It's Not About The Money

Have you ever been asked what you charge, and felt something happen before you had even said the number? That half a second where your mind is already running. Is that too much? Is it not enough? What will they think of me?

If you know that feeling well, you are in very good company.

This is part two of the Love and Money Series, and today I explore the fear of being paid what you are worth. It shows up most for us as sole traders, because when the business is you, being paid can feel deeply personal. But the fear is rarely about the number itself. It is about the meaning we have attached to it.

In this episode I walk through the five ways this fear shows up:

• Overdelivering to feel you have earned the right to be paid
• Dropping your price before anyone has even asked
• Rushing or softening the number as it leaves your mouth
• Overexplaining and justifying your fee
• Avoiding naming a price at all

Chapter Timestamps:

00:12 Introduction to the Fear of Pricing

02:50 Understanding Personal Value in Pricing

05:27 Signs of Fear in Pricing Conversations

10:49 The Impact of Undercharging

14:08 Shifting Mindsets: From Sole Trader to CEO

15:54 Practical Steps to Embrace Your Worth

We look at the resentment cost of undercharging, the shift from sole trader to CEO of your own business, and the questions that opens up. What does the business need to run profitably? What is the market willing to pay for the result I create? What is the cost of undercharging?

And I leave you with one practice for this week. Say your price, then pause. Don't soften it. Don't explain it. Just sit with it, and notice what arises in your body. This is my fee. I am allowed to be paid for the work I do. It is safe for me to receive.

Because being paid what you are worth rests on a much bigger question underneath the number: whether you believe you are allowed to receive, and whether you can hold your price steady enough for someone else to trust it.

So carry this with you. What do you make money mean, in the moment when someone offers to pay you for your work?

A lot of this work is about worthiness, boundaries, people pleasing, and inner worth. If you would like a safe space for these deeper conversations, come and join us in the Money Circle. It is our free online community, with a monthly newsletter of resources and a live monthly call where we hold space for exactly this.

Head to https://themoneypanel.co.uk/newsletter and you will receive an invite for the next circle call in your welcome email.

If you missed part one of the Love and Money Series, on why love and money are so deeply connected, listen to that first.

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Much love, Catherine x

In this episode, I explore the intricate relationship between love and money, emphasizing how our capacity to receive and give is deeply intertwined with our self-worth and emotional safety. I discuss the patterns that emerge from our early experiences and conditioning, highlighting the importance of awareness and new positive experiences in healing our relationship with money. The conversation delves into generational trauma and the impact of our upbringing on our financial behaviors, offering practical steps to begin the healing process.

00:00 - Why love and money mirror each other more than you think 01:57 - How childhood conditioning shapes your capacity to hold wealth 03:21 - Family patterns, early trauma, and the nervous system's relationship with safety 08:22 - The three ways love and money show up the same: receiving, giving, and letting go 13:24 - Intergenerational patterns, attachment, and inherited unworthiness 22:41 - Practical ways to expand your financial and emotional comfort zone 35:09 - Healing your relationship with money by nurturing your self-worth

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00:00 Understanding ADHD and Hormonal Influences

10:10 The Impact of Diagnosis on Personal Growth

20:02 Navigating Perimenopause and ADHD

30:01 Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) Explained

39:53 Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and Its Benefits

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30:30 Understanding Guilt and Shame in EFT

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23:49 Recap and Conclusion

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06:04 Identifying Money Story Types

08:58 Conflict Between Money Story Types

12:03 Strategies for Harmonious Money Conversations

14:59 The Importance of Acceptance in Money Dynamics

17:58 Practical Reframes for Money Discussions21:08 Conclusion and Next Steps

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12:53 Embodied Heart Breathing Practice for Money Emotions19:20 The Great Release: A Path to Financial Freedom

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09:07 EFT in Practice: Personal Experiences

12:12 Understanding the Science Behind EFT

15:13 Demonstrating EFT Tapping Techniques

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27:13 Transitioning to a New Reality

35:05 The Power of Binaural Beats

40:40 The Importance of Breath Awareness

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00:00 The Emotional Body and Money

01:03 Understanding Somatic Patterns in Money

01:37 Why Logical Advice Isn't Enough

02:31 Research on Emotional Mapping in the Body

05:56 Financial Grief and Its Impact

12:13 Fear as a Major Money Emotion

14:32 Shame and Its Silent Power

18:42 Resentment and Systemic Money Beliefs

22:31 Tools for Emotional Release and Change

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00:00 Understanding Financial Patterns and Emotions

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