Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

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Kate Orson is a Hand in Hand parenting instructor, and author of Tears Heal: How To Listen To Children is on the podcast today! Originally from the UK she now lives in Basel, Switzerland, with her husband, author Toni Davidson, and their four year old daughter Ruby.

You can find her work in parenting magazines including The Green Parent, Juno and Smallish.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• An introduction to Hand in Hand Parenting
• Children’s natural healing abilities
• Helping to attune to a child in a calm manner
• The benefits of crying
• Need for cortisol to be released from a stressful event
• It’s crucial children have safe space to release stress
• How to find ways to connect, special time
• Learn to listen to your children’s emotions
• Signs to look for in distressed children
• Getting out of our need to “fix it” or “stop it” response
• Children will release on their own terms
• Be available and take an interest in them

Quotes:

“I think our entire culture has this mental block when it comes to crying”.

“I came across this different way of listening to the emotions. It’s reframing the way we view tears. It’s about listening and allowing the feelings”.

“Children need safety to let go of feelings”.

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“I would say parenting is really really hard work. Sometimes we make mistakes and it may seem really hard to get up the next day and embrace it as a fresh day.  We should have the Joyful Courage to embrace the challenges of parenting”.

Where to find Kate:

website I Facebook I Twitter

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Coaching with Casey

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Casey is solo!

One of the most effective and accessible tools in Positive Discipline, which fully connects our kids to significance and belonging, is the offer and the counter-offer. Casey and her very special guest, Melany, discuss the best way to use offers and counter-offers.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·     My eight year old niece chimes in on why having the option to counter offer helps her feel happy ·     Imagine aligning your vision of boundaries and expectations with that of your child’s ·     Building life long skills in processing, communicating and self confidence ·     An effective tool that helps build feelings of belonging and significance ·     What are non-negotiables vs.negotiables ·     How opening up the opportunity for your child to have a voice will help them ease into non-negotiables with healthy cooperation

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Casey is solo!

One of the most effective and accessible tools in Positive Discipline, which fully connects our kids to significance and belonging, is the offer and the counter-offer.  Casey and her very special guest, Melany, discuss the best way to use offers and counter-offers.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·      My eight year old niece chimes in on why having the option to counter offer helps her feel happy
·      Imagine aligning your vision of boundaries and expectations with that of your child’s
·      Building life long skills in processing, communicating and self confidence
·      An effective tool that helps build feelings of belonging and significance
·      What are non-negotiables vs.negotiables
·      How opening up the opportunity for your child to have a voice will help them ease into non-negotiables with healthy cooperation

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

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Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is the co-author (with Dan Siegel) of two New York Times bestsellers: The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline. She is the Executive Director of the Center for Connection in Pasadena, CA and a pediatric and adolescent psychotherapist. She keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for parents, educators, and clinicians all over the world. Dr. Bryson earned her Ph.D. from the University of Southern California, where her research explored attachment science, childrearing theory, and the emerging field of interpersonal neurobiology. You can learn more about her at TinaBryson.com, where you can subscribe to her blog and read her articles about kids and parenting.

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What you will hear in this episode:

Where to find Dr. Tina Bryson:

tinabryson.com – infinite resources to put into practice! Facebook l Twitter

What to watch for:

New books by Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson The YES Brain - January 2018 Showing Up – TBD 

Info from the Show:Lantern CampsKristin Neff, of self-compassion.orgCamp Chippewa http://campchippewa.com/

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Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is the co-author (with Dan Siegel) of two New York Times bestsellers:  The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline.  She is the Executive Director of the Center for Connection in Pasadena, CA and a pediatric and adolescent psychotherapist.  She keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for parents, educators, and clinicians all over the world.  Dr. Bryson earned her Ph.D. from the University of Southern California, where her research explored attachment science, childrearing theory, and the emerging field of interpersonal neurobiology.  You can learn more about her at TinaBryson.com, where you can subscribe to her blog and read her articles about kids and parenting.

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What you will hear in this episode:

• How Dr. Dan Siegal and Tina collaborated on THE WHOLE-BRAINED CHILD
• How science can help guide parents in really profound ways
• Programs, communities and in which Dr. Bryson’s work is taught
• The importance of HOW are parent shows up to the nervous system of a developing child
• How getting CURIOUS with your child creates gateways into building important life skills and self regulation
• How making ASSUMPTIONS delays or stops tool building; ie, taking behavior personal, over explaining behavior, making character assumptions, if they did it once they should be able to consistently complete task/request
• Paying attention to a developing nervous system
• If the nervous system is not regulated the child cannot have choice over behavior
• How to influence the nervous system in both self and child
• Identification of Dr. Bryson and Dr. Siegals emotional “ZONES”; Red Zone, Blue Zone, Green Zone
• The Frontal Cortex is not developed yet
• Children do not have the architecture to control “reptilian brain” / “fight or flight” in red or blue zones – difficulty paying attention, learning, regulating
• Tools/techniques to get in “green zone” – regulated, calm, empathetic, attune
• Behavior is communicating child’s lack of skills
• When to seek out professional help
• Self regulation – be gentle and kind with ourselves (reference Kristin Neff, of self-compassion.org)
• New techniques require time and PRACTICE
• Calming strategy when child is disregulated- get BELOW eye level and use soothing words including “I’m right here with you”
• Brain associates with physical state – floppy noodle technique
• Body shift can help shift emotions
• How discipline is teaching
• We need to give children tools not take them away
• Thoughts on consequences
• Key actions of soothing, connection, problem-solving, playfulness and being pro-active build a “whole-brained” child
• How to recognize our own “zones” and practice getting/staying into “green zone”

What does Joyful Courage mean to me?

“Joyful Courage to me means having the courage to reflect on our own areas of growth and also having the courage to trust development to unfold. Trusting that we are doing a good enough job.”

Where to find Dr. Tina Bryson:

tinabryson.com – infinite resources to put into practice!
Facebook l Twitter

What to watch for:

New books by Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson
The YES Brain -  January 2018
Showing Up – TBD 

Info from the Show:

Lantern Camps
Kristin Neff, of self-compassion.org
Camp Chippewa  http://campchippewa.com/

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

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Welcome back to the show!

Let me share my own story from the trenches… You aren’t the only one who has kids who act like you are ruining their lives when you ask them to help our around the house… AND, it is a beautiful thing when your kids turn it around and own their behavior, right? It is a good thing, yes, but I am getting curious about if I am inadvertently raising a people pleaser….?? 

A question from the community

Mama Denise shares “Literally losing my mind on first day of summer vacation over iPads. I don't have an ounce of energy for a single tool. I'm the worst mom ever, according to my daughter (5y 10mos). And my 7 1/2 yo son "needs this mower" on a farm simulator game. Literally feel like pitching these machines in the dumpster. Thank you for listening.”

These are the struggles where we can release most of the load and pull our kids into co-creation. Casey takes Denise’s familiar scenario and leads us through the practice of intention, presence and solution.

Resources:

Routine Handout Agreement Handout

Quotes:

“There are ways of being that support us in the journey.”

“Everything is an opportunity to grow, to be better, and to be curious.”

“Underneath all of the behavior all of the challenges and mischief that shows up is the underlying need for belonging, significance and influence. Our children only have so many years of life to filter and make sense of it.”

“In the co-creation of routines and agreements the underlying message is that the child’s voice matters.”

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Welcome back to the show!

Let me share my own story from the trenches… You aren’t the only one who has kids who act like you are ruining their lives when you ask them to help our around the house…  AND, it is a beautiful thing when your kids turn it around and own their behavior, right? It is a good thing, yes, but I am getting curious about if I am inadvertently raising a people pleaser….?? 

A question from the community

Mama Denise shares “Literally losing my mind on first day of summer vacation over iPads. I don't have an ounce of energy for a single tool. I'm the worst mom ever, according to my daughter (5y 10mos). And my 7 1/2 yo son "needs this mower" on a farm simulator game. Literally feel like pitching these machines in the dumpster. Thank you for listening.”

These are the struggles where we can release most of the load and pull our kids into co-creation. Casey takes Denise’s familiar scenario and leads us through the practice of intention, presence and solution.

• Showing up intentionally, rather than reactively
• Creating intention and applying it to our lens and presence
• Noticing the ease of intention when the ride is smooth and the rockiness when things fall apart
• Creating routines that help kids know what is happening and allowing them to have influence
• Making agreements to help kids create boundaries
• Identifying needs vs. privileges. ex. Screen time – it is a privilege
• Privilege comes after contributions
• Difference between contribution vs. chores
• A privilege differs from a reward
• It’s not about “earning”, it’s about “management”
• Guiding kids to have a voice in solutions when they feel an agreement or routine is not working
• Seeing the tip of the iceberg and KNOW that beneath the surface is a request for boundaries
• Allowing children a voice means we hold them as contributors to the cause
• Children are more likely to follow through when they have a voice in the creation of the agreement
• Introducing offer and counter offer tool – teaches parent how to let go of agenda, control and rigidity
• Sharing power when stakes are low

Resources:

Routine Handout
Agreement Handout

Quotes:

“There are ways of being that support us in the journey.”

“Everything is an opportunity to grow, to be better, and to be curious.”

“Underneath all of the behavior all of the challenges and mischief that shows up is the underlying need for belonging, significance and influence.  Our children only have so many years of life to filter and make sense of it.”

“In the co-creation of routines and agreements the underlying message is that the child’s voice matters.”

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Today you heard me talk about how helpful Thieves Essential Oil was in keeping my family healthy.  If you are interested in finding out more about Young Living Essential Oils, feel free to email me at [email protected] OR go to http://bit.ly/caseyyloils - I am happy to support you!

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

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Meet Kerry Foreman, psychotherapist, mother, wife and mindfulness guide. Kerry’s practice and blog, Grounded, settles around mindfulness awareness and the practice to live a life you’ll truly love. After a tough childhood, Kerry recognized that the tools she had to cope with life were unhealthy. Life her threw her some tough lessons, but by surrounding herself with healthy people she began to open the gifts of healthy practices, which began her healing journey. One by one she was able to acknowledge the unhelpful coping mechanisms and could then change and design how she wanted to live. Kerry lives in Colorado with her family. Her blog, Grounded, is a place for those who find strength in uplifting words and real, raw stories. It’s for those who love the idea of Mindfulness but maybe have no idea what that even looks like in real life. Kerry’s passion is to help people learn to live with a clearer lens.

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What you’ll hear in this episode:

What does Joyful Courage mean to me?

“Joyful Courage is finding the joy in being brave enough to parent differently. Finding a new path in order to allow our kids to be who they were meant to be.”

Where to find Kerry:

YouTube l Facebook l Twitter l BLOG

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Meet Kerry Foreman, psychotherapist, mother, wife and mindfulness guide. Kerry’s practice and blog, Grounded, settles around mindfulness awareness and the practice to live a life you’ll truly love.  After a tough childhood, Kerry recognized that the tools she had to cope with life were unhealthy. Life her threw her some tough lessons, but by surrounding herself with healthy people she began to open the gifts of healthy practices, which began her healing journey. One by one she was able to acknowledge the unhelpful coping mechanisms and could then change and design how she wanted to live.  Kerry lives in Colorado with her family. Her blog, Grounded, is a place for those who find strength in uplifting words and real, raw stories. It’s for those who love the idea of Mindfulness but maybe have no idea what that even looks like in real life. Kerry’s passion is to help people learn to live with a clearer lens.

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What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Recognition of FOO (Family of Origin) patterns and the call to make changes
• Psychological/verbal/emotional abuse trains us react rather than respond
• Noticing patterns such as shame, guilt and anger – where do they originate?
• Becoming a parent can bring these to the surface. How do we recognize where we need to change?
• Learning to respond instead if react
• Understand and reflect on our own parents’ experience
• Creating change and becoming aware of our own inner state of being
• Mindfulness practice influences the shift into better relationships
• How do we become grounded in order to stay balanced and present in mind no matter what is happening around us?
• Where control plays a role in mindfulness and the contrast in anxiety
• What do we chose to believe – what is the story we play in our minds?
• Self talk of being a victim – recognizing the language
• Expectations of others and how to stay mindful and in control while at the same time releasing what we are not in control of.

What does Joyful Courage mean to me?

“Joyful Courage is finding the joy in being brave enough to parent differently. Finding a new path in order to allow our kids to be who they were meant to be.”

Where to find Kerry:

YouTube l Facebook l Twitter l BLOG

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“Being a part of the Living Joyful Courage Membership Program has encouraged me to continue practicing to be parent and person that I want to be. I choose my experience to situations. There's no easy answer to fix my kids behavior… It is more about how I be with my kids that creates a good experience versus what I do to make them listen to me.

Since starting this practice I feel stronger connection with my kinds, I feel a shift in myself,  and I believe I am the perfect mom for my kids…

Other should consider program because the parenting journey is not easy, and it's an ongoing practice. The support and information Casey provides, with emails, webinars, and coaching calls is so beneficial, and she provides it in a way that is easy to understand and put directly in the practice I have also found there is so much value in a tribe of parents sharing experiences, willing to listen, and offering encouragement and it reminds me that I am not alone on this journey.”

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Casey takes listeners through real scenarios shared by our parenting community. She takes us through the process of connecting before correcting, so that we can create solutions with our kids. She invites listeners to recognize the tools we are using that aren't helpful, and shares how to replace them with tools that help us connect. while also guiding them to work together and find solutions that empower them.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

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