It's Not About The Money

In this episode, I explore the emotional and psychological patterns behind money behaviors, focusing on the fearful avoidant attachment style. I share personal stories and signs to recognize these patterns, offering insights into how to notice and break free from cycles of financial anxiety and avoidance.

00:00 Introduction to emotional money patterns 02:10 The ping-pong relationship with money 04:43 Signs of fearful avoidant attachment to money 07:10 Emotional triggers behind spending decisions 09:52 The cycle of control and avoidance 12:37 Why discipline alone doesn't fix money patterns 14:13 Building financial self-trust 16:41 The influence of childhood and upbringing 18:19 Moving towards balance and self-awareness 20:27 Practical steps to notice and pause

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Watch episode one in this series: The 4 Money Attachment Styles (And How To Spot Yours)

Watch episode two in this series: Why Knowing You're Financially Safe Doesn't Make You Feel Safe

In this episode, I explore the emotional side of financial safety, attachment styles, and how our feelings about money often don't match our actual financial situation. I share insights on how to build trust in ourselves and experience financial security beyond numbers.

00:00 Introduction to emotional safety and money

02:01 The disconnect between financial facts and feelings

03:49 Attachment styles and their influence on money behavior

06:11 The anxious attachment style and fear of loss

08:52 Trust, trustworthiness, and financial decision-making

12:07 The impact of financial milestones on emotional safety

15:13 Recognizing and sitting with financial discomfort

18:09 The importance of lived experience over reassurance

21:12 Building a secure relationship with money

24:08 Practical steps to notice and bridge the gap

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Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, and my episode on the best money books that aren't about money

Catch up on my Who Do You Trust With Your Money episode

Watch episode one in this series: The 4 Money Attachment Styles (And How To Spot Yours)

In this episode, I explore how attachment styles influence our relationship with money, revealing patterns that can help us understand and improve our financial behaviors.

00:00 Introduction and personal story

01:07 Why attachment styles matter in money

02:33 The four attachment styles and their relevance to money

04:37 The anxious attachment style and its signs

14:54 The avoidant attachment style and avoidance behaviors

18:33 The cycle of financial yo-yoing and emotional patterns

24:01 The secure attachment style and emotional regulation

28:37 Recognizing your current attachment style and next steps

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Catch up on last weeks episode - Who Do You Trust With Your Money

Uncover the best books that teach you about money that are not money books

In this episode, I delve into the complex relationship between trust and money. I explore who we trust with our finances, the importance of self-trust, and how our emotional attachments to money influence our financial decisions. The conversation highlights the need for a deeper understanding of our relationship with money, especially in times of uncertainty, and sets the stage for future discussions on money psychology and financial independence.

00:00 Exploring Trust in Financial Relationships 08:08 The Importance of Self-Trust with Money 12:57 Understanding Attachments to Money

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financial tool supporting vulnerable individuals. This episode explores the importance of independence, safety, and innovative solutions in financial inclusion for at-risk groups.

00:00 Introduction to Jane and her story

01:45 Caregiving challenges and personal motivation

04:12 The problem of financial management for vulnerable adults

07:12 Experiences with scams and managing risks

09:47 Initial workarounds and their limitations

13:03 Deciding to create a solution and the journey to Dragon's Den

17:10 The impact of public exposure and support from investors

20:11 Why widening access to financial tools matters

22:52 Features of the Sibstar debit card and app

25:45 How to approach conversations about financial safety

30:01 The social impact of empowering vulnerable populations

32:57 Navigating caregiving responsibilities and financial planning

35:14 Next steps for Sibstar and future collaborations

36:12 Closing thoughts and encouragement for caregivers

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Read How to talk about money with someone you care for

I explore the deep connection between worthiness and money, offering practical and mindset strategies to overcome financial fears rooted in systemic and personal beliefs. This episode provides insights into how to reframe your relationship with money and increase your capacity for abundance.

02:10 Understanding Internal Family Systems and Money Blocks

03:53 Systemic Influences on Women's Financial Beliefs

05:57 The Power of Past Tense Visualization

07:55 Using the Reticular Activating System to Achieve Goals

09:53 Practicing Visualization and Role-Playing

11:51 Recognizing Feelings of Excitement and Contraction

14:11 The Role of EFT Tapping in Releasing Money Blocks

15:57 Creating a Sense of Safety and Worthiness

18:10 The Importance of Relaxing the Nervous System

20:05 Practical Steps to Increase Worthiness

21:52 Community Resources and Next Steps

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In this episode I explore how irregular income impacts emotional well-being and provides practical strategies to create financial stability. I share insights on managing money anxiety, establishing reference points, and building resilience with actionable tips.

00:00 – Introduction to Irregular Income and Its Challenges

00:28 – The Emotional and Physical Toll of Fluctuating Income

01:22 – Three Numbers to Bring Financial Certainty

04:18 – Why Earning More Doesn't Reduce Stress

08:24 – An Alternative to Traditional Budgeting

13:40 – Using Separate Accounts for Security

18:32 – Regulating and Naming Money Feelings

23:25 – Practical Tools and What's Next

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In this conversation, I explore the intricate relationship between money and emotions, emphasising how our financial behaviors are influenced by attachment styles, internal conflicts, inherited beliefs, and systemic issues. I discuss various books that have shaped my understanding of these connections, highlighting the importance of recognising the emotional and psychological aspects of money management.

00:00 Understanding Money and Emotions

02:45 Attachment Theory and Money

06:01 Internal Conflicts and Money Behavior

11:05 Inherited Patterns and Money Beliefs

17:38 The Concept of Enoughness

21:07 The Role of Systems in Financial Behavior

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BOOKS MENTIONED:

1. Attached, by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller (2010)

2. No Bad Parts, by Richard Schwartz (2021)

3. It Didn't Start With You, by Mark Wolynn (2016)

4. The Power of Enough, by Elizabeth Husserl (2025)

5. Conscious Capitalism, by John Mackey & Raj Sisodia (2013)

Plus: It's Not About the Money: 3 Steps to Become a Wealthy Woman, by Catherine Morgan

In this episode, Catherine is joined by Jesse Mecham who shares insights from his journey with money, the importance of understanding what money is for, and how to develop a healthy relationship with it through a simple yet powerful question: 'What is it for?' Discover practical frameworks and personal stories that can transform your approach to money.

00:00 Introduction: Why Money Is More Than Numbers

01:07 Jesse's Journey: From Basement Spreadsheet to YNAB

02:20 Early Money Memories and Realizations

04:45 Money as a Skill: Learning to Swim

06:35 Aligning Money Decisions with Values

08:23 Money as a Reflection of Self

13:03 The Power of the Question: What's It For?

17:00 The Framework of Five Money Pots

23:22 Decentralization and Trust in Money

33:59 Legacy and Personal Purpose in Money

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About Jesse Mecham: Jesse Mecham is the founder of the beloved money app YNAB, bestselling author, and host of the top-rated podcast The Jesse Mecham Show. As seen in WIRED, Fortune, and The New York Times, Jesse is a leading voice in the personal finance space. He has helped millions of people get good at money and never worry about money again. He lives in Utah with his wife and family.

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In this conversation, I explore the multifaceted relationship individuals have with money, emphasising the importance of understanding the different parts of oneself that influence financial behavior. I encourage listeners to shift from a fixed identity of being 'good' or 'bad' with money to recognising the various parts that contribute to their financial decisions. By fostering self-compassion and curiosity, individuals can navigate their financial patterns more effectively and create a healthier relationship with money.

00:00 - You are not bad with money

03:15 - Why old money patterns keep repeating

05:30 - Three money parts you may recognize

09:23 - How to respond with curiosity instead of shame

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