Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

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Maren and Angela are college friends, turned public school teachers, turned homeschooling mamas, turned podcast hosts. They are on today talking about how to follow our children’s lead when it comes to learning and growing. Their show, Homeschool Unrefined, is a place where they keep homeschool simple, real and fun.

What you will hear in during the show:

• College friends turned podcast co-hosts
• Public school teachers that became homeschooling mamas
• Sensed the need for encouragement and empowerment amongst homeschool parents
• SM gives a false impression for what homeschool looks like
• Inspired to show the “real” homeschool experience
• Deciding to homeschool, desire for more connection and less schedule
• Freedom to travel
• Maren and Angela want parents to feel good about what they are already doing
• Easy to look at what others are doing then seeing deficit in what you are doing
• Your kids need you as a parent, and all of your particular skills
• Vastness of homeschooling
• Biggest challenges in the community: parents lacking confidence, letting go of perfectionism
• Being conscious about what your main goal is
• Letting your children take the lead – focus on connection, follow their interest
• Paradigm shift - kids are going to learn when they are ready
• Early entry into extra-curricular activities
• Simplicity Parenting John Paine
• Supporting kids through their changes of heart
• It is a skill to know when to walk away – Angela’s roller blading story
• The process of navigating waning interest is rich
• Casey and Rowan’s guitar lesson story, letting go of the dream
• Stay connected, no matter your schooling decisions – make it authentically yours

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

From Angela - “Having the courage to trust yourself and yoru child. You know your child and they are going to learn the most e when they feel connected to you. It takes a cot of courage to let go of all the noise around you and be able to trust you.”

From Maren - “Being confident in who you are – that takes work, takes work to understand and realize who I am is good. That’s the courageous parent – the joyful part is finding joy in the processes of everything. This is a process, it isn’t perfect – if you can find joy in that you will find joy in so many things.”

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Todays Content

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Today is a solo show – thank you for tuning in this week!  Sit back and take in the thoughts and ideas that are currently showing up for me and in our community.

A Free Spirit Life

A new show hosted by Shannon Kinney-Duh.   Find out more at http://www.afreespiritlife.com/

or search for A Free Spirit Life on iTunes or wherever you get your podcast.

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Todays Content

• Together Live event with Glennon Doyle and friends
• Belonging and significance as an underlying principle of PD
• Humans are great perceivers, not great interpreters
• Growing relationship while guiding them to learn from mistakes is what Positive Parenting is all about
• Shopping cart analogy
• My child is going to learn what they need through mistakes and experiences
• Our conditioning gets in our way when we choose to parent this way
• Fear shows up – controlling and rigid, what is the right thing to do?
• The space between authoritarian and permissive styles
• Brene Brown – check her out Braving the Wilderness
• True belonging is something inside of us, requires trust
• Conscious parenting requires us to trust our children, their foundation and relationship
• Our declaration of using PD can make others uncomfortable
• My vision is to have confident, capable kids who can navigate the world with kindness and assertive – interruptions to the ugly in the world
• You have to be who you are
• So easy as the parent to get up in their (our children’s) grill
• Children get to DESIGN themselves
• Taking a look at our own modeling, self acceptance, recognizing fear
• My children can only hear their soul’s voice is to release my fear and trust
• What are your thoughts?? Share in the Live and Love with Joyful Courage FB Group
• GIVEAWAY!! Win a copy of Love Warrior by writing a review of the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes

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Meet Alison Smith, mother to two adorable kids, proud wife, former elementary school teacher and now teacher coach, advocate and revolutionary in win/win parenting. Like many of us Alison had visions of being the best, doing the best and really being that one adult that impacted her students lives powerfully. As a self identified recovering perfectionist, Alison entered the teaching world and become a mother. It did not take long to identify that something in the work with children had to change. Fueled by her passion and her journey, Aliso identified a need for teachers to feel supported in their work. In her coaching, teachers are inspired and supported to be the most authentic, joyful and wholehearted teacher they can be.

IN THIS EPISODE:

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 Change the World in A Generation (video)

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Meet Alison Smith, mother to two adorable kids, proud wife, former elementary school teacher  and now teacher coach, advocate and revolutionary in win/win parenting.  Like many of us Alison had visions of being the best, doing the best and really being that one adult that impacted her students lives powerfully.  As a self identified recovering perfectionist, Alison entered the teaching world and become a mother. It did not take long to identify that something in the work with children had to change. Fueled by her passion and her journey, Aliso identified a need for teachers to feel supported in their work.  In her coaching, teachers are inspired and supported to be the most authentic, joyful and wholehearted teacher they can be.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• Alison shares Bonnie Harris’ iceberg analogy and how it guides parents to identify the underlying root of a child’s behavior.
• Like a medical issue, we often treat the symptom until the symptoms persist then we are forced to find the root cause.
• Realizing that the child’s behavior that triggers us is the root cause of our reaction and inability to connect and show up best for the child.
• Only when we dig into our roots and what is underneath our icebergs can we better guide our children through their own experiences.
• Triggers can cause us to panic and ‘future trip’ into fear about our child’s behavior, enabling us into unhelpful methods.
• Using our curiosity to dig to the root - is my child hungry, tired, overstimulated, cold, hot, uncomfortable, lonely?.
• Once we identify our triggers we can move into the practice of showing up the way our kids need us to.  We chose connection and enforcement that they matter.
• Often we misjudge our kids motivation and intention leading to disconnection and an increase in the child’s mischief.
• Once a parent gets it and truly understands the process begins within the parent first then the practice strengthens and the child, family and parent begin to thrive.
• There is no one perfect general response to situations with your child.  
• Practicing prevention, in-the-moment and then repair strategies alleviate and get to the root of the issue.
• An open conversation on how parenting is shifting from authoritarian to permissive.  Why parents today need something to change and are willing to find the courage to revolutionize how the adult/child relationship evolves.

 Where to find Alison:

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 Change the World in A Generation (video)

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

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Registration remains open for my Bellingham, Seattle, Portland AND BOISE events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

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Parenting from within takes practice practice practice. What are the significant tools we need to really delve within? Inside of us exists what we need to connect to the way we want to parent. Using these tools at our disposal will allow us to open up, connect, reset and navigate the challenges that come with development. Just like we are in constant practice it’s key to continue the conversation! Our children are not the only humans in development.

 What you will hear

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In Her Voice, By Kelly Covers

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Parenting from within takes practice practice practice. What are the significant tools we need to really delve within? Inside of us exists what we need to connect to the way we want to parent.  Using these tools at our disposal will allow us to open up, connect, reset and navigate the challenges that come with development. Just like we are in constant practice it’s key to continue the conversation! Our children are not the only humans in development.

 What you will hear

• The emotional journey of choosing Positive Parenting
• Is your inner voice helping or hindering your practice
• Our old stories can create blocks when we practice PD
• What shows up when our children touch on those old stories (triggers)
• How we talk to ourselves when it seems everyone around us has it together
• Where do we chose to sit when we are in anger, resentment and “stuckness”
• Why are you choosing PD and/or Conscious Parenting?
• What are the themes that drive us to want to parent this way?
• What themes to we use to keep us on a pendulum
• Once we choose into the practice we can create habits that navigate through these themes and stories
• Awareness is the first step to helping us acknowledge the triggers so we can create a connection into this parenting journey
• This is a collective journey
• Mindfulness with ground us into the practice and what we need
• Using mindfulness will bring you into your biggest tool- your body, senses, feelings and emotions
• Listening to your body is accepting the messages and signals you are sending to your conscious
• What do you notice in challenging situations?
• Where do your signals sit? Belly? Shoulders? Chest?
• Follow the wisdom your body is sending.
• Fears cloud our vision and takes us into the “what ifs”
• Getting curious allows us to approach our children without getting stuck in the fog
• How to use the neutrality of your body to shift into a better experience
• Shifting can open us up the possibility that we are the best parent for our kids and we can make repairs

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Podcast Highlight:

In Her Voice, By Kelly Covers

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle, Portland AND BOISE events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

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Meredith Masony is on the podcast today!! She blogs at That’s Inappropriate and loves to share her stories about, life, marriage, motherhood, and her quest to be the best person she can be. Meredith has three kids ages 10, 7, 5. Her motto is “I’ll say it, so you don’t have to.” Life is messy, and it’s OK to talk about it. She invites all parents to join her on her search for sanity and hopefully you can have a few laughs along the way.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Where to find Meredith:

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Meredith Masony is on the podcast today!!  She blogs at That’s Inappropriate and loves to share her stories about, life, marriage, motherhood, and her quest to be the best person she can be. Meredith has three kids ages 10, 7, 5. Her motto is “I’ll say it, so you don’t have to.” Life is messy, and it’s OK to talk about it. She invites all parents to join her on her search for sanity and hopefully you can have a few laughs along the way.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• The parenting struggle is real
• Meredith opens up about the first few years with little ones
• Feeling stuck, alone and eventually facing a difficult life event moved her to speak out
• We are not alone, we all feel lost at some point
• Sharing the hard parts of the journey is the first step in thriving though it
• You deserve more than to survive
• Parents deserve to thrive
• Creating a like-experiencing community can support us through even the most mundane events, potty training anyone?
• Humor is key! Sometimes the truth and humor are all you need to feel connected
• How to handle overnight success and sticking with your purpose
• The importance of modeling purpose
• Why having our own goals outside of our kids is important
• Balance is tough
• Letting go of ‘mom-guilt’

Where to find Meredith:

Website l Facebook I Instagram l Twitter l You Tube

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle, Portland AND BOISE events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

:::::

Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

Skills, skills skills! Mama Tanya shares with our community an incredible example of how meeting your child where they are at can shift the outcome of your experience. It is easy for us as parents to become presumptive about

misguided behavior

 Remember how curiosity is key? By becoming curious with our kids, we are able to recognize the skills they still need to develop, as well as see the reasons for certain choices,

which are not always what they seem.

Mama Tanya shares:

“Sorry for the long post but I need some advice. “ school, and they gave him homework to do over the weekend. He said he didn't think it was fair to have homework on the weekends (which I agree), but on Saturday he set his homework on fire! Took the lighter when no one was watching, went outside like he was going to go play, and set it on fire burning half the page and dunking it in the pool.

When I found the half burned sheet of paper in the pool, I kept my cool but was obviously shocked that he would react that way to homework. I let him know that I thought it was a poor decision to 1. light something on fire (safety!) and 2. refuse to do his homework in such a permanent way. Internally I felt helpless and frantic to solve the problem, externally I let him know that I get it, homework sucks, and I reminded him that he could ask for help.

I asked him what made him set it on fire, was he feeling overwhelmed? Or angry? Or both? He was visibly upset both about being caught and about homework so I didn't preach or press the issue until later that day. When he was calm I talked to him about how sometimes we have to do things we don't like (like washing dishes) but we can learn to do it anyway, it doesn't have to be perfect, and we can ask for help.

I also explained that between two extremes (setting homework on fire and staying up till midnight doing homework- neither which are healthy) he could find a happy medium. He said he had not done his best and that he would try to do his best this week. - I felt like it was handled positively all in all.

But, when he told his father and co-parent (who lives elsewhere) over the phone, his dad immediately started saying that he wasn't going to send him something previously promised, that he would take his computer and phone away if he ever did it again, and went into punishment mode.

So, what would you do? I thought about saying he couldn't do his electronic time until he completed his homework. Or I would give him extra electronic time every time he completed his homework. But I am super conflicted. I feel like homework issues should be dealt with by the teacher. Natural consequences. Of course I want to help the teacher, but not sure how...”

Bullet Point:

Quotes:

14:52 “Curiosity really allows us to move past assumptions and get into our child’s world”.

15:07 “Curiosity requires us to let go of the idea that we know all the answers and what it is that our kids need”.

Links mentioned in the show:

Podcast Episode 75 – Marcilie Boyle

Podcast Episode 100 – Dr. Tina Payne Bryson

Dan Siegel's Brain Video

Casey's Teaches Kids about the Brain

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