April 25, 2025

Is It Ever the Same After an Affair? Dr. Alexandra Solomon & Adam Lane Smith

52 minutes

In this insightful episode, Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a renowned psychologist and expert on relationships and intimacy, joins attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith to answer one of the hardest questions couples face: Can a relationship ever truly recover after an affair? Whether you’ve experienced betrayal or fear it might happen, this episode offers honest answers and real hope.

Topics Covered

👉 The psychological impact of infidelity, including PTSD symptoms in betrayed partners

👉 Whether love and trust can truly be rebuilt after someone cheats

👉 Who cheats more—men or women? Exploring modern trends and cultural shifts

👉 What motivates infidelity, and how it’s often tied to identity and emotional disconnect

👉 How insecure attachment styles like anxious-avoidant dynamics set the stage for betrayal

👉 Why communication breakdowns lead to emotional distance and vulnerability to affairs

👉 The path to sexual healing after infidelity and why pleasure can be part of the repair

👉 Unlearning toxic sex scripts shaped by porn and cultural myths

👉 What a “bulletproof relationship” looks like, and how couples can protect against future betrayals

👉 The emotional and behavioral transformation required of the partner who cheated

Affairs can devastate—but they can also awaken. Dr. Solomon and Adam Lane Smith share how, with courage and commitment, couples can turn betrayal into breakthrough. For those navigating pain, rebuilding trust, or learning to love securely, this episode offers not just insight—but a roadmap.

Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes!

If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’ https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Follow the “I Wish You Knew” Podcast:

--------------------------------------------------

Website: https://iwishyouknew.show/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow

Snapchat: https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod

Twitter /X: https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809

--------------------------------------------------

Follow Adam Lane Smith:

--------------------------------------------------

Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/

Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro

-------------------------------------------------

Dr. Alexandra Solomon

-------------------------------------------------

Website: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/alexandrahs1

-------------------------------------------------

The next episode drops Thursday :)

See you there.

Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to lean more about the podcast

To Learn More About @AttachmentAdam

https://adamlanesmith.com/

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg

https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/?hl=en

...more

View all episodes

By Adam Lane Smith & Andrey Korikov

4.7

4646 ratings