Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

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Hey everybody, welcome to the Joyful Courage Podcast, a place for information and inspiration on the conscious parenting journey. I am Casey O’Roarty, Positive Discipline Trainer, Parent Coach, and honored to be your guide in the work of showing up as your best for yourself and your family.

If you feel as though parenting is one long personal growth and development workshop, you have come to the right place. The conversations you will here on this podcast are all intended to offer you tools for moving forward, for expanding your lens, and for shifting your narrative to one of possibility, connection and empowerment.

You CAN be the parent you want to be. 

We are influencing the world with how we raise our children. When we bring deep listening, acceptance, and courage to our relationships, we are doing our part to evoke it in the world. I am thrilled to partner with you on this path.

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Welcome Mercedes Samudio.  For almost a decade, Mercedes has been working with families  to help them develop healthy communication skills, manage severe emotional issues, develop coping skills to manage behaviors, create dynamic parent-child relationships, and navigate social media & technology as a family.

Throughout the course of her career she has worked with adoptive families, foster families, teen parents, parents navigating the child protective services system, and children living with mental illness.

In 2014, Mercedes began to transition into her private practice where she focuses on parent coaching and guiding families to reducing unwanted behaviors, developing effective parenting strategies, creating healthy communication habits, and designing social media/tech plans for their household.

Content:

• Mercedes talks about her background experience with teen parents
• Supporting parents in being confident in their ever evolving parenting identity
• Where #endparentshaming came from
• Others/media offering mixed judgments – no one changes when they feel shame/unsafe
• Movement to get people to see that even when others are doing things you don’t agree with, how to step into empathy to see where they need support
• People doing the best they can with the tools they have
• Shame as a defense to our own discomfort
• “Raising a human while trying to be authentically human yourself”
• You are bigger than your parent role
• Take time to focus on self and partner as a tool for surrendering to what your child’s current challenge is
• When we focus solely on our child’s mistakes, all we see are their mistakes
• Bring the skills/areas of other parts of our life into the parts that feel a bit shakey
• 10,000 feet view
• We have our own shame conversations….
  • Reframe the expectations you have of yourself
  • Example: how do you deal with things when you are angry?
  • What do I need, what can I do for myself?
  • How can I use my support system to help me?
• The misperception that conscious parenting shouldn’t be hard
• Conscious parenting requires us to be conscious parenting
• 18:30 quote
• People are attached to their shame – the stories feel familiar
• Figure out what your stories are that take you to shame
• People grow and change in space that is free from shame and judgement
• Considering FOO – Family Of Origin
  • Write down why these relationships matter to you
  • Still want connection…
  • Let them know WHY you want to stay connected (be specific)
  • Then, share what it is that you are going to be practicing and invite the family member into supporting you
  • Ask for alignment
• CONNECT BEFORE CORRECT (not just for kids J )
• Set you boundaries to keep YOUR bucket full for YOU family
• Shameproof Parenting by Mercedes
• How to build support with other parents and non parents
• A shame proof village!

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Being able to find joy even in the times when it’s not happening... I’m still showing up.

Where to find Mercedes: 

Website l You Tube

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Content:

What it means to be intentional

Getting hooked

Listening, Acceptance and Courage

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Hey everybody, welcome to the Joyful Courage Podcast, a place for information and inspiration on the conscious parenting journey. I am Casey O’Roarty, Positive Discipline Trainer, Parent Coach, and honored to be your guide in the work of showing up as your best for yourself and your family.

If you feel as though parenting is one long personal growth and development workshop, you have come to the right place. The conversations you will here on this podcast are all intended to offer you tools for moving forward, for expanding your lens, and for shifting your narrative to one of possibility, connection and empowerment.

You CAN be the parent you want to be. 

We are influencing the world with how we raise our children. When we bring deep listening, acceptance, and courage to our relationships, we are doing our part to evoke it in the world. I am thrilled to partner with you on this path.

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Intro Sharing:

• Visioning about supporting all of you!!
• E-League
• The conversations I want to be having on the show… Minding the gap, supporting you ALL in being the parenting you want to be when it is hard to do!
  • If you want to show up different you MUST practice doing the work, leaning in, choosing YES

Content:

What it means to be intentional

• Bringing qualities to OUR body and OUR experience
• Present moment is key
• Awareness is grown through practice 

Getting hooked

• Our kids behavior as bids
• The lob
• Passing on the uncomfortable energy to someone else that can hold it
• Development

Listening, Acceptance and Courage

• Others – what is being said, isn’t being said, body, etc
• Self – get still and listen to our inner voice, NOT THE EGO, but the voice that is deeper
  • What is your current story about yourself and your family?
  • Is it true?
  • Byron Katie – turn it around
  • Is it true
    • Finding evidence
  • Accept that this is where you are at.
    • Noticing urgency/frantic energy
      • Unless there is an emergency, this is not helpful
    • BBB
      • Breath
      • Body
      • Balcony
    • Courage to trust
      • Follow your intuition
      • Let it go/surrender
      • Trust the people in your life
      • Trust the process
      • Trust that the people in your life want to live their best life too
        • Making decisions for ourselves VS against the other person/expectation

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Joyful Courage SHIRTS!!

Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world.

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DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

Get yours now – http://www.joyfulcourage.com/intentioncards 

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 LIVING JOYFUL COURAGE MEMBERSHIP 2018

YES!!. Doors are OPEN for 15% off the price if you are READY to be a yes to the 2018 LJC Membership Program.

On my journey of strengthening my awareness and practicing conscious parenting, LJC is the support and inspiration I NEED to put the knowledge and tools I have to work in real life, every single day. I am deeply grateful for this group of incredible women and for Casey.  - Mama Lauren

Sign up now http://www.joyfulcourage.com/living-jc/

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Guest Intro:

Dr. Robin McEvoy is a developmental neuropsychologist practicing in Denver, Colorado. She evaluates and diagnoses a wide range of learning disabilities and learning needs in children, adolescents and adults. This includes the identification of reading disabilities such as dyslexia. She then works with the family to develop a treatment plan to remediate the weaknesses and accentuate strengths. In addition to her private practice, Dr. McEvoy is an assistant professor at the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center. Dr. McEvoy has authored a children’s book, Buddy: A Story for Dyslexia (illustrated by her daughter). She is the co-author/editor of the recently published book, Child Decoded: Unlocking Complex Issues in Your Child’s Learning, Behavior, and Attention.

Content:

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“Know that you have more experience with your child than anyone else… You know your child the best. Have faith in your child, have faith in yourself.”

Robinmcevoy.com l Childdecoded.com

Blog l FB – Dr. Robin McEvoy

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Guest Intro:

Dr. Robin McEvoy is a developmental neuropsychologist practicing in Denver, Colorado.  She evaluates and diagnoses a wide range of learning disabilities and learning needs in children, adolescents and adults. This includes the identification of reading disabilities such as dyslexia. She then works with the family to develop a treatment plan to remediate the weaknesses and accentuate strengths. In addition to her private practice, Dr. McEvoy is an assistant professor at the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center. Dr. McEvoy has authored a children’s book, Buddy: A Story for Dyslexia  (illustrated by her daughter).  She is the co-author/editor of the recently published book, Child Decoded: Unlocking Complex Issues in Your Child’s Learning, Behavior, and Attention.

Content:

• Child Decoded – inspired by the tough expectations and increase in labeling/diagnoses of academic/social development.
• Using a master checklist as a guide for finding what it is they need
• Checklist is a triage
• Looking under the surface – physical/biomedical limitations
• Diet and gut and neurons
• Parents navigating all the services for their children with complex issues – and feeling as though no one else can “see” their child the way that they can
• Gather evidence with video and photo to share information about your child
• Child Decoded fills that gap for parents to go from “I have worries” to restarting when parents feeling stuck in the treatment/not sure what to do or where to go next
• Modify the environment vs supporting our kids in living in the “real world”
• Paradigm shift – we can be seeing every child in a more holistic way, look at every child as an individual… Mind AND body
• Current lens – we tend to treat at the symptom level with the “quickest” approach (lots of times with meds)
• Sometimes the answer is really simple
• Complimentary/Alternative medicine
• Both/and mindset… so many solutions in both western and eastern medicine
• Putting together the team – who is needed?
• How do you support parents with overwhelm and loneliness as they advocate for their kids…? Find support on the internet/social media – be proactive in seeking out support
• Breathe – complex issues or not, you are in this for the long haul

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“Know that you have more experience with your child than anyone else…  You know your child the best. Have faith in your child, have faith in yourself.”

Robinmcevoy.com l Childdecoded.com

Blog l FB – Dr. Robin McEvoy

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Intro Sharing:

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Content:

Personal Responsibility and Natural Consequences

Coming up next week – talking with Robin Sabbag about raising a teen daughter.

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Dedication to the Conscious Dad who sent in feedback about being excluded.  I am so grateful to know that there are dads out there that are enjoying my content!!  Big thanks to this dad and all dads that are listening to the show.

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Intro Sharing:

• Thank you, listeners!!
• Honored to serve you…
• Mother’s Journey recap – Seattle, Portland, Boise
• Orange County, East Hampton, St. Paul – 2018 Mother’s Journey locations
• Boldly Embody Life – Krista Petty Raimer, Grace, Elevate
• When I am a yes to trusting, surrender and presence is already there
• Visioning for 2018

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Content:

Personal Responsibility and Natural Consequences

• Natural consequences are what happens when we stay out of the way – they occur when we let things unfold
• What do we want most for our kids? What are our desired outcomes for this whole process of parenting?
  • Reference to a poll on my personal FB page
  • Who lets their 14 year old daughter hang out in her room with her boyfriend?
• Two lists activity from Positive Discipline class
• The only place that our kids can develop life skills is inside of experience… and in relationship with a healthy adults supports that as well…
• Their experiences inspire and inform future decisions
• There is a lot learning that we are robbing our children of because we are getting in the way
• Parents internal experience takes over
• Mindfulness matters when we are supporting our kids in developing personal responsibility
• Natural consequences happens when adults don’t get in the way
• This is a dance – boundaries are respectful kids need them, we need them
• Kids need to feel the tension
• Mistakes allow natural consequences – when we let them feel the consequences that show up, that we aren’t IMPOSING there is lots of room to learn
• Example – homework
• Help them to expand their perspective of what THEY want
• Check your assumptions… and check in with your child
• Humans LONG to be listened to, seen
• Kids learn personal responsibility through experiencing having the opportunity to BE personally responsible
• What matters is the relationship – bonded in unconditional love and mutual respect
• Allow the natural consequence the power that they have
• Our kids want to feel connected, as though they matter and that they have influence
• Tools: co-creating routines and agreements, loosen up, ask questions, check your unspoken messaging, family meetings
  • joyfulcourage.com/family-meeting-ecourse
• We all want our kids to grow into cooperative, contributing adult living good lives
• What already exists when they make mistakes is powerful!

Coming up next week – talking with Robin Sabbag about raising a teen daughter.

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DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Intention BRACELETS

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My guest today is Tosha Schore, M.A. Tosha brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and will lift your parenting confidence! She is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems. 

A sought after coach, author and speaker, Tosha is committed to creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. Through her online and in-person offerings, she supports parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly. 

Tosha is a trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting and co-author with the organization's founder, Patty Wipfler, of "Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Challenges." She is also creator of the wildly popular "Parenting Boys Peacefully! A FREE 10-Day Reconnect," and the new online course, "Out With Aggression!" 

You can find Tosha on her website, www.toshaschore.com, and on FB at Tosha Schore, Your Partner In Parenting Boys.

Content:

Where to find Tosha:

www.toshaschore.com

10 day reconnect parenting boys peacefully

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 My guest today is Tosha Schore, M.A. Tosha brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and will lift your parenting confidence! She is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems. 

A sought after coach, author and speaker, Tosha is committed to creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. Through her online and in-person offerings, she supports parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly. 

Tosha is a trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting and co-author with the organization's founder, Patty Wipfler, of "Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Challenges." She is also creator of the wildly popular "Parenting Boys Peacefully! A FREE 10-Day Reconnect," and the new online course, "Out With Aggression!" 

You can find Tosha on her website, www.toshaschore.com, and on FB at Tosha Schore, Your Partner In Parenting Boys.

Content:

• Raising boys in these days of toxic masculinity
• Taking a hard look at the ways that men are conditioned
• Creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time
• The question of how to help our boys grow into emotionally intelligent men who don’t see women as objects is worldwide
• How to help our boys grow up to be peaceful – Huff Post article
• Move beyond the anger and the fear to what we can DO
• Opportunity shows up in raising our boys
  • We need to teach our boys that there are lots of ways to be close that aren’t sexual
  • It’s ok to talk, cuddle, hold hands – lots of ways of being intimate
• Documentary of The Mask You Live In
  • Not giving permission to boys for having intimate friendships with other boys
  • Navigating the jockeying for power among boys
• Redefining what it means to be masculine
• What is being modeled in the homes for our boys?
• Increase our own emotional intelligence and pay attention to how we navigate and model our own upset
• Boys being encouraged to stuff their emotions
• Not comfortable with allowing our boys the time and space to have feelings
• Help them feel comfortable with their full array of emotions – not just anger
• Popular culture isn’t helpful
• Advocate/ Fight for the right of our boys to have feelings
• AND advocate for them to make mistakes and learn from them
• When our boys make mistakes we need to help them
• Talk about music lyrics and porn and do it when they are YOUNG
• Amy Lang – parent educator, parenting through our children’s sexual development
• Start talking to your boys
• Don’t let your discomfort get in the way of letting our boys be their whole selves
• Amy’s short video about having convos about sexual harassment/assault with our kids
• Talking to our kids about standing up to friends who are harassing others
• Seize opportunities for modeling/showing them what it looks like to “do what’s right”
• Story of masculinity inside of supporting a woman on Reddit
• Acknowledging that standing up for what is right is challenging!!
• Teachable moments are when they make mistakes and getting into mischief
• Final thoughts – “hurt people hurt people” – boys and men are hurting and therefore hurting others… when we help them heal from their hurts, we are solving the problem

Where to find Tosha:

www.toshaschore.com

10 day reconnect parenting boys peacefully

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