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Jillian Turecki: 3 Biggest Dating Mistakes You’re Making (Stop Chasing Love That’s Not For You)


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What do you think is the biggest dating mistake people make?

Have you ever chased someone who wasn’t right for you?

In today’s episode, Jay welcomes relationship coach, teacher, and podcast host Jillian Turecki to break down the biggest dating mistakes people make. They dive into why relying too much on dating apps can lead to burnout, how the fear of rejection holds you back, and why being single is often better than staying in the wrong relationship.

Jillian unpacks why we’re drawn to people who don’t want us while ignoring those who do. She explains how past relationship patterns, toxic dynamics, and a false sense of intimacy create cycles that keep us stuck. They also explore the fine line between honesty and oversharing, how to repair trust after dishonesty, and self-reflection exercises to heal after a breakup.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

The 3 biggest dating mistakes and how to fix them.

Why relying on dating apps alone can hurt your love life.

How the fear of rejection and loneliness affect attraction.

Why do we chase people who ignore us?

When honesty becomes oversharing in relationships.

How to repair trust and reflect after a breakup.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in dating or struggled with attraction patterns, this episode will help you break unhealthy cycles and make better choices in love.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty.

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What We Discuss: 

00:00 Intro 

02:03 Dating: 3 Biggest Mistakes

05:39 The Fear Of Rejection 

09:47 Choice In Love

13:36 The Fear Of Being Alone

14:41 The Attraction Paradox

21:37 It All Begins With You

32:00 Find Other Things Attractive

42:48 Telling The Truth Vs Being Too Honest

46:45 Repair Not Being Truthful In A Relationship

56:30 Choice In Love 2

01:01:10 It's All In Your Head

01:04:52 Reflect With Your Partner

01:09:14 Self Reflection Exercises After A Breakup

01:12:13 Jillian on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Jillian Turecki | It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life

Jillian Turecki | Linkedin

Jillian Turecki | Website

Jillian Turecki | YouTube

Jillian Turecki | Instagram

Jillian Turecki | Facebook

Jillian Turecki | Tiktok

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