fun this week. Join me LIVE inside of the FREE Irresistible You Podcast Discussion Group, 3/9/21 @ 11am EST for the podcast after show where you get to discuss this episode in more detail and ask YOUR questions about the episode in real time. Request to join here.

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Let's talk about how to get out of a weight loss slump and what that really means. The weight loss journey is about so much more than just losing the weight by a specific date.
It's about tackling your demons and learning how to regulate and manage your emotions so that you can stop using food to deal with your life.  I'd much rather take the time to do that than to try another gimmick diet out of desperation.

The gimmicks will fade. Your emotions will be with you until the day you die. You HAVE to learn how to manage your emotions so that you can lose the emotional weight that's holding you back form the life you deserve.

If you want to lose weight for the last time, you have to also take the time to become self-aware, recognize the hard emotions, and learn how to process them. That means your weight loss may not happen as "fast" as you would like and that is OK!

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• Enroll in the Irresistible You Group Coaching Program.
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Wanna know how to lose your weight for the last time and stop the yo-yo diet/body hate shame cycle? Self love is the missing piece that diets don't teach you. You've been conditioned to hate yourself if you're overweight. You've been conditioned that the only path to happiness is the BS before and after weight loss story. You've created so many BS rules that you have to hustle and hate your way down the scale. So, when ever you tell yourself you're going to "start over" on Monday, you do a bunch of stuff you hate because you want a quick fix because you're so uncomfortable in your skin.

Self love isn't the reward at the end when you get to your goal weight. It's HOW you get to you goal weight.  In this Irresistible You podcast episode, I'm breaking down the TRUTH what self-love really looks like during a weight loss journey and it's not about affirmations and bath bombs.

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• Enroll in the Irresistible You Group Coaching Program.
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How many times have you started a weight loss journey and found yourself beating yourself up that it's not working? You feel like you are putting in all the hard work and you aren't seeing results or the results are too slow? 

Well, I want to have a fierce conversation with you today to find out if you are truly holding yourself accountable or have you created a story in your head where you're in denial about what you are actually doing?  

I found myself doing this recently and I had to get real and honest with myself. I almost didn't want to share this but I think you need to hear the truth about what it's like from someone who is going through a weight loss journey to lose almost 100 lbs. 

Here's what I know for sure; the facts will always remove the emotion around the BS story you tell yourself.  

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If you have 50 or more pounds to lose, it can feel defeating before you even begin your weight loss journey.

​​You feel so uncomfortable in your body right now, that it doesn't FEEL like the effort you're putting in is even putting a dent in how you look or feel.

​​Impatience comes when you are living between feeling pissed off about how much weight you've gained but also feeling defeated about how much weight you still have to lose.

​​But, if you give up because you get impatient, where does that lead you?

​​Right back to where you started, feeling fat and miserable, putting your life on hold because you think this weight loss thing is just too hard and you'll never be able to do it. The yo-yo diet body hate shame cycle just keeps on spinning.

​​In this Irresistible You podcast episode, I'm sharing 4 ways you can practice patience with yourself in your weight loss journey.

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Every weekend, you make the promise to yourself that you'll start your diet over on Monday. Then, by Wednesday the wheels are falling off and you are left to feel like a failure who can't ever stick to anything. You've got one foot in and one foot out. It's time to break the yo-yo diet/body hate shame cycle by getting real and honest with yourself about what it is you're actually afraid of. Is there something that you're afraid of losing or giving up by committing to yourself and your weight loss journey?

Topics Discussed in This Episode

• What are you afraid of losing by committing to yourself and your weight loss journey?
• It's time to get honest with yourself about what you're actually afraid of.
• It's not just that you're afraid of the fear of failure. It's the fear of what you "think" or what you "perceive" that you have to give up by losing weight. (Breaking the all or nothing BS)
• The fear of giving up eating for comfort, a social life, favorite foods, spontaneity and living in the moment with food. 
• You are afraid of giving up the cycle of using food for comfort b/c you're addicted to the yo-yo diet/body hate shame cycle. 
• But, what would you gain if you finally made a commitment to yourself?
• What kind of life are you holding hostage, waiting for the weight by living in the fear of what you have to give up?
• You have to lose the emotional weight and build THAT foundation before you can ever expect the weight loss to work. 
• Weight loss is not about the food and the weight. It FEELS like that's the main problem, but the bigger issue and the one you have to solve if you want to lose weight and keep it off, is the relationship you have with yourself and how you think about yourself, your weight, and food. 
• You need to find other ways to feed your soul that don't revolve around food.
• You have to create an unconditional loving relationship with yourself by stripping away the "fat girl" identity.
• You have to stop the inner fat bitch chatter and break the rules you've created for yourself.

Action Plan - Join the FREE Podcast Discussion Group!
As the action item for this episode, I want you to answer the following questions in your journal and in the FREE Irresistible You Podcast discussion group. :

• What am I afraid I'll be giving up by committing to my weight loss journey?
• If I made the commitment to myself, what would I gain in my life?

Links & Resources

• Enroll in the Irresistible You Group Coaching Program.
• Schedule a Confidence Clarity Call ASAP to see if you're a good fit for enrollment. 
• Join the FREE Irresistible You Podcast Discussion Group
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How do you take the first step towards weight loss when you feel too fat to even get started? You know the feeling when you feel too fat to move your body and too uncomfortable in your clothes. When you feel like this, it feels easier to stay in your wet blanket of misery and sit on the couch, watch Netflix, and order all the fast food. In this episode, I'm going to teach you how to take the first step to build momentum, drop the all or nothing thinking, and kick start your weight loss journey with small steps. 

Topics Discussed in This Episode

• How to take the first step to build momentum.
• The compound effect of not taking action vs taking action. 
• Laying in the wet blanket on the couch versus standing up and taking the first step. 
• You have to decide that the discomfort of taking the first step to get out of the wet blanket feels better than laying there in your own misery.
• Weight loss from a place of hustle, misery, hatred, panic, and desperation is never a good idea. 
• Agreeing with yourself to not be perfect and ditch the all or nothing thinking. 
• Acknowledging and allowing yourself to sit in the discomfort of the weight when everything feels hard, sluggish, and fat. 
• Don't focus on how much weight you need to lose. Breaking it down into manageable decades. 
• Weight loss is the culmination of small steps.
• You have to change your thoughts that small steps means you're not doing it fast enough...how is that better than just doing nothing?!?!

Links & Resources

• Enroll in the Irresistible You Group Coaching Program.
• Schedule a Confidence Clarity Call ASAP to see if you're a good fit for enrollment. 
• Join the FREE Irresistible You Podcast Discussion Group
• Follow on Instagram @IrresistibleIcing
• Podcast Show Notes

We are in the last two weeks of 2020. How many years have you told yourself this was going to be the last year you live as the "fat girl?" This episode is for you if you're still having the same conversation with yourself, thinking that a new year will "magically" change everything. 

Topics Discussed in This Episode

• New Year/New You BS is coming to a social media feed near you!
• When are you going to stop lying to yourself about what will change just because it's a new year? It's time to have an honest conversation with yourself.
• What excuses were you using a year from now versus this year?
• How many years have you been using the same BS excuses?
• How to stop acting like a victim and how to be in control of your choices.
• You have to learn how to manage your emotions if you want the weight to stay off.
• Decide how you WANT to feel about yourself a year from now.
• Why you need to lose the "fat girl identity" in order to lose the emotional weight. 
• How a lack of self-love/self-worth shows up in your life. 

Links & Resources

• Enroll in the Irresistible You Coaching Program: https://irresistibleicing.com/course
• Schedule a Confidence Clarity Call ASAP: https://irresistibleicing.com/call
• Join the FREE Irresistible You Podcast Discussion Group
• Follow on Instagram @IrresistibleIcing
• Podcast Show Notes: https://irresistibleicing.com/a-new-year-doesnt-solve-the-yo-yo-diet-body-hate-shame-cycle.html